This is very disturbing to me, but I have been wondering about this for a while. I feel like most black people only love conscious Pro-Black people after they have died or gone to prison. And I feel like that because of how I see most black people treating conscious black people.
I hear lots of black people talking about how much they love Huey from The Boondocks and wished there were more people like him in the world or praise the likes of people like Marcus Garvey and Malcolm X. But when it’s our people living today that talk about conscious Pro-Black stuff, so many of our people dismiss them, calling them “hotep” or some other name they come up with. And if Huey from The Boondocks actually existed, NO ONE would listen to him! Just like it’s depicted in the cartoon!
I often find myself wondering how us black people are still acting so lost when we had so many people fighting for us and teaching us how to empower ourselves throughout history. I now believe this is why. Our people don’t listen to these people for real. If our people actually did listen, we wouldn’t be complaining about as much things as we do now.
So many people throughout history have told us the real deal about this country and how we need to unify, love ourselves, stop begging white people for everything and start doing things for ourselves if we want to really free ourselves from white supremacy. But from the looks of our people today, we haven’t applied what they taught us very well.
I’ve seen lots of our people talk about conscious people who are still alive that say these things and people dismiss them as being “agents” because they’re not dead or in prison. I’ve literally heard people say that. It seems like our people are so traumatized by our leaders getting murdered and imprisoned that we don’t even consider anyone a leader unless they have been murdered or imprisoned.
Just because someone hasn’t been murdered or imprisoned when they’re speaking on the real doesn’t always mean that they aren’t telling the truth. We still need to listen. Maybe the reason why they haven’t been murdered or imprisoned is because most people aren’t listening to them. The Powers That Be don’t see them as a threat because they see how so many people are dismissing them or simply don’t know about them at all.
Our people only love and praise these people after they have died, gone to prison, or are fictional. And then after that, we STILL don’t listen to them. It’s so sad. That’s exactly what The Powers That Be want. They want us to love the conscious people who are dead, in prison or fictional because they aren’t/no longer a threat. If we listen to the ones who are real, free, and alive, that would be threatening and might actually make real change.
For years, I’ve seen men on social media talk about how women hate accountability. But judging by what a lot of men do, I see they hate accountability, too. You would think that by the way they pressure women about accountability, they would have no problem with accountability themselves. But that’s obviously and certainly not the case.
Whenever I see women talk about how men cheat on them or abuse them, there’s always men underneath there saying, “That’s just the men y’all deal with!” Instead of calling out these abusive, cheating men. Instead of NOT cheating and NOT abusing women, they tell women that it’s their fault for “choosing the wrong men”.
Men’s responses under posts where women are talking about sexual harassment and rape disgust me, too. Instead of listening to the message women are giving, they’ll act like they don’t know what counts as rape, sexual harassment or consent. Instead of NOT raping and sexually harassing women, they will tell women to “watch what they wear” or “watch how they act around men”.
I’ve even heard men say if women “armed themselves more” or learned some type of self defense, they wouldn’t get raped or sexually harassed. So, instead of NOT raping women and telling other men not to do it, they would rather tell women to be more dangerous, violent, and threatening. And what about little girls that get raped by grown men? Because that’s definitely happening all over the world! Men don’t just rape and sexually harass grown women. They get little girls, too. Are little girls supposed to have guns or know how to defend herself against a grown man?
I’ve been hearing men complain about women putting them on child support since I was a little girl. But if they took care of their children instead of impregnating multiple women and trying to run out on them, they wouldn’t have that problem. If they weren’t so quick to sleep with women without protection, they wouldn’t have that problem. Sometimes, I hear some men say that they do want to be in their child’s lives, but it’s the woman who keeps them away and put them on child support anyway for the money. That’s a fair argument. But when women say men do bad things to them, men tell them to “choose better men”. How come this doesn’t apply to them? How come they can’t choose better women? If they chose better women, they wouldn’t have that problem. …But they don’t want to hear that!
I see YouTubers like Derrick Jaxn and celebrities like Steve Harvey telling women what to look for in a man, how to attract a man, which men to avoid, and this, that, and the other. But none of these men are telling other men to change how they treat women. They’re always talking to women and telling women what to do. Why is that?
And if you ask me, I’m starting to think these types of men who are always telling women which men to avoid are the exact men women should avoid. I think a lot of these men are warning women about themselves when they do that, pretending that they’re talking about other men. And I think a lot of them don’t even realize that they are warning women about themselves when they do that because I think it’s something in their subconscious that’s doing that for them.
Men talk like they hate single moms soooo much on social media. They say that single moms ruin kids lives, but none of them talk about how they create single moms. If single moms are so bad, why do men keep creating them? A woman never gets pregnant by herself. Men who impregnate women and leave them are the ones creating single moms. They’re literally complaining about their own problem that THEY create, but try to blame women for it, like it’s just the woman’s fault. Stop impregnating women you don’t want kids with. ….But they don’t want to hear that!
It sounds to me that men hate accountability just as much as they claim women hate accountability, especially when it comes to disrespecting and abusing women. They always have an excuse for why they do things that they aren’t supposed to. Men hating accountability is also why they put the blame on women for so many things that they do. This is why they want women to “choose better men” instead of BEING BETTER MEN.
I believe this is why they pressure women with accountability so much anyway. Men hate accountability so much, that they want women to be more accountable for their actions than men are for theirs, so they won’t have to be accountable for theirs. If women are more accountable than them, they don’t have to worry about being accountable for what they do—that’s what I feel like men are saying when they talk so much about accountability to women.
I believe this society was built and is run by people who hate accountability, particularly men and that’s why so many people in this society hate it. So if you ask me, I think women hate accountability for their actions and so do men. Men are NOT more accountable for their own actions than women, no matter what they say!
For a while, I’ve been thinking about some of the things black people say about themselves. A fellow reader of mine brought this to my attention as well. I’ve noticed that a lot of times, black people like to say things such as:
“Black people are God’s chosen children.”
“Black people are Gods.”
“Black people are kings and queens.”
“Black people are the original and first human beings on this planet.”
“Black people have melanin and that makes us powerful, valuable, and special.”
“Black people are magic” or “Black Girl Magic”.
Now, I will compare this to the things I’ve heard many black people say about white people:
“White people came from caves in the Caucasus mountains.”
“Black people taught white people how to bathe.”
“White people spent centuries calling black people monkeys, but they’re the ones with the rhesus monkey DNA.”
“White people have Neanderthal DNA.”
“White people force superiority over other races because they’re the ones who are inferior.”
“White people sleep with animals.”
One of the issues I have with black people saying these things is because if they really believe these things, why don’t they act like it? They say all these things about themselves and white people only to beg them for equality. If you’re Gods, why would you want to be equal to anyone or anything else? Why are you begging to be “equal” to a people you JUST said came from caves and you taught them to bathe?
The other issue is, and this is what my reader said, is that saying these things keeps our people living in a fantasy land, and I believe saying these things blinds them from what they’re really going through collectively. Since black people say we’re Gods and kings and queens, how is it working out for us? How is our melanin saving us? How is being God’s chosen people helping us? I think saying all these things, especially if we don’t act like we truly believe it, makes us walk around with over inflated egos and a huge chip on our shoulders because all I hear is black people brag about themselves after saying it.
Black people say all these things, then turn around and have to beg white people for jobs and representation in their media. They beg white people to put black characters in their cartoons. They beg white people to make black dolls in their doll companies. You Gods, as you claim, can’t do that yourselves? Why do you need anyone else to do that for you? They say all these things, then have to beg white people to simply see that we “matter” with these Black Lives Matter protests. Gods and kings and queens need to beg someone else to see that they “matter” just as much as anyone else? Gods have to beg a people they claim came from caves that they matter?
Black people are always begging white people to give them more Grammys, Oscars, and whatever other award they created. Gods need validation from a people they claim came from caves? Gods can’t make their own awards and give them to their people themselves?
They sit online and say anybody can be and claim to be black. How, when they claim they’re God’s chosen people? According to them, God chose a specific people. God chose THEM! If that’s the case, it’s HIGHLY insulting and stupid to say anybody can be and claim to be them. And the only time they care about how stupid that statement sounds is when they’re being replaced and erased by other people that aren’t them. They say all these things about themselves and white people, then turn around and talk like white people are better to date and marry than their own people. They say all these things while we have to live under a white owned and created government. Why don’t black people have their own government if they believe all these things?
On the other side, look at how so many black people treat themselves and each other. If black people believed they were all these kings, queens, and Gods, then why do so many black people kill each other? Why are so many black fathers walking away from their children and leaving their women to raise them on their own? Why do so many black children get abused by their parents? Why are so many black men raping their women? Why are so many black people hooked on drugs and alcohol? Why are so many black people living in poverty? Why are there so many missing black children? Why can’t we stop our children from going missing?
Why do so many black people bleach their skin? I thought they said melanin was powerful. If it’s so powerful, why are so many of them trying to erase it? Why do so many of them make fun of and look down on dark skinned people? If melanin is powerful, why aren’t the darkest people amongst us celebrated by black people instead of the lightest people amongst us? Why do so many of them feel the need to bleach their skin like that and straighten their hair to fit in with the rest of the world if they are the original people of the earth? Why do they feel the need to look like people that aren’t?
Every time black people are criticized for something, they say, “White people do it, too.” But if they claim to be Gods or God’s chosen people and they claim that white people came from caves, that’s pretty much the point. They aren’t supposed to be doing ANYTHING that white people do, if that’s the case. Doing any of those things is bad when anybody does it, but if black people claim they’re Gods or God’s chosen people and they do any of these things, it’s WAY WORST!
Black people are also always complaining about how other races of people appropriate their culture and benefit off of it in ways that they can’t themselves. If black people are all these kings, queens, and Gods, why don’t they have the power to stop them? Black people are always complaining about police officers beating and killing unarmed black people. Why don’t we have the power to stop them? Why is it happening at all? If black people are Gods, kings, and queens, how did they allow people who they claim came from caves and haven’t been on this planet as long as them have so much power over them? How did we allow them to take our power?
I believe black people only say these things because they collectively have severe low self esteem, and like I’ve said several times on my blog, and I will most likely be saying it lots more, that low self esteem is due to a centuries long battle with slavery and oppression. And like I said earlier, saying these things keeps our people living in a fantasy. We say these things because we want to feel better about ourselves and what we’re going through. If we tell ourselves we’re Gods, kings, and queens, we can live in a world where we’re these powerful and special beings. But in real life, many of our people are going through hell. If black people actually believed these things they say about themselves and white people, NONE of the things our people are going through would be going on at all and they definitely wouldn’t be kissing up to and begging white people the way they do.
Get out of the fantasy world! Black people are not Gods, God’s chosen people, kings, or queens. They are REGULAR HUMAN BEINGS!
The ongoing trend on the internet is black people calling racist white women “Karen”. Every time a story of a white woman caught on video harassing a black person goes viral, black people call them that.
A white woman will call the police on a black child just for selling water. Black people will go: “😂😂😂😂 Karen!”
A white woman will harass a black man or woman trying to enter THEIR OWN HOME. Black people will go: “😂😂😂😂 Karen!”
A white woman will harass a black man or woman in a store for something that’s completely not her business. Black people will go: “😂😂😂😂 Karen!”
The huge problem I have with black people calling these white women “Karen” and laughing and making memes whenever they harass a black person is, not only does it seem like we’re not taking what they’re doing seriously enough, we’re also letting them off too easily.
Also, white people for centuries have been calling our people the worst names they can think of, mainly “niggers”. But we think calling them “Karen” is cute and funny and will hurt them (knowing white people, they will act like being called Karen hurts them just so they can pretend to be victims and absolve themselves from taking accountability for their racism). Why are we calling them anything except what they are? RACIST!
I feel like if a white man did any of these things, no one would be trying to give him a cute name. They’ll be calling him all kinds of insults, as well as racist. It makes me think people don’t take racism coming from white women as seriously as they do with white men. I believe that has been going on all throughout history.
Racism from white women is glossed over a lot. People barely talk about white women’s involvement with the KKK or how they were so racist that they didn’t care that their husbands raped black women because they didn’t consider black women equal to them, or how they cheered on and watched as their husbands burned crosses on black people’s lawns or burned down whole homes, or how they yelled and screamed “nigger!” at any black person that came around them just as loud as the white men, or how they helped white men conduct horrible medical experiments on black people that made them very ill, injured, or even killed them, or how they’re always right along with the racist laws white men introduced to keep black people down like the Jim Crow laws, laws that kept black people from voting, slavery, job discrimination, and much much more. I can go on and on.
Why are so many people so easy on white women when it comes to racism? I have a feeling it probably comes from sexism and how a lot of people in society don’t take much of what any woman does seriously because they consider them weaker and inferior to men. Female pedophiles aren’t talked about as much as male pedophiles. Female child abusers aren’t talked about as much as male child abusers. Female domestic violence perpetrators aren’t talked about as much as the male ones. And so on and so forth.
Women in this society get passes for a lot of things, especially if they’re white. I also think people don’t think white women have the same power as white men, so they don’t think a white woman can hurt them in the same way a white man can.
But I have news for anyone who thinks that. Racist white women are always in close quarters with racist white men. They can easily get a black person arrested, beaten, or killed, just by lying, crying, and playing victim.
Racism from white women isn’t something to be taken lightly. Call these women out just like we should call out any racist! Stop calling these women “Karen” and start calling them what they are. RACIST! Racism isn’t a game, joke, or meme.
I can’t even begin to tell you how many times I’ve heard a black person say that other black people treat them so badly that they would rather hang out with white people because white people treat them so much better. Or how many black people have said other black people weren’t interested in dating them until they started dating white people.
A lot of black people like to laugh at people who say this and call them coons, but before you do that, think for a second. There’s a reason why these people feel this way. And they tell us all the time. These are genuine feelings these people feel. Black people shouldn’t treat each other so bad that our people don’t even feel comfortable and accepted by us.
We as black people are always complaining about how white people treat us. We’re always complaining about how white people negatively profile us and kill unarmed black people, which are legit reasons for us to be upset. However, in our own communities, the crimes and murders committed against each other is way higher. Black people are more likely to be hurt and/or killed by another black person way more than by a white person.
And don’t get me started on how so many black people project colorism on each other. So many of our people say, do, and think the worst about dark skinned people. We get mad about Hollywood not putting enough dark skinned people in the media in a positive and tasteful way, but a lot of times, our people are the ones who give more attention to people with lighter skin. Our people are also the main ones referring to dark skinned people as derogatory terms—“black”, “crusty”, “burnt”, etc. This way of referring to black people sounds like racist terms from white people, but white people usually aren’t the ones saying this to black people. It’s other black people! As colorist as so many black people are, if black people owned a Hollywood, they would probably erase dark skinned people out just like white Hollywood does.
A lot of black people on a regular basis look down on natural hair and refuse to wear it, but want to cry when white people say something negative about it. Or cry when they see a white woman wear an afro. Anything negative a white person says about black hair, trust me. MORE black people have said the exact same thing, if not worst. Before these current years where natural hair is now seen as more acceptable, lots of black people used to call them nappy headed and try to persuade them to straighten their hair. So many black people are upset when black people with dreads are refused jobs or prevented to graduate school, but I’ve heard black people say the worst things I’ve ever heard about dreads, sounding just like a racist white person.
Black people are online everyday trying to explain to nonblacks that they can’t say nigga, but call each other niggas all day long. When a nonblack person actually does say it, black people crumble. The Boondocks did an episode about that, titled “The S Word”, where Riley’s teacher said the word nigga and Riley acted like he was so hurt when he says nigga probably more than anybody in the whole show! And what I hate the most is a lot of us try to lie and say the word actually means “king” and comes from the Ethiopian word “negus”, but a lot of times when black people call each other niggas, nothing positive follows that in their sentence. So if the word means “king”, how come when black people say it, it isn’t always in a positive way? And if the word means king, why do we crumble so much when white people say it? It’s because we know what that word means and where it comes from and it DOESN’T mean king!
I notice that some black people online, when they see interracial couples, they use the black person’s partner turning out to be racist or their partner ending up abusing or killing them as an excuse to turn other black people away from interracial dating, but both black men and black women are more likely to be abused, hurt, and killed by each other than in interracial relationships.
Black people get angry when white businesses turn them away because of their names, yet in the next breath, make fun of another black person’s name, calling their names “ghetto”.
What’s sad is all this antiblackness that black people push on each other gets passed down to their children. And we have the nerve to act shocked when a black child says they feel ugly because they’re dark skinned or a 4 year old black girl throws a fit because her hair isn’t straight.
Don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying that we shouldn’t say or do anything about white people who disrespect, abuse, and kill us. I’m saying that we should treat each other better! We can’t cry about how racist people treat us, then turn around and treat each other the exact same way. It doesn’t work that way!
I’ve heard lots of people for years complain about how all mainstream rappers do is lie in all of their songs. They complain about how mainstream rappers lie about the money they have, the women they sleep with, the people they kill, the drugs they’ve sold and how much money they made off selling drugs, the drugs they do, etc.
A lot of people were upset and tried to clown 2 Chainz when they found out he was a college graduate and played basketball while attending there. Earlier this year, Billie Eilish criticized rappers who lie in their songs. I used to ride on that train, too, until I realized this—rappers are questioned about their songs’ authenticity more than any other type of artists from any other genre. Why is that?
When we listen to R&B songs, are those singers really sleeping with the women they’re singing about? A lot of them are probably down low gay, but they get on records, singing about women. Are these R&B singers really in love with the people they sing about? They could be cheating on them in real life. Yet on a song, they’re sooooo in love. What about the R&B songs that talk about how beautiful and special a woman is. Do they genuinely feel that way or are they just telling the woman what she wants to hear to get what they want? Or the ones that sing about getting a ton of women, but in real life, are married and extremely faithful. I don’t believe people question what’s said in R&B like they question rap.
What about these pop songs where the women are proudly singing about how they left their man and is so over them. Are they really telling the truth or are they still crying about the dude and running back to him? All these pop artists singing about partying. Are they really partying like they say? They probably stay at home eating snacks all day instead and HATE parties.
And these female rappers that rap about how men ain’t shit and they’ll never need a man for anything, yet go home and cuddle up to one every night. Or rap about how good they are at sex or how many men they sleep with, but in real life, they’re probably not that good at sex, or are abstinent or waiting to get married to have sex. Or the ones who are naked in every video, but in reality, they probably hate rapping about sex and being naked in every song.
Or these conscious rappers who rap about black power stuff and black independence in their music, but in real life they’re kissing white people’s asses or saying coon shit. Or the ones that rap about positive stuff, but in real life, they’re doing drugs, hating on their fellow man, or disrespecting/beating women. I never hear anyone question conscious rap. As a matter of fact, I feel like that’s the least questioned genre of music out of all of them. People eat conscious rap up without any problem at all.
And yet still, nobody questions these people in these genres like they question mainstream rappers. Not everybody tells the truth in their songs, whether it’s a rap song, pop song, R&B song, or whatever. A lot of artists that make these songs make them because they know that’s what sells or that’s what they’re told to make by their label executives. Not because they actually do what they’re talking about in their songs in real life.
I believe people question rap the way they do because it’s one of the, if not THE, highest selling and popular genre in all of music, but it’s black dominated. And you know how a lot of people hate on things that’s black dominated. They question it to probably turn people away from it and have an excuse to criticize it.
I want people to stop questioning rappers like they’re the only ones who say things in their songs that isn’t true and just enjoy the music or don’t. Because if they question the authenticity of rappers’ music, but not any other genre, they’re just being hypocrites and spewing and repeating bullshit.
I’m seeing all these people protesting over being told to wear masks. Protesting over being told to stay home to help slow the spread of Coronavirus. Fighting and arguing in stores because of mask rules. I hear some of these people say that they refuse to wear a mask because they refuse to “let the government tell them what to do” or they “don’t want to be a sheep”. I just can’t get over how stupid all of this looks to me.
The government tells you to send your kids to school everyday. You complain about how schools teach you nothing that you can use in your everyday life. You complain about how teachers and other school staff treated you when you were in school. But you don’t protest about that. You continue to take your kids there everyday.
The government tells you that you have to work 8+ hour shifts on jobs that you hate to make enough money to take care of yourself and/or your family. You complain about how shitty the bosses and supervisors are. You complain about how hard or stressful the work is. You complain about how the jobs pay you peanuts. But you still go to them everyday. And you don’t protest.
The government tells you that you have to pay for life insurance, car insurance, and health insurance. You complain about how all these things are scams. You complain about how much all these things cost. But you still pay for them anyway. And you don’t protest.
The government allows garbage to be promoted to you and your children through radio and television. You complain about how everything on TV and radio is about sex, drugs, and violence. You complain about how the women in these industries can only succeed if they’re hypersexualized. But you continue to watch and listen to it everyday. And you allow your kids to watch and listen to it too. And you don’t protest.
The government tells you that you have to vote for politicians to govern over you every four years. You complain about how these politicians are horrible and do nothing for you. You complain about how the government is constantly giving you the choice between bad or worst in every election. But you continue to vote anyway. And you don’t protest.
The government tells you that you have to pay taxes every year. You complain about how high the taxes are. You complain about how the government wastes your taxes on things that don’t benefit you, like bombing innocent people in other countries. But you continue to pay taxes every year. And you don’t protest.
You talk about how the government telling you to wear a mask and stay home during a pandemic is the government “trying to control you”, but NEWS FLASH! The government has been controlling you YOUR WHOLE LIFE! You’ve been a sheep YOUR WHOLE LIFE! And you’ve done absolutely NOTHING about it. But you WILL get up and protest and throw a fit and fight over a damn mask. I don’t get it!
All these things all of us complain about the government doing to us. Why don’t we ever protest the government? Why do some people protest over the most trivial things? Is it fear?
I believe that these people actually do want to protest against the government, but they’re too afraid to protest over big issues. They’re too afraid to acknowledge and address huge issues. So they pick trivial issues to protest about. It’s sad and it sucks. This backwards protesting needs to go!
A lot of things have opened my eyes since I found the black conscious side of the internet and around 2010-2011 when I found the natural hair side of YouTube. People from both of these communities encourage black women to wear their own hair the most. Some black women’s response to this is that it’s “just hair” and it “shouldn’t be that serious”.
I believe it’s NOT just hair. Thinking about the history of how black men and black women have been disrespected and discriminated against for their real hair is enough for me to see that, already. But there are a lot more examples that show me that it’s not “just hair”.
Many black women can’t even call their hair JUST hair. We always have to put a descriptor or something in front before we say hair when we talk about our hair. For instance, instead of calling our hair JUST hair, we call our hair “natural” hair or “4a/b/c” hair. Black women are literally the only group on the planet that has to call our hair “natural” or refer to our hair as subcategories. I don’t hear white, Asian or any other race of people, calling their hair “natural” or referring to their hair as “1a/b/c” and so forth.
I also hear a lot of black women calling their hair a “crown”. Our hair isn’t a crown! It’s HAIR! I believe we call our hair a “crown” because we’ve been made to think negatively about our hair for so long and we say that so we can feel better about our hair. Crowns are associated with royalty. So if we call our hair “crowns”, we can feel like we’re associated with kings and queens when we wear our own hair. Honestly, I feel like that it so unnecessary. We shouldn’t have to think of our hair that way just so we can be happy with it.
This reminds me of a children’s book I saw on social media a few years ago titled Penny and the Magic Puffballs, where a black woman wrote a book to help her daughter, I believe, feel better about her hair because she wanted straight hair like all the other girls around her. She styled her daughter’s hair into puffballs and called them “magic”. I understand the message, but I just think that it’s sad that a little black girl’s hair has to be called “magic” just to get her to be happy with it. It can’t JUST BE hair.
Whenever black women are finally breaking away from wearing weaves, wigs, and relaxers, and are started to wear and take care of their real hair, they refer to wearing their real hair as a “journey”. Wearing the hair you were born with exactly as it grows out of your scalp without altering it shouldn’t be a “journey”. It should just be you finally not being afraid of wearing your hair.
When I go into the hair products aisle in every store and see every product labeled as JUST hair products, but the black hair products have to be called “natural” hair products makes me sick and angry.
Most black female cartoon characters and dolls are depicted with straight hair and they aren’t even real. If it’s just hair, how come most black female fictional characters and dolls don’t even have our textured hair?
This society made us feel that we have to call our hair something different because they’re uncomfortable with it. This is why I believe it’s important for us to get rid of the fake hair and hair straighteners anyway just to give a FUCK YOU to this obviously racist society that tries so hard to make us hate everything about ourselves.
We are constantly calling our hair everything except JUST hair. So, the next time I hear someone say it’s “just hair”, I will know it’s a lie. I think people only say that because they know that the encouraging people are right about black people embracing our own hair, but they don’t want to listen. They just say that because they don’t have a better rebuttal. Black people and this society as a whole clearly have an issue with our hair.
According to the Merriam-Webster dictionary website, a mistake is 1) a wrong judgement or misunderstanding; 2) a wrong action or statement proceeding faulty judgement, inadequate knowledge, or inattention. In my own words, a mistake is a wrong thing someone does or says, but wasn’t intending to. For example, you writing too quickly and you accidentally misspell something because of it and you have to erase. Or grabbing something out the fridge and it slips out of your hands and breaks. You didn’t throw it on the floor on purpose. It just slipped out of your hand.
Many people call things “mistakes” that aren’t mistakes. They’re CHOICES. But because they regret it later, they want to soften what they did, so instead of admitting they made a poor choice, they’ll say they “made a mistake”.
“I made a mistake and cheated on my spouse.”
“I made a mistake and said something I shouldn’t have said out of anger.”
“I made a mistake and wore blackface and called someone a racial slur.”
“I made a mistake and raped someone.”
“I made a mistake and abused someone.”
“I made a mistake and bullied someone.”
So many people say things like this and claim they are mistakes. These aren’t mistakes because all people know right from wrong. We were taught since we were babies right from wrong. It’s up to us to CHOOSE right or wrong. A lot of people CHOOSE to do WRONG things, then don’t want to own up to their choice.
You knew you were in a relationship/married when you slept with someone that wasn’t your partner. It’s not like you didn’t know you were already with someone. You knew doing that was wrong, which is why you did it behind your partner’s back and lied about it. You knew sleeping with someone that wasn’t your partner would hurt them…but you did it anyway. Now that you got caught and you see the hurt on your partner’s face, you want to say it was “a mistake”. No. You made A CHOICE!
Everyone knows wearing blackface is racist. Everyone knows what racial slurs are. You went online and did it anyway. And now that you’re getting dragged for it (like you should), you want to claim you “made a mistake”. No. You made A CHOICE!
When you picked on that kid in school for whatever reason, you knew exactly what you were doing. You knew the kid would be and was hurt by it. But you did it anyway. And kept doing it. You didn’t “make a mistake” and become a bully. You made A CHOICE!
When you had sex without a condom or birth control, you knew beforehand that unprotected sex leads to pregnancy. You don’t sleep around unprotected, then say “I made a mistake and now I’m pregnant” or “I made a mistake and got somebody pregnant”. You made A CHOICE!
Instead of saying, “We’re all human and we all make mistakes”, I want us to start saying, “We’re all human and we all make CHOICES”. We have to start being more honest with ourselves and admitting that we CHOOSE to do bad things sometimes.
A lot of people like using “free will” as excuse to absolve themselves from accountability for bad choices as well. Yes we have free will to choose what we want to do, but that doesn’t mean there aren’t consequences to what we do or that what we do won’t hurt someone else.
I believe that if more of us admitted to making bad choices instead of calling our bad choices “mistakes”, we will think twice about doing certain things. If we keep calling our bad choices “mistakes”, a lot of us won’t try to do better because in our heads, we’re not doing anything wrong. We’re just “making mistakes”.
When it comes to doing or saying racist things, racist people are really slick when trying to find ways to work their way around the rules that say they shouldn’t be doing it.
I saw a tweet saying we should talk more about Robert Downey, Jr. wearing blackface in the movie, Tropic Thunder. People were replying to the tweet, defending him wearing blackface saying he did it to “spread awareness of how white people get movie roles that are really for black people”. The sad part is, it was mostly black people defending him. That’s kind of the same thing Drake said when he was exposed for wearing blackface. He said, “The photos represented how black people were once wrongfully portrayed in entertainment”.
And we also heard of the many stories of nonblack people wearing blackface as a “Halloween costume”.
If people really understood the true history behind blackface and really cared about black people, NO ONE would wear it. FOR ANY REASON. Nonblack people think that because it’s for “racial awareness”, it gives them a pass to wear it. They think that because it’s “just a Halloween costume” that it gives them a pass to wear it.
When we say we don’t want to see anyone wearing blackface anymore, WE MEAN IT! WE DON’T WANT TO SEE BLACKFACE ANYMORE! There are literally TONS of other ways to bring awareness to black issues than wearing blackface! There are literally TONS of other costumes you can wear for Halloween! If you choose to wear blackface for any reason, you are racist and you hate black people. Plain and simple. There’s literally ZERO reason for anyone to wear blackface. ZERO!
Another example is them saying nigga/nigger. I remember Gina Rodriguez rapping along to “Ready or Not” by The Fugees and she said nigga since it was part of the lyrics. I also remember a comment I saw on YouTube years ago where a nonblack person commented some lyrics to Dej Loaf’s song, “Try Me”, and mentioned nigga. They think they’re slick to say nigga because the word is in lyrics to a song. They also try to use the excuse that they “have black friends” to give themselves a pass to say it. When we say we don’t want nonblack people saying nigga, WE MEAN IT! WE DON’T WANT TO HEAR NONBLACK PEOPLE SAYING NIGGA! And just like with Robert Downey, Jr., black people defended these people because “it’s just a song”.
Slave movies is another. For years, I’ve heard many black people, including myself, talk about how they’re tired of seeing slave movies get released every year. We’re also tired of seeing Civil Rights movies. We’re tired of seeing our people beaten, killed, and oppressed as entertainment. Instead of NOT putting out a slave movie, they’ll put one out about us “fighting back”, like Birth of a Nation or Django Unchained. They think they get a pass to put out slave movies because it depicts us fighting back instead of being victims, but a slave movie is a slave movie, regardless of if they show us “fighting back” or not.
Hollywood had plenty of chances to put out a movie about slaves fighting back and they rarely if ever have done it. When we say we don’t want to see anymore slave movies, WE MEAN IT! WE DON’T WANT TO SEE ANYMORE SLAVE MOVIES! If you want to learn about slavery, there’s tons of books and online articles about it. There’s no need to keep making these movies every year!
Again, black people defend these movies and try to shame their own people to go see them because it’s finally a movie about “fighting back”.
I’ve also noticed how some TV shows, movies, comedy specials, and cartoons would say racist things, but try to pass it off as if it’s a “joke”. Shows like Family Guy and South Park. People defend their racist jokes by saying they “make fun of everyone”. This is just another attempt of them being slick. They think because it’s “just a joke” and they “talk about everyone” that it gives them a pass. NO! When we say we don’t want to hear racist remarks or portrayals, WE MEAN IT! WE DON’T WANT TO HEAR RACIST REMARKS OR PORTRAYALS! Call us “sensitive”. We don’t care! We mean what we say!
Black people, STOP defending these people for doing and saying racist things! Racist people are fully aware of the rules we have set and demanded against their racism. This is them trying to find loopholes around what we say. That’s what they always do. Stop giving them passes. They know they’re not supposed to be saying/doing it, but they want to do it anyway, so they look for excuses. Don’t be fooled. Don’t fall for their game. They just think they’re slick.