What This Video Showed Me

I stumbled upon this video that was asking who looked better between Eminem’s daughter, Hailie, and Lil Wayne’s daughter, Reginae. In the comments, I saw lots of people saying, “Why are we comparing?” “They’re both beautiful women!” “Why must we put two women against each other?”

These people are correct by saying this by the way, but I feel it would hold more weight if I didn’t see people comparing black women to white women ALL THE TIME on social media. EVERYDAY to be exact! Because of that, I give the people saying that major side eye.

This video showed me that a lot of people only want to compare black women to white women who have aged. They rarely, if ever, compare themselves to white women who are attractive. I even saw a comment in the video that said, “Let’s see who will look better in 20 years.” That comment pretty much proves my point in this post.

The way I saw it, Hailie is attractive. So some people were shying away from comparing her and Reginae’s looks together.

I rarely ever see anyone compare black women’s attractiveness to women like Jennifer Lopez, Kim Kardashian or even Ariana Grande. But they have all the smoke for some random old white woman online.

What does that say that some of our black people only feel comfortable comparing themselves to white and nonblack women after they have aged? Do some of us feel like we aren’t as attractive as an attractive white or nonblack woman?

What People Who Miss MySpace Made Me Realize

For years, I’ve heard many people wish for the days of MySpace to come back. Many people say they miss MySpace and want it to be “popping” again. I realized that people aren’t really missing anything at all.

By the way these people talk, you would think MySpace was shut down to never be used again. Nope! MySpace is still here. And if you miss it that bad, you can easily reopen your account and ask your friends on other social media platforms to add you there, especially if those friends say they miss MySpace, too. But for some reason, people don’t want to do that. Why do people ask for things that have an obvious solution?

MySpace never left. PEOPLE LEFT MYSPACE! Then started crying about “missing” it. This is a weird phenomenon that I think should be examined. It makes me feel like many people in our society have some sort of mental issue.

What’s even weirder are the people who talk down about MySpace like they never used it ever in their lives. Almost everyone you know, probably yourself included, has used MySpace at one point in their lives and LOVED it, so to talk like that is beyond stupid to me. I believe those types of people miss MySpace the most and just talk like that to hide it.

I think this exposes the groupthink mentality that many people have and/or the low intelligence level. Who said people couldn’t use MySpace anymore? Why? Why were people so eager to go along with it?

This same phenomenon can be applied to people who say they “miss” certain music artists. A vast majority of the time, these artists never stopped making music. Just because you don’t hear them on the radio means nothing. It never did. These people have been making music long before they hit one radio station and they will continue making music still long after they are no longer on the radio. If you look them up on YouTube, Google, or their social media, you will immediately see that they have tons of new music out.

The artists never went anywhere. THE PEOPLE DID! The big question is why? If these people loved these things and celebrities so much, why did they abandon them? Why don’t they simply just go back to using it? Again, who’s saying we can’t love these things anymore? Why are we so eager to listen, then cry about “missing” them later?

With this phenomenon, I also realized that people cheat themselves out of tremendous power. People say they “want MySpace to be popping again”, yet don’t go back to using it. If they simply went back to using it, it would be “popping” again. Same thing with music artists. If they simply went back to listening to their music, follow them on social media, or whatever, and stopped waiting on the radio to tell them to, they would be popular again. Yet, for some weird reason, people just don’t do it. They cry about “missing” them instead.

What I hate the most about this is when this stuff is pointed out, people get defensive and act like they don’t see or notice this pattern. They do it ALL THE TIME with EVERYTHING!

I just want people to stop being a bunch of groupthinkers and think for themselves. Stop letting whatever it is tell you what to love. Love things because YOU love it. Stop loving things just because they’re popular amongst other people and have YOUR OWN reasons to love things.

Solange-Tina Taught Me

I love this interlude, “Tina Taught Me”, from Solange’s album, A Seat At The Table. The instrumental to “Don’t Touch My Hair” playing in the background makes it even better. Solange’s mother, Tina Knowles, spoke a message I couldn’t agree with more if I wanted to. A message full of being proud of being black. She also talks about how here in America, black people are not allowed to express pride in being black and if we do, it is taken as us being anti-white. The truth is white people are anti-black. They hate our culture. They don’t want us to love our culture and try to push their culture on us. They’ve done this for centuries. This is why our original culture(s), language(s), etc., were stripped away from us and replaced with theirs. I believe this is why when we express pride in loving ourselves and our culture, they take it as us not liking their culture. They take us expressing love and pride in ourselves as rejecting their culture that they’re forcing on us.

The Problem With People Calling Out Tiffany Haddish & Kevin Hart

I’ve been seeing a lot of people lately talking about how stereotypical the roles Tiffany Haddish and Kevin Hart play. They say that Tiffany Haddish is the stereotype of the loud mouth, ghetto black woman and Kevin Hart is the stereotype of the emasculated black man.

Although I agree with people who say this, I also think it comes off as a little hypocritical. I think so because the vast majority of the popular black comedians, male or female, have made their careers based off of some stereotype. They’re nothing more than a modern day minstrel show!

Eddie Murphy, Martin Lawrence, and many, many others have emasculated themselves and played stereotypical roles of black women in tons of movies and TV shows.

Bernie Mac played the stereotypical role of the big, scary black man.

Even Katt Williams has played stereotypical roles. Friday After Next is a huge example. He played the role of an emasculated black man. He also played the role of a pimp. And we all know there’s nothing to glorify about pimps! And he disrespected a black woman all throughout the whole movie. Where are the people to call that out?

There are so many black comedians who have played stereotypical roles in Hollywood, yet no one is dissecting their comedy skits and movies and talking about how bad it is for the black image. When this is called out, people’s excuses for it is because they are “legends”.

If you’re going to call someone out for something, keep the same energy when it comes to others! Don’t pick and choose who to call out when they’re all doing the same thing. At that point, not only do you look like a hypocrite, you expose yourself for not really caring about black stereotypical roles being played. You just want an excuse to talk down about someone because you don’t like them. Just say you don’t like Kevin Hart and Tiffany Haddish and move on! Don’t make the excuse that it’s “because they play stereotypical roles that make black people look bad” as the reason you don’t like them. We have to stop being blinded by big names and turning a blind eye to what they do, then turn into a lynch mob for someone just because their status isn’t as big.

Also, I believe that calling out Kevin Hart, Tiffany Haddish, or any black comedian, for that matter, for playing these roles is a little misguided. I think we need to start calling out Hollywood for this. Why do they keep pushing these roles on our people? I feel like some people are too afraid to call out Hollywood for the shady things they do.

If Hollywood isn’t going to stop pushing these roles on our people, I think it’s about time (it’s BEEN time!) we create an alternative for our people to go to so they won’t have to do that because, let’s be real. No one is going to turn down all that money Hollywood offers because a role is “stereotypical”, especially if they need it. I’ve heard many people say Tiffany Haddish was homeless before her big break. I hear this about many stars in Hollywood. A lot of them were broke or homeless before their big break. Maybe some people will turn down a role because it’s stereotypical. But Hollywood will always find someone who will take it.

We need our own media where our people can still get paid nicely without selling out like this. Also, these people have to be willing to support it if someone does start to create a media for us that doesn’t depict us in a bad light. People can’t be so eager to sell out and leave behind an opportunity for us to have something of our own, then complain about us not having any good roles to play. We as the audience need to support it as well. Let’s stop supporting comedians who play these types of roles and give our support to more deserving comics.

Do People Have A Special Connection To The Sun?

I observe my own behavior and other people’s behaviors when it comes to sunshine. Lots of people, including myself, are happier when the sun is out shining bright and the sky is a clear blue. But when it’s a cloudy, gloomy, overcast day, it seems like people don’t seem as happy. They mostly stay indoors and sometimes, their moods are negative. I know a lot of times when it’s cloudy and gloomy, I don’t feel like doing anything. And a lot of times, my mood is negative. I’m either sad or thinking about all the bad things I go through.

At first, I used to think this stuff was all in my head until I heard about S.A.D. (Seasonal Affective Disorder). Apparently, this is a real thing that really affects people and their moods. After doing a little reading about this, I also learned that this affects some animals, too. During winter months, some animals are less active due to lack of sunshine and difficulty finding food. So, I should rephrase my question to, ‘Do all living things have a connection to the sun?’

What happens that causes this emotional phenomenon? Do we really have some special, maybe even secret connection to the sun?

After all, nothing on this planet could live without it. It is essential to all life forms on this planet. I believe this is why sun worshipping exists. Lots of different cultures recognize the importance that the sun has on this earth. Maybe this is where this connection comes from.

If You Refer To A Celebrity As Irrelevant, You Are FAKE!

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Hearing this word, “irrelevant”, get thrown around so much on the Internet gives me a very uneasy feeling. People say this about any celebrity, whether they are music artists, movie stars, comedians, or athletes. I think it’s extremely annoying.

I say people are FAKE as ALL GET OUT when they call a celebrity irrelevant because nine times out of ten, they’re saying this about people that they loved at one point. A lot of these celebrities people call “irrelevant” have been insanely popular at one point in their lives. If these people were that popular, chances are they loved, listened to, and/or watched them A LOT themselves at one point in their lives. It just seems really weird for people to call someone irrelevant when they loved them at one point.

I believe a lot of people just like throwing that word around. So many people are online all day everyday living through celebrities. Jealous of their lives and fame. Calling them “irrelevant” gives them a reason to feel better about their lives. In reality, I feel like people throw the word “irrelevant” around on celebrities because they feel so insignificant by celebrities that they project those feelings onto them. They call celebrities irrelevant because they feel irrelevant compared to celebrities. I think if people are at that point, they seriously need to turn their televisions and Internet off for a while and learn to appreciate their own lives so they won’t feel like that about their lives or a celebrity’s life.

Another huge reason that makes people HORRIBLY fake for calling celebrities irrelevant is that it makes them seem like they only liked the celebrity because they were popular. They didn’t have their own reasons for liking them. They only liked them because they thought everyone else did. Their faces are plastered on television and magazines everywhere. People are talking about them all the time. The SECOND all of that stops, the “fans” disappear–well, at least most of them, and act like they never loved them. It’s really dumb. This is why I think at least 95% of most celebrity fanbases are full of fake fans. Only fans because they’re on a bandwagon.

I can only imagine that type of pressure if I were a celebrity. It makes me feel like fame isn’t really all that worth it. People are just ready and waiting to pounce on you the second they feel like you “failed” because that’s how insecure and threatened they feel by your success and fame. I’m pretty sure that makes a lot of celebrities feel the insane pressure of always having to sell high records all the time. The insane pressure of having to win every game or a certain amount of games and championships all the time. The insane pressure of having to always sell out arenas. The high pressure of always having to pull a certain amount of money in the box office. The insane pressure of having a certain amount of #1’s or hit songs in general. Because the second they don’t, they will be called “irrelevant”, “washed up”, etc., by their OWN FANS and people who didn’t like them anyway and just using that as an excuse to hate them because they don’t really have a real reason to hate them in the first place. They’re just miserable and like being negative.

What’s worst enough is the main people sitting on the Internet calling people “irrelevant” all day are people who couldn’t even do an OUNCE of what celebrities do. I know it’s not easy to win Grammys, sell out shows, win a lot of games, sell a lot of records, get high ratings on television shows, tear out the box office, etc., especially when we all know the entertainment industry has a HUGE reputation of overlooking people who have AMAZING talent and deserve to be praised just as much as anybody else. People call celebrities “irrelevant” because they don’t understand the actual work that goes into what they do. They’re just looking at the finished product and thinking everything is easy for them when it really isn’t.

Not only do I think these people can’t do anything celebrities do, they wouldn’t be able to handle thousands, maybe even MILLIONS, of hate comments of people saying the same thing to them that they say to celebrities EVERYDAY. Most people can’t even handle one negative comment. They’ll be ready to fight someone after one negative thing someone says about them. I KNOW they won’t be able handle the amount of negative comments celebrities have to handle on a daily basis.

But I guess people will never understand how it really feels until they or someone they know are in that same position and other people are treating them like that because they lack the ability to see how other people feel or might feel. A lot of people don’t know how anything feels until it happens to them.

KANYE WEST WAS RIGHT!

I watched this video above one day and it really opened my eyes to what Kanye was really saying in his TMZ rant. After watching this video, I watched the rant and everything made PERFECT sense. At that moment, I realized that the people who were upset over him saying “slavery is a choice” didn’t watch the rant at all. They just reacted off the titles of articles writing about it and the man responding to what he said. I was one of those people. I was upset for Kanye saying that, but I hadn’t yet listened to what he said at all. That gave me a huge reminder: ALWAYS LOOK INTO THINGS FOR YOURSELF! NEVER REACT TO ANYTHING BEFORE GETTING THE FULL STORY! FIND OUT THE TRUTH FOR YOURSELF FIRST!

After watching this video and then Kanye’s rant, I immediately knew he was NOT talking about black American slavery. He was talking about mental slavery! He was talking about how our society refuses to think for ourselves. How much we go about having other people tell us how to live and how we try to change ourselves for this sick society’s standards. Kanye wanted us to WAKE UP and start THINKING FOR OURSELVES!

I know the media knew exactly what he was saying. After watching these videos, I now believe the media PURPOSELY distorted Kanye’s words so people wouldn’t get the message. The elite DOES NOT want society to wake up. They DO NOT want people to think for themselves. They will LOSE THEIR POWER!

Kanye said so much more than “slavery was a choice” in his rant. I’m so disappointed in myself and everyone else who reacted without watching the video for themselves or watched the video, but comprehended it poorly. Reacting off memes, articles, headlines, bits and pieces of the video, everything except the actual full rant.

He was right. We ARE choosing not to think for ourselves. We ARE choosing to be mentally enslaved. We are NOT stupid! We choose to be. We have our own brains. There’s free information all around us and we still act like we can’t learn and think for ourselves. WE ARE DRUGGED THE F*** OUT (In Kanye’s words)! IT’S TIME TO WAKE UP!

Just like the guy said in his video, I’m kind of afraid for Kanye after this. They might try to kill him or frame him with something bogus to smear him if he continues to publicly say things like this. They kind of already did it when they twisted his words and letting all these sell out celebrities come out calling themselves “calling him out” for what he said. With his influence and presence saying stuff like that, he is a HUGE threat to this establishment.

It’s Not Because You’re Dark Skinned. It’s Your Attitude

When the topic of colorism is brought up, many people have knee jerk reactions to deny that discrimination and disrespect due to being dark skinned is the case. This statement, “It’s not because you’re dark skinned; it’s your attitude”, is one of them. I usually hear people saying it to dark skinned women when they talk about colorism.

I see this, as well as many other knee jerk reactions against colorism accusations, as nothing more than excuses. People don’t want to admit to hating dark skin, so they have all kinds of excuses to cover it up. I’ve seen dark skinned people do nothing, but mind their own business and people still treat them rudely. People still call them names that insult their dark skin. So, it’s not just about attitude.

And if dark skin wasn’t an issue and it was just about attitude, why are there people who tell dark skinned women they’re pretty “to be dark”. Why can’t they just be pretty? To tell someone they’re attractive “to be dark” means you think dark skin usually isn’t attractive to you and now you’re shocked because you see an attractive person that’s dark skinned. And let’s not say people say that because of “preference” because no one has ever told a light skinned or mixed woman that they were pretty “to be light”. I’ve heard people say it the other way around, though: “If you’re ugly and you’re light skinned, I feel sorry for you”, “Being light skinned doesn’t automatically make you pretty”, etc. So, with these statements alone, obviously people feel some kind of way about dark skin. And these statements say a lot about how people view dark skin and light skin. What is it saying if people feel like they have to constantly remind everyone that light skin doesn’t automatically make someone pretty or dark skin doesn’t automatically make someone ugly?

Another thing that makes me believe this statement is a load of crap is a lot of times black men say this to dark skinned women, but not much later, you will hear black men talking about how sexy a Latina or other nonblack woman is when they have attitudes. If attitudes are unattractive, why are they only unattractive on dark skinned black women? Why is it attractive on nonblack women?

There is this one video I remember Tommy Sotomayor doing on dark skinned women and their attitudes. I don’t remember the name of it, but I do remember him saying something like overweight dark skinned women who have horrible attitudes should say to themselves, “I already have two strikes against me.” And I’m guessing he meant they should be nicer, but instead, their attitudes are even worst. First of all, what did he mean by this woman already having “two strikes” against her? While he was trying to make it seem like it was just her attitude in this video, he didn’t realize that he just exposed how people will automatically treat her differently, or I should say NEGATIVELY, because of these “two strikes”, which is her being overweight and her being dark skinned. And because she’s overweight and dark skinned, she has to be “nicer” to get people to like her and treat her right.

There was another video I saw from another YouTuber who said that it’s the attitudes of dark skinned women that make men want to get with light skinned women over them. He said that dark skinned women always complaining about how they are over looked for light skinned women is what makes them unattractive and that light skinned women are more attractive because they’re usually “more confident” than dark skinned women.

I feel like what they gloss over is how society usually treats light skinned women a lot better than they treat dark skinned women. Of course they will have more confidence! If society treated light skinned women like they treat dark skinned women, they would act the exact same way.

I don’t know why so many people in our society try to deny such obvious things when it comes to dark skin, but it really has to stop.

This is the thing people always love tiptoeing around when this topic is brought up. This society treats dark skinned people, especially women, like TRASH, especially if they’re overweight! Yet, people still want these people to just roll over and take it with a smile and say nothing about it.

STOP DENYING COLORISM! STOP IGNORING COLORISM! OPEN YOUR EYES AND START BEING HONEST WITH YOURSELVES!

Was Slavery A Choice?

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Kanye West said slavery was a choice. Dr. Claude Anderson said slavery was a choice. Tommy Sotomayor said slavery was a choice. So many others said slavery was a choice and a lot of people agreed. But I have to say I heavily disagree. This statement isn’t true in the slightest.

If people read just one history book or article, they will know that there were tons of slave rebellions. There were tons of slaves who killed themselves and their own children rather than living the rest of their lives as slaves. There were tons of slaves who tried to run away. Some were successful. Some were unsuccessful. There were tons of abolitionists who fought to end slavery. Slaves didn’t just sit there and say, “Okay. I’ll be a slave.” They always fought back. It’s just that fighting wasn’t enough to end it. Another thing to take into account, too, is that a lot of slave masters had weapons to use to keep slaves in line. A lot of the slaves didn’t have weapons to protect themselves. Slave masters were doing all kinds of evil things to slaves in front of all the other slaves to keep them in line. They were traumatizing them! Another thing, too, is that the government agreed and passed laws to keep slavery around. The government wasn’t on the slaves’ side at all. I feel like this should be common sense, but for some weird reason, for some people, it isn’t.

Saying “slavery was a choice” kind of sounds like victim blaming to me. It sounds just like saying the millions of people who get robbed all over the world at gunpoint chose to be robbed because they “could’ve fought back”. The millions of men, women, and children who get raped all over the world chose to be raped because they “should’ve fought back”. That’s what that sounds like to me! Blaming the victims instead of the people who are committing the actual crime. It’s sickens me to know that people out here have that type of mentality!

It sounds like people don’t want to blame and hold slave masters accountable for what they’ve done. I think that is a fear and slave mentality right there. People blame the slaves because they are afraid to blame the slave masters. It sounds like black people blaming each other for their situation instead of blaming the obvious culprit(s). They do this out of hate (for themselves and each other), fear, and frustration.

I believe that this slave blaming is the reason why slavery still exists today in lots of other places across the world. No person should have to physically fight to say they don’t want to be a slave. Just like a person shouldn’t have to physically fight to say they don’t want to be robbed or raped. If a person tries to force slavery or crime on a person that doesn’t want it, then THAT person is wrong. NOT the person that got hurt! The slave masters chose slavery, NOT the slaves!

I believe slavery all over the world would be abolished today if everyone held slave masters accountable for what they’re doing and what they’ve done. When we blame the slaves for what happened to them, I think that’s us not taking slavery as seriously as we should.

If anybody thinks slavery was a “choice”, they have no sense of history and don’t understand how slavery works at all.

Why Do We Laugh At These Things?

STEVIE WONDER:

Stevie Wonder jokes and memes run rampant on the Internet. As a matter of fact, people have been making blind jokes about Stevie Wonder for as long as I can remember. I’ve been hearing them since I was a kid. Tons of people made jokes and memes about him being blind. I must admit that I used to laugh at quite a few of them. But now that I look back on it, I think it’s pretty sickening and distasteful to make jokes about someone for being blind.

Being blind is a serious thing and is the furthest thing from a laughing matter. I believe most people are only okay with telling these jokes and laughing at them because they don’t understand blindness. They’re not blind themselves and they’re not close to anyone who’s blind. If they were, they wouldn’t think blindness is funny at all and would be very offended and upset at people for making fun of them or their loved one for being blind.

I also think people make fun of Stevie Wonder for being blind because he is famous. I don’t think people would make jokes and memes out of a regular blind person. If they did, they would be dragged and shamed all over the Internet, would probably make the news for bullying, and all of their social media accounts would be terminated. But since Stevie is a celebrity, people don’t take it as seriously.

I can only imagine what life would be like if I were blind. Sight is definitely something I think so many of us take for granted. Not being able to see for the rest of your life sounds like a very sad and horrible thing. Millions of people across the world have to live with this, yet this is what we choose to laugh and make jokes about?

RODNEY KING:
Jokes about Rodney King is another thing I’ve been hearing since I was a kid. I would hear comedians and people around me making jokes about him getting beat. Since people thought it was so funny, I thought he got beat up by a woman, another man, or a group of men. But as a child, I still thought it was weird that people were laughing at him getting beat, regardless of who beat him. As I grew up, I later learned and found out that he was beaten by police.

After finding out he was beaten by police, I always thought, if he was beaten by police, why is it so funny? I’m still wondering why it’s funny. Somebody please answer this for me and help me. Why is someone getting beat up by police funny? Isn’t this the same incident that sparked the 1992 LA riots? Isn’t an incident like this the same thing Black Lives Matter is fighting against today? How did this become so funny? Why are people laughing at the very same thing people rioted and got killed for? Why?

RIHANNA:
Ever since the incident between her and Chris Brown happened, people have been making jokes about it. Snapchat even made a distasteful poll that said ‘Would You Rather Slap Rihanna or Punch Chris Brown?’, which was obviously making fun of the incident. Rihanna’s response to the poll costed Snapchat to lose millions of dollars in shares. Jokes about Ike and Tina Turner, Whitney Houston and Bobby Brown, and many other celebrity domestic violence disputes have ran rampant for many, many years as well. And just like the Stevie Wonder jokes, I think people only make jokes about them because they’re celebrities. People are a whole lot less likely to make a joke about a regular couple suffering from domestic violence.

I’ve heard people make jokes about people getting raped, children being molested, and child abuse, amongst other distasteful and insensitive things.

We can keep saying it’s “just a joke” to justify these jokes all we want, but some things shouldn’t be made into a joke and should be taken seriously. Everything can’t be made into a joke.

I think this proves that our society is sick. There are so many things I see and hear people making jokes about that they really shouldn’t. I think most people in our society are mentally ill and desensitized to things they should be highly sensitive to.