Nicki Minaj Opens Up About Past Toxic Relationships

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Dear all of you beautiful souls.

A man who loves you does not:

1. Humiliate you on social media
2. Beat you
3. Cheat on you
4. Call you out of your name/put you down to lower your self esteem due to his own insecurities.
5. Hide his phone, passwords, where abouts, etc.

I rlly used to think love had to hurt. So I could never look down on anyone else. We are merely human. It’s not easy to leave. Especially in the world of IG where all ppl want to do is post relationship goal pics for clout & attention. A man should make you feel safe, not afraid

I remember being so afraid to speak cuz I never knew when that person would be in a particular mood and I could maybe say one wrong thing that would get me hit. So the diff you see in me now is that feeling when a woman feels lifted up, safe, appreciated & unconditionally loved.

But I first had to learn how to love MYSELF. 🙏🏾 if you wouldn’t let a man treat your mother, your sister or best friend like that b/c you LOVE them, then you wouldn’t let a man treat YOU like that b/c you love YOU. This isn’t about judging. We judge too much. Lift them up. 🙏🏾

When u see a woman in a toxic relationship, rather than laugh & say mean things, try to offer sound advice from your heart & root for her to learn her worth. We’ve all been there. I saw my parents fight & argue non stop & never divorce, so I thought this was normal behavior…

I saw these series of tweets Nicki Minaj posted yesterday. Although I loved them all and I loved the message she sent, I also thought in the back of my mind what would make her talk about this after all these years. I wasn’t the only one who thought something was up when she tweeted about this because I saw a few replies under the tweets of people asking if she was okay. In the tweets, she mentioned being in toxic relationships in the past and learning how to love herself.

For some strange reason, I honestly believe she only talked about this to justify her relationship with her current significant other, Kenneth Petty. He was convicted of murder and is also a registered sex offender. After learning this, many people dragged her for being involved with this man.

Not only is this man a past convicted felon and registered sex offender due to attempted rape, more of their story of getting together just sounds outright messy. Nicki said, once, that she cheated on a past boyfriend for him and how Petty beat him up. And I saw on a video Chrissie uploaded on YouTube (featured below) that he himself admitted to cheating on his partner for Nicki AND told his partner that he’s only with Nicki to get up on a bag. The story just sounds like a HOT MESS!

Although I personally don’t care who she’s involved with romantically, I think people have a right to feel some type of way for any woman to be involved with a man who has such a past and probably deserves the dragging. I feel like even more so, she has fans that love her and want what’s best for her. I don’t think some of her fans like seeing her being involved with this man.

I believe Nicki Minaj is fully aware of what people have been saying online about her being involved with this man. At first, she was going off on people criticizing her relationship on her podcast, Queen Radio. Now, I feel like she released these series of tweets looking for sympathy or trying to shift the narrative so people can think, “Oh, she’s happy. She’s with a man who loves her” instead of thinking, “She’s with a murderer and a rapist!”

Don’t think for one second that these celebrities aren’t reading people’s comments and social media posts. Just because they don’t respond to every single one or say nothing at all doesn’t mean they don’t read them. This is proof that celebrities DO read people’s comments AND care about what people say about them.

I believe Cardi B did this exact same thing this past week when XXL released an article talking about how fans believe Travis Scott’s album, Astroworld, should have won the Grammy for best album over Cardi B’s album, Invasion of Privacy.

She, too, put out a series of tweets talking about how hard she worked on the album even while sick and pregnant to defend herself and say she deserved the win.

On my album I showed different sides of me.From my intro talking about my pass. To living my best life inspiring people.Relationship songs while I was going thru my own relationship drama to shaking ass like Bodak & that ASS .Every song went platinum!

I did it all while I was pregnant.Throwing up, drowsy,terrible colds and in a rush to finish it so I can start doing music videos before I started showing .I spend 24 hours for months sleeping on a couch with my pregnant depressed ass in a studio .

I wasn’t even thinking of winning or even the Grammies. All I can think about was …everybody is disappointed in me,am I still going to have a career after this baby ? Is this album going to make me or break me ? I need to finish before I start showing .

All while I just separated from my long time manager.I had to get my husband to talk to my label cause I never had a relationship with them so we all came together to relocate me to Atlanta and Miami to finish my album before my stomach start showing.

When i kept seeing the certifications of the songs going gold or platinum I was so excited cause my husband was out here asking everybody for a feature on my behalf so the ones that said yes thank you from the bottom of my heart cause TRUST ME ALOT OF ARTIST SAID NO!

So when I won a Grammy for it I didn’t have no words to say but when I went home I started reminiscing on what I went thru during that period I was like YEA BITCH YOU DESERVE THIS SHIT !abd until this day my shit still charting .

Just like with Nicki’s tweets, I wondered why Cardi was tweeting this stuff as well. I believe she did this to shift the narrative from people saying, “She doesn’t deserve it!” or “Other albums were better!” to “She’s worked so hard. Maybe she actually does deserve her Grammy”.

I honestly feel like other albums were more deserving of the Grammy myself, but we need to learn that Grammys don’t always go to the people that deserve it most or worked the hardest. The Grammy committee gives the Grammy to who THEY feel like they want to give the Grammy to. It’s not about who WE or an other artist feels deserve it.

There are lots of amazing albums that weren’t even nominated that I’m SURE was way better than Cardi B’s. And I listened to her album. I liked some songs on there, but I wouldn’t say it deserved a Grammy.

These awards shows always have and always will be SHAMS! Many people have called this out in the past, but some of y’all called them bitter and jealous “because they didn’t win one”. Now y’all are starting to see it. It’s funny how it takes for someone y’all don’t like to win a Grammy before y’all admit to yourselves how fake and phony they are. But I digress.

Again, all of this tweeting that Cardi and Nicki are doing is just them looking for sympathy and/or shifting the narrative of the comments directed towards them. And I feel that people should NOT fall it. It’s all a game!

Female Rap Is Taking Over!

Everyone is talking about Jermaine Dupri’s comments about today’s popular female rappers, saying they are “strippers rapping” and they rap about the same things all the time. Although I agree, I feel like him saying this is one sided and I feel like men saying and agreeing with this without checking male rappers are only threatened by the influx of upcoming female rappers.

Having this view about female rappers is one sided because the male rappers are no different. How many popular male rappers are there that aren’t rapping about drugs, sex, bitches, and hoes in every song? I’ve seen so many women ask this question in response to this statement about female rappers and the men name literally the same handful of male rappers: Kendrick Lamar, J. Cole, and Drake. Like every man who responded literally named these same few every single time. None of them named anyone different. If you can’t name more than three to five popular (keyword here) male rap artists that don’t rap about degenerate nonsense, what does that tell you?

Men are only attacking female rappers because it’s on the rise now. More people are starting to listen to and check for female rappers. The female rappers are doing better on the charts and selling more than a lot of male rappers right now.

Female rap is on the rise and it’s taking over and men are starting to feel threatened. That’s the truth!

Cardi B responded to these statements and I couldn’t agree more. Here’s her response:

The Problem With People Calling Out Tiffany Haddish & Kevin Hart

I’ve been seeing a lot of people lately talking about how stereotypical the roles Tiffany Haddish and Kevin Hart play. They say that Tiffany Haddish is the stereotype of the loud mouth, ghetto black woman and Kevin Hart is the stereotype of the emasculated black man.

Although I agree with people who say this, I also think it comes off as a little hypocritical. I think so because the vast majority of the popular black comedians, male or female, have made their careers based off of some stereotype. They’re nothing more than a modern day minstrel show!

Eddie Murphy, Martin Lawrence, and many, many others have emasculated themselves and played stereotypical roles of black women in tons of movies and TV shows.

Bernie Mac played the stereotypical role of the big, scary black man.

Even Katt Williams has played stereotypical roles. Friday After Next is a huge example. He played the role of an emasculated black man. He also played the role of a pimp. And we all know there’s nothing to glorify about pimps! And he disrespected a black woman all throughout the whole movie. Where are the people to call that out?

There are so many black comedians who have played stereotypical roles in Hollywood, yet no one is dissecting their comedy skits and movies and talking about how bad it is for the black image. When this is called out, people’s excuses for it is because they are “legends”.

If you’re going to call someone out for something, keep the same energy when it comes to others! Don’t pick and choose who to call out when they’re all doing the same thing. At that point, not only do you look like a hypocrite, you expose yourself for not really caring about black stereotypical roles being played. You just want an excuse to talk down about someone because you don’t like them. Just say you don’t like Kevin Hart and Tiffany Haddish and move on! Don’t make the excuse that it’s “because they play stereotypical roles that make black people look bad” as the reason you don’t like them. We have to stop being blinded by big names and turning a blind eye to what they do, then turn into a lynch mob for someone just because their status isn’t as big.

Also, I believe that calling out Kevin Hart, Tiffany Haddish, or any black comedian, for that matter, for playing these roles is a little misguided. I think we need to start calling out Hollywood for this. Why do they keep pushing these roles on our people? I feel like some people are too afraid to call out Hollywood for the shady things they do.

If Hollywood isn’t going to stop pushing these roles on our people, I think it’s about time (it’s BEEN time!) we create an alternative for our people to go to so they won’t have to do that because, let’s be real. No one is going to turn down all that money Hollywood offers because a role is “stereotypical”, especially if they need it. I’ve heard many people say Tiffany Haddish was homeless before her big break. I hear this about many stars in Hollywood. A lot of them were broke or homeless before their big break. Maybe some people will turn down a role because it’s stereotypical. But Hollywood will always find someone who will take it.

We need our own media where our people can still get paid nicely without selling out like this. Also, these people have to be willing to support it if someone does start to create a media for us that doesn’t depict us in a bad light. People can’t be so eager to sell out and leave behind an opportunity for us to have something of our own, then complain about us not having any good roles to play. We as the audience need to support it as well. Let’s stop supporting comedians who play these types of roles and give our support to more deserving comics.

KANYE WEST WAS RIGHT!

I watched this video above one day and it really opened my eyes to what Kanye was really saying in his TMZ rant. After watching this video, I watched the rant and everything made PERFECT sense. At that moment, I realized that the people who were upset over him saying “slavery is a choice” didn’t watch the rant at all. They just reacted off the titles of articles writing about it and the man responding to what he said. I was one of those people. I was upset for Kanye saying that, but I hadn’t yet listened to what he said at all. That gave me a huge reminder: ALWAYS LOOK INTO THINGS FOR YOURSELF! NEVER REACT TO ANYTHING BEFORE GETTING THE FULL STORY! FIND OUT THE TRUTH FOR YOURSELF FIRST!

After watching this video and then Kanye’s rant, I immediately knew he was NOT talking about black American slavery. He was talking about mental slavery! He was talking about how our society refuses to think for ourselves. How much we go about having other people tell us how to live and how we try to change ourselves for this sick society’s standards. Kanye wanted us to WAKE UP and start THINKING FOR OURSELVES!

I know the media knew exactly what he was saying. After watching these videos, I now believe the media PURPOSELY distorted Kanye’s words so people wouldn’t get the message. The elite DOES NOT want society to wake up. They DO NOT want people to think for themselves. They will LOSE THEIR POWER!

Kanye said so much more than “slavery was a choice” in his rant. I’m so disappointed in myself and everyone else who reacted without watching the video for themselves or watched the video, but comprehended it poorly. Reacting off memes, articles, headlines, bits and pieces of the video, everything except the actual full rant.

He was right. We ARE choosing not to think for ourselves. We ARE choosing to be mentally enslaved. We are NOT stupid! We choose to be. We have our own brains. There’s free information all around us and we still act like we can’t learn and think for ourselves. WE ARE DRUGGED THE F*** OUT (In Kanye’s words)! IT’S TIME TO WAKE UP!

Just like the guy said in his video, I’m kind of afraid for Kanye after this. They might try to kill him or frame him with something bogus to smear him if he continues to publicly say things like this. They kind of already did it when they twisted his words and letting all these sell out celebrities come out calling themselves “calling him out” for what he said. With his influence and presence saying stuff like that, he is a HUGE threat to this establishment.

Azealia Banks Blames Black Men For Why Bodak Yellow Went #1

I’m sorry. Black industry men are too hype for this Latina girl. I’ve never seen them jump like this for Remy or Nicki. Spinning this ‘for the culture’ story when they are simply letting white men at Atlantic buy them into hating their own women… I wanted spicy Latina and she gave me poor mans Nicki. Charlamagne and black men in Hip-Hop should have gotten me, Remy AND Nicki a number one before they gave Cardi or Iggy one. But literally white guys buy black men away from black women and it’s soo cringe.

The moment Bodak Yellow by Cardi B topped the Billboard chart at #1, Azealia Banks responded with this post on her social media. I first saw it on a video by a YouTuber named Chrissie and she was addressing what she said.

At first glance, I thought it sounded like she was telling the truth. But now that I think about it, she really is trying to throw black men under the bus because Cardi B got a #1 Billboard song and not a black female rapper. She’s basically saying it’s black men’s fault Bodak Yellow went #1 on Billboard before a black female rapper did. It’s ridiculous, laughable, and disgusting.

At first, I thought Azealia Banks was a woman who’s just misunderstood and people just hated her because it’s cool and popular. After that B.S. I see now that the people are right. I don’t think anybody should take anything she says seriously at this point. And I feel bad for writing this because I really tried to give her a chance. I listened to a few of her songs and even though they weren’t my cup of tea, I still thought she had a great singing voice and was very good at rapping. But now, I think the things she says and does completely overshadows her talent. It’s sad that she’s known more for her antics and the crazy things she says when she really has talent. It’s a shame!

And I’m starting to believe that this is going to be a pattern for her. Whenever there’s a light skinned or nonblack female rapper who makes it to #1, she will always try to express this psuedo problack, anti-black man drivel that makes it look as if she’s speaking up for black women or black issues when she’s really just spilling her insecurities and hate for black men everywhere. She pulled this stunt with Iggy Azalea first. Now, she’s doing it with Cardi B. At this rate, I can almost guarantee that she will do this to the next person like them.

Getting deeper into why I think her comments are wrong, first of all, is blaming black men for Bodak Yellow being #1 is definitely misguided because 1) the music industry is white owned. White men own all or most of the major record labels. They control these artists and they choose what is hot and what songs should be pushed and promoted to be hits. 2) Cardi B’s biggest supporters are black women, not black men. She has way more black female fans than black male fans. When I skim through the comments under her videos and social media, most of the supportive comments are from black women. Black women are the main ones who like Bodak Yellow and are showing themselves on videos dancing to it or whatever. So, she needs to guide her comments to the white owned record industry and black women. (Don’t get me wrong. I don’t see anything wrong with supporting Cardi B. If you like Cardi B and Bodak Yellow, by all means continue to like it. I’m not antagonizing anyone who does, just to make things clear. I’m only showing that black men aren’t the reason for why it’s #1 and she shouldn’t try to jab them in the eye for it.) And Iggy Azalea went to #1 NOT because of black men, but because of the white owned industry and her white fan base. Black men do not care for Iggy Azalea like she thinks they do and they never did.

Her saying black men were more hype for Cardi B and showing her more love than they ever did for Nicki Minaj or Remy Ma is also wrong. I remember when Nicki Minaj first started to become popular in the Hip-Hop scene. Tons of black men were fascinated with her. Maybe not because of her music, but definitely because of her looks. Black men were always raging over how she looked and a lot of them still do today and have done for her way more than Cardi B. And Remy Ma may not be as popular as Nicki or Cardi B mainstream wise, but many black men have complimented her rap skills and listen to her and do so more than they do with Cardi B. So, that’s just extremely false. I feel like she just said this because Cardi B isn’t black.

But I do agree with her basically saying black female rappers are typically overlooked. There are tons of beautiful black female rappers who are amazing rappers, but they don’t get to be #1 on Billboard or popular at all and are always pushed aside for light skinned or nonblack women. But again, I don’t blame black men for this. I blame the music industry. The industry doesn’t look at talent and we can tell just by listening to most popular songs on the radio today.

There’s enough anti-black man stuff on the Internet and a lot of it isn’t even necessary. This just adds on to it. Her post looked as if she viewed black men as the enemy for Cardi B having a #1 hit song and probably wants other black women to view them the same. Her post came off as bitter and ridiculous to me. It also showed me she’s just a bedwench.

What makes this worst is that many black women will believe her and hate black men for this because it’s in to throw black men under the bus now and blame them for everything bad. It’a pretty toxic way to think if you ask me.

Amanda Seales: You’re Losing

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“If you’re working a side hustle to support your dream hustle, YOU’RE WINNING.”

“If you’re broadening your mind, even just one book at a time, YOU’RE WINNING.”

“If you’ve realized everything you need for you is within you, YOU’RE WINNING.”

“If you’re buying Jordans and Nike Suits but you DON’T KNOW YOUR CREDIT SCORE, YOU’RE LOSING.”

“If you’re buying Jordans and Nike Suits but you DON’T HAVE A CREDIT CARD, YOU’RE LOSING.”

“If you’re buying Jordans and Nike Suits but you don’t have a PASSPORT, YOU’RE LOSING.”

“If you’re buying Jordans and Nike Suits but you’re sleeping on an air mattress, YOU’RE LOSING.”

I woke up to Amanda Seales trending on Twitter a few days ago. I clicked on her name to see what the fuss was about. Apparently, people were upset because of some tweets she made (referenced above).

People accused her of “judging” poor people. Trying to make it about because she grew up on television, she shouldn’t be able to tell people how to live. (*eye roll*) I’m not so sure why people were so offended. I thought what she was saying was spot on. I think the only reason people were offended was either because of poor comprehension or because they’re guilty of what she’s talking about and it struck a nerve.

I don’t even see where people could’ve gotten that she was talking down about poor people out of those tweets. It kind of disgusted me seeing all the people she had to explain her tweets to. It’s sad that people’s reading, comprehension, and understanding skills are that bad! What’s even sadder is I’m sure a lot of these people are full grown adults!

If you’re buying things like “Jordans and Nike suits” like she said, but you can’t afford to buy a proper mattress, travel, know your credit score, or whatever else is more important to put your money towards to advance yourself, your priorities are screwed up, you have poor money handling habits, and you’re LOSING!

That’s what’s wrong with a lot of us in our society today. We put our money into the wrong things and wonder why we’re not advancing or making much progress. Some of us spend more money on designer clothes than starting a business or side hustle for ourselves. Some of us spend more money on a fancy car, but live in a shack for a home or a horrible neighborhood.

If you can afford to buy “Jordans and Nike suits”, more power to you. If you have money, but don’t want any interest in traveling, that’s okay. But if you can’t afford to buy or invest your money in something important, but you can buy that type of stuff, something isn’t right.

She said something else in another tweet:

“It’s funny how when Jay-Z said all of this ya’ll kneeled at the alter but when I say it it’s (insert hurt feelings & fuckshit here) LOL”

This is spot on, too. So many people are always so quick to side with, praise, and agree when someone like Jay-Z is saying this stuff. But if someone like Amanda Seales says it, people have to find a fault in it. That makes ZERO sense.

Although many people agreed with the things Jay-Z was saying about prosperity over the years and on his album, 4:44 (probably some of the same people who are so offended by Amanda Seales’ tweets), there were some people who treated him just like they’re doing her. I just don’t understand it. I guess people just don’t like being told that they need to do better.

We have to do better with our money in this world. We have to do better for ourselves. Let’s stop being so quick to say somebody’s “judging” you, when in reality, they’re actually telling you advice that can really help you. Where does all this offensiveness about whatever someone says come from, exactly, anyway?

Why I’m Not Excited About The First Black Bachelorette 

Rachel Lindsay is the first black bachelorette for season 14 of ABC’s show, The Bachelorette. Lots of people are very happy that The Bachelorette is finally a black woman. But, unfortunately for me, I’m not as excited as other people are about it. 

And I’m not excited about it for two reasons. The first being the fact that it took this long to cast one in the first place. The Bachelorette has been aired on ABC for FOURTEEN YEARS! It shouldn’t have taken that long to cast a black one if they really wanted to cast one. 

Also, I now realize that there is no reason to be upset that certain groups of people (in this case, black people) aren’t included in a show, movie, or whathaveyou because it is their show. They are supposed to cast their own people or whoever they want. Every other racial group that has TV shows, movies, etc., casts their own people and do it without a problem. It’s time for us black people to start doing the same and stop worrying about if and when white people will cast us in something they created. 

The second reason is because she will most likely end up choosing a white man. Most (if not all; my brother used to tune in and watch it. I never did, but he would tell me what was going on. And he only watched it because he’s a wrestling fan and one of the black contestants was a professional wrestler. After he was eliminated and there was only one black man left in the show, my brother stopped watching it and telling me about it. So, I don’t know if the last black man has been eliminated or not) of the black men have been eliminated. And my brother told me about how one of the black men on the show said that she hasn’t had any one-on-one’s with any of the black men, but she had them with plenty of the white men on the show.

I knew when I first saw her that she would be more likely to choose a white man. First, because she’s on ABC, a white owned network. Second, she’s on The Bachelorette, a white created show, with a bunch of white men. More white men than black. Plus, something just looked off about her. She gave me a weird vibe. Something about her made me think she would more likely choose a man that wasn’t black.

Now, I’m not against interracial dating. What I’m not happy about is that very few, if any, of the white Bachelors and Bachelorettes on the shows have chosen to be with a nonwhite contestant, especially a black one. But the one and first black Bachelorette we have has to be more likely to choose a nonblack contestant? That just doesn’t sit well with me. 

I had this same reaction with Disney’s movie, The Princess and The Frog. After all these years Disney has been around making movies and all these princesses they have created and they are finally creating a black one? And she, too, was with a nonblack man in the movie. How many of the white Disney princesses were with black men? Don’t worry. I’ll wait.

I find it odd that after years upon years of not casting someone black on a show, they finally do and they put them with someone who isn’t black, most likely a white person. That just doesn’t feel right to me at all. Something is very wrong with that. 

I feel that instead of us being happy that a white show finally casted a black person on their show after years upon years of being on air, we should stop waiting for them to cast us in their shows and create and be happy with our own shows. Let’s stop waiting on white people! No other group of people wait on other people to create something for them and neither should we!