For many years, black people have been asking for police to stop brutalizing and killing our people and for any officer who does to be punished and to lose their jobs.
For many years, many cops have gotten away with killing unarmed people. They never get sent to prison and if they do, they get very small sentences. They get PAID leave and GoFundMes set up for them like they’re victims.
As a result, our people have8 been protesting and rioting because they won’t listen to us. They won’t listen to us telling them to stop peacefully and they’re not listening to us telling them to stop when we riot. So what else is left to do?
Our people created the Black Lives Matter slogan and organization to fight back against this treatment. But recently, another slogan has risen to popularity—Defund The Police.
A lot of people on social media acted like they didn’t know what Defund The Police meant, just like they acted like they didn’t know what Black Lives Matter meant. But Defund The Police means lowering the funds that go to the police department and putting them towards other things, like housing and education.
My issue with Defund The Police is that it’s not what we’re asking for. We’re asking for justice for the unarmed black people that they kill. We’re asking for any police officer to be locked up for a good amount of time if they do that. We’re asking for officers to lose their jobs if they do that. We’re asking for officers to not get paid if they do that.
The government can “defund” the police all they want, but it’s not going to stop the police from brutalizing and murdering unarmed people. I remember so many politicians this year talking about how much they were going to punish people who “looted and burned” at protests against the police. But I didn’t hear any of them talk about what they were going to do about these abusive and murdering cops.
Some people cheered and were happy about Kyle Rittenhouse shooting three people at a protest in Kenosha, Wisconsin. These people were more mad at people protesting against the cops than they were mad at cops murdering people. If the cops stopped murdering people, the protests will stop, but they don’t want to think about that.
I believe the media or whoever it is, is trying to get people to support Defund The Police to distract us from asking for justice and for these cops to be punished. I feel like Defund The Police is a slap in the face to us. They’re basically telling us they’re going to do NOTHING about these murderous cops. They want us to want us be happy with the police being “defunded” instead. They’re going to continue getting away with killing unarmed people. So, I think we need to be careful about supporting that.
We didn’t ask for police to be “defunded”. We asked for justice! Keep asking for justice! Don’t let them derail us!
A reader of mine brought to my attention that interracial dating isn’t always sunshine and rainbows like some black people make it seem like. I didn’t really know what to say about this. But this video I found on YouTube, which I will share at the end of this post, is perfect for what I needed to say here.
This video highlighted a story of a black woman finally coming forward about the abuse she suffered from her nonblack husband. The focus of the video is that nowadays, interracial dating is more promoted and glorified like they’re better than black relationships, but in a lot of those relationships, the black partner is dealing with abuse. And I’ve heard many stories about black people dealing with racism from their nonblack partner’s family or the nonblack partners themselves.
Now, I’m not using this video to discourage people from dating interracially. Because I’ve heard many stories about black women talking about the abuse they suffered from black men and vice versa. So in a lot of cases, black relationships aren’t always better either.
I honestly don’t really care about interracial dating to be honest. I just don’t like how black people are always so loud about the abuse they endure from each other. They can’t wait to share a story about a black man abusing a black woman or a black woman killing a black man and use these stories as an excuse to promote interracial dating, but when stories of racism, abuse, and murder happen with interracial couples, no one is saying anything because it goes against their agenda.
I want black people to start treating each other better. And I don’t want black people glorifying interracial relationships like they’re any better because in a lot of cases, they’re not. Check out the video below if you like and let me know what you think of it.
This is very disturbing to me, but I have been wondering about this for a while. I feel like most black people only love conscious Pro-Black people after they have died or gone to prison. And I feel like that because of how I see most black people treating conscious black people.
I hear lots of black people talking about how much they love Huey from The Boondocks and wished there were more people like him in the world or praise the likes of people like Marcus Garvey and Malcolm X. But when it’s our people living today that talk about conscious Pro-Black stuff, so many of our people dismiss them, calling them “hotep” or some other name they come up with. And if Huey from The Boondocks actually existed, NO ONE would listen to him! Just like it’s depicted in the cartoon!
I often find myself wondering how us black people are still acting so lost when we had so many people fighting for us and teaching us how to empower ourselves throughout history. I now believe this is why. Our people don’t listen to these people for real. If our people actually did listen, we wouldn’t be complaining about as much things as we do now.
So many people throughout history have told us the real deal about this country and how we need to unify, love ourselves, stop begging white people for everything and start doing things for ourselves if we want to really free ourselves from white supremacy. But from the looks of our people today, we haven’t applied what they taught us very well.
I’ve seen lots of our people talk about conscious people who are still alive that say these things and people dismiss them as being “agents” because they’re not dead or in prison. I’ve literally heard people say that. It seems like our people are so traumatized by our leaders getting murdered and imprisoned that we don’t even consider anyone a leader unless they have been murdered or imprisoned.
Just because someone hasn’t been murdered or imprisoned when they’re speaking on the real doesn’t always mean that they aren’t telling the truth. We still need to listen. Maybe the reason why they haven’t been murdered or imprisoned is because most people aren’t listening to them. The Powers That Be don’t see them as a threat because they see how so many people are dismissing them or simply don’t know about them at all.
Our people only love and praise these people after they have died, gone to prison, or are fictional. And then after that, we STILL don’t listen to them. It’s so sad. That’s exactly what The Powers That Be want. They want us to love the conscious people who are dead, in prison or fictional because they aren’t/no longer a threat. If we listen to the ones who are real, free, and alive, that would be threatening and might actually make real change.
For a while, I’ve been thinking about some of the things black people say about themselves. A fellow reader of mine brought this to my attention as well. I’ve noticed that a lot of times, black people like to say things such as:
“Black people are God’s chosen children.”
“Black people are Gods.”
“Black people are kings and queens.”
“Black people are the original and first human beings on this planet.”
“Black people have melanin and that makes us powerful, valuable, and special.”
“Black people are magic” or “Black Girl Magic”.
Now, I will compare this to the things I’ve heard many black people say about white people:
“White people came from caves in the Caucasus mountains.”
“Black people taught white people how to bathe.”
“White people spent centuries calling black people monkeys, but they’re the ones with the rhesus monkey DNA.”
“White people have Neanderthal DNA.”
“White people force superiority over other races because they’re the ones who are inferior.”
“White people sleep with animals.”
One of the issues I have with black people saying these things is because if they really believe these things, why don’t they act like it? They say all these things about themselves and white people only to beg them for equality. If you’re Gods, why would you want to be equal to anyone or anything else? Why are you begging to be “equal” to a people you JUST said came from caves and you taught them to bathe?
The other issue is, and this is what my reader said, is that saying these things keeps our people living in a fantasy land, and I believe saying these things blinds them from what they’re really going through collectively. Since black people say we’re Gods and kings and queens, how is it working out for us? How is our melanin saving us? How is being God’s chosen people helping us? I think saying all these things, especially if we don’t act like we truly believe it, makes us walk around with over inflated egos and a huge chip on our shoulders because all I hear is black people brag about themselves after saying it.
Black people say all these things, then turn around and have to beg white people for jobs and representation in their media. They beg white people to put black characters in their cartoons. They beg white people to make black dolls in their doll companies. You Gods, as you claim, can’t do that yourselves? Why do you need anyone else to do that for you? They say all these things, then have to beg white people to simply see that we “matter” with these Black Lives Matter protests. Gods and kings and queens need to beg someone else to see that they “matter” just as much as anyone else? Gods have to beg a people they claim came from caves that they matter?
Black people are always begging white people to give them more Grammys, Oscars, and whatever other award they created. Gods need validation from a people they claim came from caves? Gods can’t make their own awards and give them to their people themselves?
They sit online and say anybody can be and claim to be black. How, when they claim they’re God’s chosen people? According to them, God chose a specific people. God chose THEM! If that’s the case, it’s HIGHLY insulting and stupid to say anybody can be and claim to be them. And the only time they care about how stupid that statement sounds is when they’re being replaced and erased by other people that aren’t them. They say all these things about themselves and white people, then turn around and talk like white people are better to date and marry than their own people. They say all these things while we have to live under a white owned and created government. Why don’t black people have their own government if they believe all these things?
On the other side, look at how so many black people treat themselves and each other. If black people believed they were all these kings, queens, and Gods, then why do so many black people kill each other? Why are so many black fathers walking away from their children and leaving their women to raise them on their own? Why do so many black children get abused by their parents? Why are so many black men raping their women? Why are so many black people hooked on drugs and alcohol? Why are so many black people living in poverty? Why are there so many missing black children? Why can’t we stop our children from going missing?
Why do so many black people bleach their skin? I thought they said melanin was powerful. If it’s so powerful, why are so many of them trying to erase it? Why do so many of them make fun of and look down on dark skinned people? If melanin is powerful, why aren’t the darkest people amongst us celebrated by black people instead of the lightest people amongst us? Why do so many of them feel the need to bleach their skin like that and straighten their hair to fit in with the rest of the world if they are the original people of the earth? Why do they feel the need to look like people that aren’t?
Every time black people are criticized for something, they say, “White people do it, too.” But if they claim to be Gods or God’s chosen people and they claim that white people came from caves, that’s pretty much the point. They aren’t supposed to be doing ANYTHING that white people do, if that’s the case. Doing any of those things is bad when anybody does it, but if black people claim they’re Gods or God’s chosen people and they do any of these things, it’s WAY WORST!
Black people are also always complaining about how other races of people appropriate their culture and benefit off of it in ways that they can’t themselves. If black people are all these kings, queens, and Gods, why don’t they have the power to stop them? Black people are always complaining about police officers beating and killing unarmed black people. Why don’t we have the power to stop them? Why is it happening at all? If black people are Gods, kings, and queens, how did they allow people who they claim came from caves and haven’t been on this planet as long as them have so much power over them? How did we allow them to take our power?
I believe black people only say these things because they collectively have severe low self esteem, and like I’ve said several times on my blog, and I will most likely be saying it lots more, that low self esteem is due to a centuries long battle with slavery and oppression. And like I said earlier, saying these things keeps our people living in a fantasy. We say these things because we want to feel better about ourselves and what we’re going through. If we tell ourselves we’re Gods, kings, and queens, we can live in a world where we’re these powerful and special beings. But in real life, many of our people are going through hell. If black people actually believed these things they say about themselves and white people, NONE of the things our people are going through would be going on at all and they definitely wouldn’t be kissing up to and begging white people the way they do.
Get out of the fantasy world! Black people are not Gods, God’s chosen people, kings, or queens. They are REGULAR HUMAN BEINGS!
I can’t even begin to tell you how many times I’ve heard a black person say that other black people treat them so badly that they would rather hang out with white people because white people treat them so much better. Or how many black people have said other black people weren’t interested in dating them until they started dating white people.
A lot of black people like to laugh at people who say this and call them coons, but before you do that, think for a second. There’s a reason why these people feel this way. And they tell us all the time. These are genuine feelings these people feel. Black people shouldn’t treat each other so bad that our people don’t even feel comfortable and accepted by us.
We as black people are always complaining about how white people treat us. We’re always complaining about how white people negatively profile us and kill unarmed black people, which are legit reasons for us to be upset. However, in our own communities, the crimes and murders committed against each other is way higher. Black people are more likely to be hurt and/or killed by another black person way more than by a white person.
And don’t get me started on how so many black people project colorism on each other. So many of our people say, do, and think the worst about dark skinned people. We get mad about Hollywood not putting enough dark skinned people in the media in a positive and tasteful way, but a lot of times, our people are the ones who give more attention to people with lighter skin. Our people are also the main ones referring to dark skinned people as derogatory terms—“black”, “crusty”, “burnt”, etc. This way of referring to black people sounds like racist terms from white people, but white people usually aren’t the ones saying this to black people. It’s other black people! As colorist as so many black people are, if black people owned a Hollywood, they would probably erase dark skinned people out just like white Hollywood does.
A lot of black people on a regular basis look down on natural hair and refuse to wear it, but want to cry when white people say something negative about it. Or cry when they see a white woman wear an afro. Anything negative a white person says about black hair, trust me. MORE black people have said the exact same thing, if not worst. Before these current years where natural hair is now seen as more acceptable, lots of black people used to call them nappy headed and try to persuade them to straighten their hair. So many black people are upset when black people with dreads are refused jobs or prevented to graduate school, but I’ve heard black people say the worst things I’ve ever heard about dreads, sounding just like a racist white person.
Black people are online everyday trying to explain to nonblacks that they can’t say nigga, but call each other niggas all day long. When a nonblack person actually does say it, black people crumble. The Boondocks did an episode about that, titled “The S Word”, where Riley’s teacher said the word nigga and Riley acted like he was so hurt when he says nigga probably more than anybody in the whole show! And what I hate the most is a lot of us try to lie and say the word actually means “king” and comes from the Ethiopian word “negus”, but a lot of times when black people call each other niggas, nothing positive follows that in their sentence. So if the word means “king”, how come when black people say it, it isn’t always in a positive way? And if the word means king, why do we crumble so much when white people say it? It’s because we know what that word means and where it comes from and it DOESN’T mean king!
I notice that some black people online, when they see interracial couples, they use the black person’s partner turning out to be racist or their partner ending up abusing or killing them as an excuse to turn other black people away from interracial dating, but both black men and black women are more likely to be abused, hurt, and killed by each other than in interracial relationships.
Black people get angry when white businesses turn them away because of their names, yet in the next breath, make fun of another black person’s name, calling their names “ghetto”.
What’s sad is all this antiblackness that black people push on each other gets passed down to their children. And we have the nerve to act shocked when a black child says they feel ugly because they’re dark skinned or a 4 year old black girl throws a fit because her hair isn’t straight.
Don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying that we shouldn’t say or do anything about white people who disrespect, abuse, and kill us. I’m saying that we should treat each other better! We can’t cry about how racist people treat us, then turn around and treat each other the exact same way. It doesn’t work that way!
A lot of things have opened my eyes since I found the black conscious side of the internet and around 2010-2011 when I found the natural hair side of YouTube. People from both of these communities encourage black women to wear their own hair the most. Some black women’s response to this is that it’s “just hair” and it “shouldn’t be that serious”.
I believe it’s NOT just hair. Thinking about the history of how black men and black women have been disrespected and discriminated against for their real hair is enough for me to see that, already. But there are a lot more examples that show me that it’s not “just hair”.
Many black women can’t even call their hair JUST hair. We always have to put a descriptor or something in front before we say hair when we talk about our hair. For instance, instead of calling our hair JUST hair, we call our hair “natural” hair or “4a/b/c” hair. Black women are literally the only group on the planet that has to call our hair “natural” or refer to our hair as subcategories. I don’t hear white, Asian or any other race of people, calling their hair “natural” or referring to their hair as “1a/b/c” and so forth.
I also hear a lot of black women calling their hair a “crown”. Our hair isn’t a crown! It’s HAIR! I believe we call our hair a “crown” because we’ve been made to think negatively about our hair for so long and we say that so we can feel better about our hair. Crowns are associated with royalty. So if we call our hair “crowns”, we can feel like we’re associated with kings and queens when we wear our own hair. Honestly, I feel like that it so unnecessary. We shouldn’t have to think of our hair that way just so we can be happy with it.
This reminds me of a children’s book I saw on social media a few years ago titled Penny and the Magic Puffballs, where a black woman wrote a book to help her daughter, I believe, feel better about her hair because she wanted straight hair like all the other girls around her. She styled her daughter’s hair into puffballs and called them “magic”. I understand the message, but I just think that it’s sad that a little black girl’s hair has to be called “magic” just to get her to be happy with it. It can’t JUST BE hair.
Whenever black women are finally breaking away from wearing weaves, wigs, and relaxers, and are started to wear and take care of their real hair, they refer to wearing their real hair as a “journey”. Wearing the hair you were born with exactly as it grows out of your scalp without altering it shouldn’t be a “journey”. It should just be you finally not being afraid of wearing your hair.
When I go into the hair products aisle in every store and see every product labeled as JUST hair products, but the black hair products have to be called “natural” hair products makes me sick and angry.
Most black female cartoon characters and dolls are depicted with straight hair and they aren’t even real. If it’s just hair, how come most black female fictional characters and dolls don’t even have our textured hair?
This society made us feel that we have to call our hair something different because they’re uncomfortable with it. This is why I believe it’s important for us to get rid of the fake hair and hair straighteners anyway just to give a FUCK YOU to this obviously racist society that tries so hard to make us hate everything about ourselves.
We are constantly calling our hair everything except JUST hair. So, the next time I hear someone say it’s “just hair”, I will know it’s a lie. I think people only say that because they know that the encouraging people are right about black people embracing our own hair, but they don’t want to listen. They just say that because they don’t have a better rebuttal. Black people and this society as a whole clearly have an issue with our hair.
On social media, I’ve seen many black people defend other races of people when they are experiencing racism and discrimination. Black people defended Hispanics who were dealing with deportation and their families being torn apart by ICE. Black people defended Mexicans when Donald Trump was talking about building walls to block them out of the country and saying they’re responsible for bringing drugs and crime to the country. Black people defended Chinese people when Donald Trump referred to the Coronavirus as the “Chinese virus”. Black people even defend white people who are being disrespected by other black people online. There are so many examples out there of where our people defended other races of people. Our people will defend anyone, regardless of race. If no other race defends another race who is experiencing racism and disrespect, best believe our people will!
On the flip side, I’ve seen other black people shame and criticize the ones who defend all of these races of people, saying that these other races of people rarely, if ever, care about or defend us when we’re experiencing racism, so why should we care about their problems and defend them?
Although I completely agree with that, I don’t hate the ones who defend other races of people at all because I believe I know why our people do this. Our people have been experiencing racism and discrimination for centuries in America. We know what it feels like to be discriminated against and looked down upon because of our race. Our people have been through being told we couldn’t go to certain places because we are black. Our people witness being sentenced harsher sentences in the judicial system than white people for the same crimes too many times. Our people get told that our own hair that grows out of our scalps is “unprofessional” and “ugly”. Our people know what it feels like to be disrespected and looked down upon just because of the color of our skin. Our people know what being negatively stereotyped all throughout media day in and day out feels like. Our people don’t want to see anyone else going through that, so we defend them. I can’t hate my people for having sympathy.
It’s actually a bittersweet thing. Our people have such a soft spot for fighting against racism, no matter who is experiencing it, but it seems like nobody cares about us to do the same for us. I know our people know that, too. I just feel like it doesn’t stop us from fighting.
I believe our defensiveness of everyone is definitely a side effect of being discriminated against for so long. I think before we are so quick to criticize and shame one another, we need to think of why our people do these things first. A lot of the time, it’s because of serious deep rooted issues like this one. We have to remember what our people have gone through in this country throughout history because what our people have gone through plays a HUGE part of how we act and react to things today, regardless of how “long ago” it was.
I heard several times on the internet of some people saying the reason America hadn’t paid black people reparations for what they did to black people for centuries is because it would make America bankrupt. Many people hear that and think they’re lying. I had to think about it for a moment before I asked myself, ‘What if they’re not lying?’
The American government KNOWS they owe black people reparations. They know EXACTLY HOW MUCH they owe. They probably owe us every cent this country is worth. And that’s just in money. They owe us way more than just money. They owe us acres upon acres of land. They owe us credit for things we invented that they take credit and get paid for, and so much more. They know that if they gave black people everything they owe, the whole American government would be destroyed and abolished.
I, amongst many other black people, could care less what happens to the American government after they pay what they owe in reparations. Boohoo to them! They should’ve thought of that before they did what they did to our people and continue to do it to this day! However, they don’t feel the same way.
The American government is not willing to give up all of their money, land, and power to make up for what they did to us. They don’t love or feel guilty enough to do that. They’ll give us jobs. They’ll give us little roles on TV shows and movies. They’ll parade our musicians on airwaves for a little bit. They’ll give us money, but only an amount they’re comfortable with. They’ll try to be our friends. They’ll give us anything, as long as they don’t have to pay us reparations.
When they say giving black people reparations would bankrupt America, THEY’RE NOT LYING. (Or at least, I don’t think so.) They’re telling the truth right to our faces!
I know we’ve all heard people say a dark skinned woman is “pretty to be dark”. I remember the episode a few years ago on Oprah’s Lifeclass show about colorism and a young woman was sharing her story about how people treated her for being dark skinned. One of the things she mentioned that hurt her was this “pretty to be dark” saying. And she said, “Why does it have to be all that? Why can’t I just be pretty?” Still to this day, her saying that really makes me feel for her and other dark skinned women who are going through the same thing.
For years, we’ve all heard the debates about who looked better on the show, Martin, between Gina (Tisha Campbell) and Pam (Tichina Arnold). Lots of people say Tichina Arnold looked better than Tisha Campbell and Tisha was “just light skinned”. I never realized how messed up this argument was until I started really thinking about it recently.
Why couldn’t people JUST call Tichina Arnold beautiful? People acted like Tisha Campbell was ugly or “average” just to say Tichina looked good, when Tisha wasn’t ugly or average at all. Tisha Campbell is very beautiful. Why couldn’t they both be beautiful?
People compare beautiful dark skinned women to light skinned women all the time before just calling them beautiful, like a dark skinned woman looking better than a light skinned woman is some kind of prize or shock.
People have to pretend a beautiful light skinned woman is ugly or average just to call a dark skinned woman beautiful and yet these same people will try to tell you that colorism doesn’t exist and we don’t have a problem with skin tones.
Why do people feel the need to do this if they didn’t think somewhere in their minds that light skin gets put on a pedestal and that there is some problem between light skin and dark skin?
On the flip side, no one really compares beautiful light skinned women to other people just to call them beautiful. They just call them beautiful and leave it at that. Does anyone compare Beyoncé’s looks to anyone before they call her beautiful or do they JUST call her beautiful? Does anyone compare Rihanna’s looks to anyone before calling her beautiful or do they JUST call her beautiful? What about Megan Good? Nicki Minaj? I could go on and on.
So after what I’ve said, why can’t people JUST compliment a dark skinned woman and leave it at that? Why does extra stuff have to be added to the compliment? Are people afraid to or feel some type of way about complimenting dark skinned women? Is comparing beautiful dark skinned women to light skinned women and acting like the light skinned woman isn’t that pretty the new “pretty to be dark”?
Whenever black women call out these white women or any other nonblack women who purposely and willingly copy things from black women and act like it’s some new thing, someone always says, “Well, what about black women wearing weave, blue/green eye contacts, and bleaching their skin? Aren’t they cultural appropriating?”
I think this question is stupid and deflecting. Instead of acknowledging that these nonblack women are copying black women and getting put on a pedestal while black women get overlooked or dogged out, they try to flip it on black women. Black women wearing weave, bleaching their skin, or wearing blue or green eye contacts is not cultural appropriation.
I feel like a lot of black women who do those things do it to feel more beautiful in a society that puts down black hair, skin, and features. White and other nonblack women who wear black women’s hairstyles, get surgeries to get black women’s body features, etc. aren’t getting those things to feel more beautiful because their looks are already the standard in this society.
Their looks are celebrated over black women’s in the media all the time. They copy our looks to be trendy and/or replace us in media and not to be more accepted because they will get accepted with or without the surgeries and hairstyles. Black women actually HAVE TO have lighter skin, straight hair, and a certain body shape to be accepted and celebrated in both media and regular society.
At the same time, although I believe black women altering their features is not cultural appropriating, I do believe it is wrong and hypocritical of us to cry and complain about other races of women “trying to look and be like us” when we’re sitting around with a straight blonde wig on or whenever we’re taking a picture online, we have to turn the brightness up to make our skin look lighter. We have a lot of nerve crying because some white woman wore braids when we don’t have our own hair in our heads.
One thing I’ve learned about white people is that they like to use people’s words against them. They know when they are cultural appropriating, but they like acting like they don’t know what it is. So, when they’re called out on it, they like flipping the script to, “Well, what about you?”
If we want to call them out for what they’re doing, we can at least not do the same thing they’re doing. We have to get rid of weaves and hair straightening, skin bleaching/photo lightening, different color eye contacts, or anything that remotely erases our blackness. It may not stop them cultural appropriating altogether, but at least they can’t use us as an excuse to keep doing it. We can call them out and actually hold them accountable for what they’re doing.
If we’re not going to stop with the straight hair and skin bleaching, we can’t say anything about them. They have a point when they say that. And we can’t bring up, “There are black women all over the world that have naturally straight hair and natural blue/green eyes,” when that’s not you. You don’t have naturally straight hair or natural blue or green eyes. That’s why you have to go buy it, so that’s an invalid argument.
We have to start accepting all of our features 100% with no altering. Then, and only then, will we be right in calling out all these nonblack women who are cultural appropriating. Until then, we can’t say anything.