Are People Creeped Out By Women With Curves Or Big Legs?

I think about all the woman teachers who made news headlines a few years ago because people were wondering if their clothes were too revealing to be in a school environment. Patrice Brown, a.k.a. “Teacher Bae”, is one of many great examples of this. She went viral a few years ago because people made her attire controversial. To a person that hadn’t seen a photo of her, by the way people were reacting, they would think the teacher was wearing a ridiculously short skirt or a shirt that showed too much cleavage. Not at all! She was fully dressed. Her dress reached to her knees. Nothing was showing except her legs.

I remember seeing a picture of Fantasia on Facebook years ago where she was wearing a leotard and many people in the comments were screaming at her to “put some pants on”. By the way the leotard was made, the whole thing couldn’t be seen, so it looked like she was just wearing a top with no pants. I think about how women like Rihanna, BeyoncĂ©, and Ariana Grande dress. They wear short things that show their legs all the time and I’ve never heard anyone tell them to “put pants on” under their pictures (unless they barely have anything on at all). Did people react to Fantasia that way because she has bigger legs?

(This isn’t the exact photo of her I’m talking about, but she was wearing something like this.)

I remember one time I wore some shorts and my dad told me I should “wear pants instead” because they were “too revealing”. I’m in my twenties, so he didn’t say it because of my age or because because I’m “too young”, I should say. And my shorts were no different than any other shorts that people wear. They weren’t too short or too tight. I kept wearing the shorts anyway because I knew there was no problem with them. I think he only said that because I have big legs. I noticed no one ever tells thin women that they can’t wear shorts or skirts that show their legs because it’ll be “too revealing”. I’ve only heard it said to women with bigger legs.

I’ve seen many other posts and photos on social media of people taking women of any profession who were curvy and FULLY CLOTHED asking if what they’re wearing is “appropriate”. What I gathered from all of this is that many people just might be creeped out or intimidated by women with curves or women who have big legs and they project it on to these women to make it look like the women are the problem, but in reality, THESE PEOPLE COMPLAINING are the problem.

My theory on why people are intimidated is that men are because they are actually attracted to these curvy women or women who have big legs, but they probably feel like they can’t or shouldn’t act on it, so they project and try to tell these women to change what they’re wearing.

The women are probably intimidated, most likely, due to jealousy. The women saying these women are “dressed inappropriately” are jealous because they wished they looked like that, but because they don’t, they project and make it seem like the woman is the problem.

This also sounds like sexism. It sounds like people are looking for an excuse to police what women wear. How come there are no viral stories on the internet asking if what a man wore to work was appropriate?

It’s a shame that our society is like this. Leave curvy women alone! The problem is not them or what they’re wearing. It’s THESE PEOPLE wanting something to say!

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Which Matters More In Music: Lyrics or Beats?

I’ve heard this debate go on in music, particularly hip-hop, for years. I see so many people online and hear so many people in public debating about whether lyrics matter more in a song or if beats matter more. Some people say that lyrics don’t matter at all and the beat and hook to a song is the most important of all.

I believe that choosing one over the other is both wrong. I believe both lyrics AND beats are equally important. Songs would’ve have words if lyrics didn’t matter. Songs wouldn’t have beats if beats didn’t matter. In a lot of songs, there’s a lot of work that gets put into the lyrics. There’s a lot of work that gets put into beats as well. Both take talent and skill to make, so to say either one doesn’t matter, to me, sounds like downplaying the work these people put in to make a song what it is. And it’s only being downplayed due to ignorance. Many people who listen to music have never wrote a song or produced a beat a day in their lives, so they don’t understand the work that goes into it.

I think the people that say lyrics don’t matter in a song more than likely are incapable of listening to lyrics. They just don’t know how to listen to lyrics or they don’t understand them, so they ignore them and go straight to the beat and hook.

I also think saying lyrics don’t matter in a song is a lie probably created by the music industry. A lot of songs send horrible messages. A lot of songs promote things like murder, rape, disrespect, and drugs. The music industry doesn’t want to stop promoting these negative messages, so they try to fool people into not worrying about lyrics.

If we say lyrics don’t matter, then these types of lyrics will go over everyone’s heads and they’ll be listening to these types of songs and promoting these messages without batting an eyelash.

Just like you have to know the type of food you’re putting in your body to stay healthy, you have to know what music you’re listening to in order to keep your mind healthy. It might sound crazy, but it’s true. (You have to do the same with television, too. You have to know what types of shows you’re watching on television and what messages they are sending. It’s not just a TV show. It’s not just a movie. It’s not just a cartoon, but this is a topic for a totally different post.)

What People Who Miss MySpace Made Me Realize

For years, I’ve heard many people wish for the days of MySpace to come back. Many people say they miss MySpace and want it to be “popping” again. I realized that people aren’t really missing anything at all.

By the way these people talk, you would think MySpace was shut down to never be used again. Nope! MySpace is still here. And if you miss it that bad, you can easily reopen your account and ask your friends on other social media platforms to add you there, especially if those friends say they miss MySpace, too. But for some reason, people don’t want to do that. Why do people ask for things that have an obvious solution?

MySpace never left. PEOPLE LEFT MYSPACE! Then started crying about “missing” it. This is a weird phenomenon that I think should be examined. It makes me feel like many people in our society have some sort of mental issue.

What’s even weirder are the people who talk down about MySpace like they never used it ever in their lives. Almost everyone you know, probably yourself included, has used MySpace at one point in their lives and LOVED it, so to talk like that is beyond stupid to me. I believe those types of people miss MySpace the most and just talk like that to hide it.

I think this exposes the groupthink mentality that many people have and/or the low intelligence level. Who said people couldn’t use MySpace anymore? Why? Why were people so eager to go along with it?

This same phenomenon can be applied to people who say they “miss” certain music artists. A vast majority of the time, these artists never stopped making music. Just because you don’t hear them on the radio means nothing. It never did. These people have been making music long before they hit one radio station and they will continue making music still long after they are no longer on the radio. If you look them up on YouTube, Google, or their social media, you will immediately see that they have tons of new music out.

The artists never went anywhere. THE PEOPLE DID! The big question is why? If these people loved these things and celebrities so much, why did they abandon them? Why don’t they simply just go back to using it? Again, who’s saying we can’t love these things anymore? Why are we so eager to listen, then cry about “missing” them later?

With this phenomenon, I also realized that people cheat themselves out of tremendous power. People say they “want MySpace to be popping again”, yet don’t go back to using it. If they simply went back to using it, it would be “popping” again. Same thing with music artists. If they simply went back to listening to their music, follow them on social media, or whatever, and stopped waiting on the radio to tell them to, they would be popular again. Yet, for some weird reason, people just don’t do it. They cry about “missing” them instead.

What I hate the most about this is when this stuff is pointed out, people get defensive and act like they don’t see or notice this pattern. They do it ALL THE TIME with EVERYTHING!

I just want people to stop being a bunch of groupthinkers and think for themselves. Stop letting whatever it is tell you what to love. Love things because YOU love it. Stop loving things just because they’re popular amongst other people and have YOUR OWN reasons to love things.

If You Refer To A Celebrity As Irrelevant, You Are FAKE!

(Photo: Wikimedia Commons)

Hearing this word, “irrelevant”, get thrown around so much on the Internet gives me a very uneasy feeling. People say this about any celebrity, whether they are music artists, movie stars, comedians, or athletes. I think it’s extremely annoying.

I say people are FAKE as ALL GET OUT when they call a celebrity irrelevant because nine times out of ten, they’re saying this about people that they loved at one point. A lot of these celebrities people call “irrelevant” have been insanely popular at one point in their lives. If these people were that popular, chances are they loved, listened to, and/or watched them A LOT themselves at one point in their lives. It just seems really weird for people to call someone irrelevant when they loved them at one point.

I believe a lot of people just like throwing that word around. So many people are online all day everyday living through celebrities. Jealous of their lives and fame. Calling them “irrelevant” gives them a reason to feel better about their lives. In reality, I feel like people throw the word “irrelevant” around on celebrities because they feel so insignificant by celebrities that they project those feelings onto them. They call celebrities irrelevant because they feel irrelevant compared to celebrities. I think if people are at that point, they seriously need to turn their televisions and Internet off for a while and learn to appreciate their own lives so they won’t feel like that about their lives or a celebrity’s life.

Another huge reason that makes people HORRIBLY fake for calling celebrities irrelevant is that it makes them seem like they only liked the celebrity because they were popular. They didn’t have their own reasons for liking them. They only liked them because they thought everyone else did. Their faces are plastered on television and magazines everywhere. People are talking about them all the time. The SECOND all of that stops, the “fans” disappear–well, at least most of them, and act like they never loved them. It’s really dumb. This is why I think at least 95% of most celebrity fanbases are full of fake fans. Only fans because they’re on a bandwagon.

I can only imagine that type of pressure if I were a celebrity. It makes me feel like fame isn’t really all that worth it. People are just ready and waiting to pounce on you the second they feel like you “failed” because that’s how insecure and threatened they feel by your success and fame. I’m pretty sure that makes a lot of celebrities feel the insane pressure of always having to sell high records all the time. The insane pressure of having to win every game or a certain amount of games and championships all the time. The insane pressure of having to always sell out arenas. The high pressure of always having to pull a certain amount of money in the box office. The insane pressure of having a certain amount of #1’s or hit songs in general. Because the second they don’t, they will be called “irrelevant”, “washed up”, etc., by their OWN FANS and people who didn’t like them anyway and just using that as an excuse to hate them because they don’t really have a real reason to hate them in the first place. They’re just miserable and like being negative.

What’s worst enough is the main people sitting on the Internet calling people “irrelevant” all day are people who couldn’t even do an OUNCE of what celebrities do. I know it’s not easy to win Grammys, sell out shows, win a lot of games, sell a lot of records, get high ratings on television shows, tear out the box office, etc., especially when we all know the entertainment industry has a HUGE reputation of overlooking people who have AMAZING talent and deserve to be praised just as much as anybody else. People call celebrities “irrelevant” because they don’t understand the actual work that goes into what they do. They’re just looking at the finished product and thinking everything is easy for them when it really isn’t.

Not only do I think these people can’t do anything celebrities do, they wouldn’t be able to handle thousands, maybe even MILLIONS, of hate comments of people saying the same thing to them that they say to celebrities EVERYDAY. Most people can’t even handle one negative comment. They’ll be ready to fight someone after one negative thing someone says about them. I KNOW they won’t be able handle the amount of negative comments celebrities have to handle on a daily basis.

But I guess people will never understand how it really feels until they or someone they know are in that same position and other people are treating them like that because they lack the ability to see how other people feel or might feel. A lot of people don’t know how anything feels until it happens to them.

Why Do We Laugh At These Things?

STEVIE WONDER:

Stevie Wonder jokes and memes run rampant on the Internet. As a matter of fact, people have been making blind jokes about Stevie Wonder for as long as I can remember. I’ve been hearing them since I was a kid. Tons of people made jokes and memes about him being blind. I must admit that I used to laugh at quite a few of them. But now that I look back on it, I think it’s pretty sickening and distasteful to make jokes about someone for being blind.

Being blind is a serious thing and is the furthest thing from a laughing matter. I believe most people are only okay with telling these jokes and laughing at them because they don’t understand blindness. They’re not blind themselves and they’re not close to anyone who’s blind. If they were, they wouldn’t think blindness is funny at all and would be very offended and upset at people for making fun of them or their loved one for being blind.

I also think people make fun of Stevie Wonder for being blind because he is famous. I don’t think people would make jokes and memes out of a regular blind person. If they did, they would be dragged and shamed all over the Internet, would probably make the news for bullying, and all of their social media accounts would be terminated. But since Stevie is a celebrity, people don’t take it as seriously.

I can only imagine what life would be like if I were blind. Sight is definitely something I think so many of us take for granted. Not being able to see for the rest of your life sounds like a very sad and horrible thing. Millions of people across the world have to live with this, yet this is what we choose to laugh and make jokes about?

RODNEY KING:
Jokes about Rodney King is another thing I’ve been hearing since I was a kid. I would hear comedians and people around me making jokes about him getting beat. Since people thought it was so funny, I thought he got beat up by a woman, another man, or a group of men. But as a child, I still thought it was weird that people were laughing at him getting beat, regardless of who beat him. As I grew up, I later learned and found out that he was beaten by police.

After finding out he was beaten by police, I always thought, if he was beaten by police, why is it so funny? I’m still wondering why it’s funny. Somebody please answer this for me and help me. Why is someone getting beat up by police funny? Isn’t this the same incident that sparked the 1992 LA riots? Isn’t an incident like this the same thing Black Lives Matter is fighting against today? How did this become so funny? Why are people laughing at the very same thing people rioted and got killed for? Why?

RIHANNA:
Ever since the incident between her and Chris Brown happened, people have been making jokes about it. Snapchat even made a distasteful poll that said ‘Would You Rather Slap Rihanna or Punch Chris Brown?’, which was obviously making fun of the incident. Rihanna’s response to the poll costed Snapchat to lose millions of dollars in shares. Jokes about Ike and Tina Turner, Whitney Houston and Bobby Brown, and many other celebrity domestic violence disputes have ran rampant for many, many years as well. And just like the Stevie Wonder jokes, I think people only make jokes about them because they’re celebrities. People are a whole lot less likely to make a joke about a regular couple suffering from domestic violence.

I’ve heard people make jokes about people getting raped, children being molested, and child abuse, amongst other distasteful and insensitive things.

We can keep saying it’s “just a joke” to justify these jokes all we want, but some things shouldn’t be made into a joke and should be taken seriously. Everything can’t be made into a joke.

I think this proves that our society is sick. There are so many things I see and hear people making jokes about that they really shouldn’t. I think most people in our society are mentally ill and desensitized to things they should be highly sensitive to.

“I Don’t Care” Is The Biggest Lie People Tell

“I don’t care about my ex’s new boyfriend/girlfriend.”

“I don’t care about Shayla’s new car.”

“I don’t care Ryan got Employee of the Month at work.”

“I don’t care how much money Stella makes.”

“I don’t care Thomas got a promotion on the job.”

“I give zero fucks about what people think and say about me.”

People say “I don’t care” or “I don’t give a fuck” about a lot of things, but it’s probably one of the biggest and common lies ever told.

I remember one time when I was going to high school. The students were taking an ACT/SAT prep exam. The people checking our exams called out a few students who they were very impressed by their writing in the writing section of the exam. I heard one girl say to her group of friends, “Nobody cares because they wrote a paper with big words”. And she kept saying it over and over again. Clearly she did or she wouldn’t have said anything at all! And definitely wouldn’t have kept going on and on about it. She cared because she was more than likely upset that the teachers complimented them on their writing and not hers.

This is what I hear a lot of people doing. They see or hear about something and they just have to say they “don’t care” or “don’t give a fuck” about it, even if nobody said anything to them specifically about it. A lot of times, they would bring up something themselves just to say they “don’t care” about it. And they talk about it over and over again. I hear so many people say “I don’t care” so much, I’m convinced they don’t even know what it actually means.

When they do that, they already know that they care. They say they give “zero fucks” about it, but in reality, they give a million! What they’re really doing is trying to convince themselves and other people around them that they don’t care. They have to convince other people that they don’t care because they know they care, but they don’t want other people to know that they do. They are probably ashamed and embarrassed that they care. They hate that they care.

But what nobody can do is convince themselves of something they know is not true. No one can lie to or fool themselves, no matter how hard they try.

I Don’t Like Being Awake Pt. 2

I love this song by Katy Perry, “Chained To The Rhythm”. I think it explains what’s going on in our society today very vividly. But, I kind of hate it because the song is a very important message and there are people still thinking this song is about fun and paryting and shaming others who are telling them what the song is irrefutably about.

I think people just don’t want to accept the message. There’s no way the message of this song can get miscontrued. You have to just not be listening at all in order to miss the point of this song. It’s straightforward through and through and there are no riddles and metaphors like a lot of other things out here that try to tell people the truth, but tell it in a way that you have to think about it for a while to figure it out.

But anyway, I shared the video because I felt like the video described my feelings about being awake perfectly.

In the beginning of the video, when Katy Perry first walked into the amusement park (fittingly) called “Oblivia”, she’s very happy. That’s what it feels like when you’re living in “Oblivion”. It’s a lot of fun and she’s enjoying everything. So is everyone else. Nothing seems wrong. She doesn’t see any of the chaos that’s going on around her.

Later, she goes into the movie theater. For some reason, she takes off her 3D glasses. She sees Skip Marley walking up to her from out of the screen. She reaches out to him and smiles. I interpret this as him telling her what’s really going on. Once that happens, she suddenly “wakes up”.

Then, she turns around, looking as if she’s frantically trying to tell everyone what’s really going on and everything she just learned and realized, but nobody’s listening and they continue to dance around like nothing’s going on. This is what I feel like when myself, and many others, try to tell the truth and people either don’t listen or deny it.

Afterwards, she gets inside the wheel. She moves for a moment, then stops. Looking as if she’s defeated. This looks like she finally sees what is happening, but probably feels she can’t do much about it to change it. That also kind of looks like she wants to enjoy “Oblivia” again, but can’t because she knows what it really is now. She now knows it’s not real. It’s all FAKE. It’s all a LIE.

Then, there’s the end. Where the camera zooms in on her face and it looks like she has a sad, shocked look in her eyes. Like I said, once you wake up from “Oblivion” and see everything that’s going on, you can never go back. You will feel disturbed and disgusted. Nothing will ever feel the same again.