Are People Actually Upset That Child Abuse Is Outlawed?

“They need to bring back whoopin yo kids ass!”

I hear people say this so much. People say this like everybody stopped whipping their kids. People DIDN’T stop. INCLUDING the ones who say this! Why would people ask to “bring back” something they never stopped doing? What do they really want to bring back? Child abuse? PUNCHING their kids? Hitting their kids with hard objects? This is exactly what a lot of people were doing to their kids and more before it was outlawed.

A lot of people say things and don’t realize what they’re saying. This is exactly what it sounds like to me— that people really want to bring back child abuse—when they say that.

I also think people know of and heard of all the studies that came out speaking against whipping and yelling at children and exposed the negative effects of it, but they don’t want to stop doing it. They want to go back to when scientists and psychologists weren’t studying that so much and exposing it so they can go back to doing it in peace.

I am anti hitting kids as discipline. I never understood why it was necessary. Whipping children with belts is one thing, but why do some people think they need to hit their children with something worst than that? Why is it so hard for people to discipline their kids without yelling or hitting them? People have to hit and yell at their kids to “discipline” them like they’re wild animals.

If anything, the constant whipping and yelling is more than likely why the kids are acting up. The studies said that—whipping children causes behavior problems, amongst many other things, but people who like doing that didn’t listen.

I’ve noticed that whenever people see a video of a child acting horribly online, they say, “This is why we whoop our kids!” But why do these people automatically assume that the child isn’t getting whipped by their parents? They don’t know that child or their parents personally.

Also, I’ve seen tons of horrible acting children who are always getting whipped, smacked, and yelled at by their parents. These people know that, too, which is why they feel like they have to do it so much. So, a child acting badly doesn’t always mean they aren’t getting whipped. That’s just people using other bad children as an excuse to justify why they hit theirs.

Another thing I thought of is some people probably don’t think whipping their children is working as well as they thought (Studies said that, too, but again, they didn’t listen). They’re realizing that their kids are still really bad no matter how much they hit and yell at them. So, they feel like they need to up the ante and hit their kids with something more. They wish laws would let them hit their kids with more than just a belt or switch.

When people say they wish the government would bring back beating children, it makes me think that there are some people out there who are actually upset that child abuse has been outlawed and the negative effects of hitting them in any way or yelling at them has been widespread news for decades.

Are We A Delusional Society?

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I think about posts that I have previously written on this blog about people denying obvious things like colorism, laughing at things we really shouldn’t be, holding up lies about our hair, our views on white people, arguing about whether mixed and other nonblack people are black, and missing things that have never actually gone away. It really makes me wonder are we living in a delusional society? Do we do these things because we’re delusional?

Every time someone talks about sexism and misogyny, people get mad and deny it.

Every time someone talks about racism, people get mad and deny it.

Every time someone talks about colorism, people get mad and deny it.

Every time someone talks about how corrupted the government is, people get mad and deny it.

Every time someone talks about how the things we see on television and hear on the radio influence our thoughts and behaviors, people get mad and deny it.

I can go on and on about how much crazy things go on in this society and how much people cry about and deny it when someone sheds a light on it.

I believe we do all this denying because this society is delusional. I think we love telling ourselves that America is such this great, noble, perfect country–a utopia–that’s greater and better than all other countries so much that when something comes up that completely proves that this isn’t true, many of us get upset.

But people, America is the furthest thing from the greatest, perfect country. There’s so many things we need to work on and get rid of before we can even begin thinking that our country and society is great and perfect.

We love holding up this idea that America is all sunshine and rainbows where everyone lives happily and equally and it’s just FALSE!

ICE is separating people from their families. Black people are still getting discriminated against and facing racism in many places, especially in Hollywood. They are just now passing laws in some states to protect black women against being discriminated against in workplaces for wearing their natural hair.

There’s a news story recently about three white students cutting a black student’s dreadlocks because they said it was “ugly”. We hear about all these mass shootings at schools and other pubic places. Women are getting raped and sexually harassed all over this country and many of these cases don’t get solved and many people like blaming the woman for being raped and sexually harassed. Unarmed black men are getting killed by police. Many LGBTQ people are being bullied, harassed, discriminated against, and killed for their sexualites.

We need to wake up and stop being so delusional about this. If we don’t, all these things are going to keep going on while we continue to lie to ourselves about it. History, as well as the present, has shown us what this country and society is all about, yet for some strange reason, we continue to think otherwise. It’s up to us to accept it and change it accordingly.

I often wonder if this mass delusion comes from a centuries long battle with abuse and oppression. I believe many people are afraid to stand up to the adversity in this country, so we convince ourselves that everything is fine or everything “isn’t that bad” so we won’t feel like we have to do anything about it. I also believe that this stuff has gone on for so long that we have convinced ourselves that everything that’s going on today is okay and normal. It’s the FURTHEST from it!