Many times on social media, I notice a lot of black people being upset about black people in Hollywood dating or marrying white people. I saw people upset and arguing about Serena Williams marrying a white man. I remember a few years ago, I saw a post on Facebook of black women berating O’Shea Jackson Jr. (Ice Cube’s son) because he was with a white woman. I see black people being mad when they see dark skinned black celebrities date or marry light skinned people as well. A few years ago, I saw a video of a black woman on YouTube berating Kendrick Lamar for having a light skinned girlfriend.
On the other hand, I see black people being overly happy when they finally see a celebrity dark skinned couple. Denzel Washington and his wife, Pauletta, Viola Davis and her husband, Julius Tennon, or any rapper with a woman who isn’t light skinned, for example.
I understand why they would be happy when they see these dark skinned couples, given the fact that we actually don’t see them as much in the media. But this shows that there are huge problems in the black community. And even though I noticed people being overly happy about dark skinned couples, I also noticed that people don’t talk about those couples as much as they complain about interracial couples or a dark skinned person being with a light skinned person.
The problems I believe this behavior shows about the black community is that there’s a lot of colorism, especially in Hollywood. I also believe that people shouldn’t give interracial couples more attention than the dark skinned couples, especially when there are dark skinned couples out there. I believe interracial couples getting more attention than dark skinned couples also stems from colorism.
Another problem I believe the black community has is insecurity. I believe that when black people see these interracial couples, it makes them feel like they’re not wanted by their own people, especially if they are rich or a celebrity. Seeing interracial couples causes insecurities in some people, whether they admit it or not. I don’t believe there were be so many negative reactions if it didn’t cause insecurities. Therefore, when they see dark skinned people, they feel happier.
We have to stop letting this bother us so much. If these people don’t want to date other black people, then let them stay with the other people. As the saying goes, “Let the trash take itself out”. It’s better for them to date out instead of them continuing to date their own people, knowing they have deep rooted issues with their own people. All they’re going to do is mistreat them.
It’s pretty sad that after everything our race has been through throughout history and everything our people have fought for, we still have these strong, negative issues about skin color. What’s worst is a lot of black people don’t want to talk about these things. They’ll talk about white people and racism all day long. But when it comes time to talk about how black people perpetuate hate amongst each other over skin color and many other things, they want to shy away from it.
A reader of mine told me about this and I’m glad this was brought to my attention. I really wish that there will come a day where all black people can say we defeated colorism and we no longer have these problems.