Black People Being Overly Happy About Dark Skinned Couples In Hollywood

Many times on social media, I notice a lot of black people being upset about black people in Hollywood dating or marrying white people. I saw people upset and arguing about Serena Williams marrying a white man. I remember a few years ago, I saw a post on Facebook of black women berating O’Shea Jackson Jr. (Ice Cube’s son) because he was with a white woman. I see black people being mad when they see dark skinned black celebrities date or marry light skinned people as well. A few years ago, I saw a video of a black woman on YouTube berating Kendrick Lamar for having a light skinned girlfriend.

On the other hand, I see black people being overly happy when they finally see a celebrity dark skinned couple. Denzel Washington and his wife, Pauletta, Viola Davis and her husband, Julius Tennon, or any rapper with a woman who isn’t light skinned, for example.

I understand why they would be happy when they see these dark skinned couples, given the fact that we actually don’t see them as much in the media. But this shows that there are huge problems in the black community. And even though I noticed people being overly happy about dark skinned couples, I also noticed that people don’t talk about those couples as much as they complain about interracial couples or a dark skinned person being with a light skinned person.

The problems I believe this behavior shows about the black community is that there’s a lot of colorism, especially in Hollywood. I also believe that people shouldn’t give interracial couples more attention than the dark skinned couples, especially when there are dark skinned couples out there. I believe interracial couples getting more attention than dark skinned couples also stems from colorism.

Another problem I believe the black community has is insecurity. I believe that when black people see these interracial couples, it makes them feel like they’re not wanted by their own people, especially if they are rich or a celebrity. Seeing interracial couples causes insecurities in some people, whether they admit it or not. I don’t believe there were be so many negative reactions if it didn’t cause insecurities. Therefore, when they see dark skinned people, they feel happier.

We have to stop letting this bother us so much. If these people don’t want to date other black people, then let them stay with the other people. As the saying goes, “Let the trash take itself out”. It’s better for them to date out instead of them continuing to date their own people, knowing they have deep rooted issues with their own people. All they’re going to do is mistreat them.

It’s pretty sad that after everything our race has been through throughout history and everything our people have fought for, we still have these strong, negative issues about skin color. What’s worst is a lot of black people don’t want to talk about these things. They’ll talk about white people and racism all day long. But when it comes time to talk about how black people perpetuate hate amongst each other over skin color and many other things, they want to shy away from it.

A reader of mine told me about this and I’m glad this was brought to my attention. I really wish that there will come a day where all black people can say we defeated colorism and we no longer have these problems.

Why Does Talking About Racism & Slavery Make White People “Ashamed To Be White”?

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I’ve seen comments like this under many posts on social media and videos on YouTube that talk about racism and the racist history of America. Whenever a conversation about racism and slavery in America is being had, there’s always a white person saying that talking about that makes them “ashamed to be white”.

I will share a few articles I found talking about white people saying this as proof, in case someone doesn’t believe that this actually happens and tries to refute it: https://aninjusticemag.com/i-am-embarrassed-to-be-a-white-man-53f4830ee30c?gif=true https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/underdog-psychology/202007/why-white-shame-is-term-everyone-should-learn https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/White_guilt

When black people talk about racism, police brutality, slavery, and history, we’re not asking white people to be “ashamed to be white”. We’re just asking them to NOT BE RACIST! Does this mean white people would rather be ashamed of themselves instead of not being racist when they do this? Are they this incapable of not being racist?

All black people ask is for police officers to stop killing unarmed black people. How is that “dividing this country”, as they claim whenever protests about it happen? Are they trying to say that police officers are that incapable of not killing unarmed black people that just talking about it and asking them to stop “divides this country”?

Why does talking about all the racist things that happened in the history of this country make white people “ashamed to be white”? Why doesn’t it just make them not want to be racist? Talking about America’s racist history is inevitable. It NEEDS to be talked about as long as this country exists. No one should EVER forget about this country’s racist history!

When black people talk about police brutality and ask police officers to stop killing unarmed black people, there are some white people who take that as black people saying they “hate the police” or they want to get rid of the police. Black people aren’t asking for the police to go away. They’re asking them to stop killing unarmed black people. How does asking police to stop committing brutality mean hating the police? Nobody hates the police. We hate them abusing people and their power!

Is white people doing this just a way for them to guilt trip black people into not talking about the things that they do because it makes them uncomfortable? Because they don’t want to face what their people are doing in this country? Also, when talking about slavery or anything else in America’s history, they love to say that it was “their ancestors and not them”. If they really believe that, then why does black people talking about these things make them ashamed instead of just making them not want to do the same things they did? Why do they feel guilty over something their “ancestors” did?

It’s because they know they are connected to those people. They know they are the same people, even though they try to convince black people that they aren’t.

Dear white people, black people asking you to just not be racist is NOT asking you to hate being white. It’s really not too much to ask. If it really is too much to ask of you to not be racist and not kill unarmed black people, then that’s YOUR problem. NOT black people simply asking you to be a decent person.

Stop Saying We Need More Black Doctors, Lawyers, etc.!

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I know this title sounds bad, but hear me out. I hear so many black people say, “We don’t need anymore black basketball players and entertainers. We need more black lawyers and doctors.” Although this is true, my problem with this is people acting like they don’t know WHY there aren’t more black doctors and lawyers. They actually avoid talking about WHY.

Another issue I have is that people who say this perpetuate the idea that black youth only want to be athletes and entertainers, which is absolutely NOT true AT ALL! That is a racist and stereotypical idea, whether you knew that or not. Just because you see more black athletes and entertainers on TV than you see black doctors and lawyers doesn’t mean anything. You can ask many black children what they want to be when they grow up and you will hear all kinds of different answers. You won’t hear JUST “athlete” or “entertainer”. TV is a LIE! Stop taking everything you see on there as the end all be all!

One reason why there aren’t more black doctors and lawyers is because going to college for these professions is incredibly expensive. Many black parents simply can’t afford to send their kids to college to become a doctor or lawyer. Scholarships and grants exist, yes, but they’re not always easy to get. And the ones that are easier to obtain don’t cover much of the cost.

Another reason, and this is the one that I feel people like to dance around the most, is that there is heavy racism in professions like these. People love pretending that racism doesn’t exist anymore. We hear way too many stories about how poorly the medical system treated black people throughout history and the present. We hear way too many stories about how poorly and unjustly the judicial system treated black people throughout history and the present. With all these stories that we hear, what makes you think they would make it easy for black people to come up in these professions?

It’s easier for a black person to become an athlete or entertainer than it is to become a doctor or lawyer. Many colleges and universities give full ride scholarships to black students to come play basketball of they’re good enough, but not many colleges and universities are giving full ride scholarships to black students to come study to become a doctor or lawyer.

Stop acting like you don’t know the real reasons why there aren’t more black doctors and lawyers. Everybody wants to talk about problems and issues in the black community, but no one wants to talk about the reason why the problems and issues exist in the first place. We will never find solutions to problems if we ignore the roots of the problems.

What we should be saying is, “Colleges and universities need to be more affordable and accessible for all people.” And “More things need to be done about racism, especially in the medical and judicial fields”.

If we want more black doctors and lawyers, the solutions will have to be that colleges need to be more affordable and obtainable. More needs to be done about filtering racism in these professions instead of simply pretending they don’t exist. We need to acknowledge these things or there will never be enough black lawyers and doctors.

We need to stop acting like going to college to become a doctor or lawyer is easy. We need to stop acting like black people simply aren’t choosing to become doctors and lawyers. There’s reasons why there aren’t more black doctors and lawyers and we know them all! Let’s stop lying about and/or ignoring this issue and start working to change things!

Are Black People Divisive?

Candace Owens tweeted that Juneteenth was “lame” and “divisive” and wouldn’t celebrate it and would celebrate the Fourth of July instead. Bill Maher hated that they played the Black National Anthem at this past Monday’s football game and called it “segregation”.

The problems with both of these statements is that these people and anyone who agreed with them either has zero sense of history or is outright ignoring and/or lying about it. Black people weren’t even considered citizens when the Fourth of July became a holiday. Black people were still slaves during that time!

Black people were also still slaves when the American National Anthem was written. The American National Anthem was written by Francis Scott Key. Who is Francis Scott Key? He was a slaveowner! And he was leader of the American Colonization Society, which sent freed slaves to Africa because that organization believed upper class white people couldn’t live amongst black people (Yet, they’re calling black people divisive? You support an anthem written by someone who was part of an organization that didn’t believe blacks and whites could live together. šŸ˜’). Even though he freed some of his slaves, he was anti abolitionist. He did not support immediate ending to slavery.

People are so adamant about a holiday and a song that didn’t have black people in mind at all when they were created, but they want to call black people “divisive” if they choose not to celebrate the holiday or stand for that song. And more than likely the people who created the holiday and the song are racists.

And it’s funny how so many people want to call black people “divisive” for wanting to celebrate Juneteenth and have their anthem included in sports events as well, but black people celebrate every holiday in the year with white people EVERY year. Black people always stand for the American National Anthem.

But white people and coon black people can’t celebrate ONE holiday with us. White people and black coons can’t support a song about our people ONE time. Who’s really the divisive ones? Which holiday and song is the real divisive one?

And why is it that America is allowed to celebrate their freedom from British rule, but black people aren’t allowed to celebrate their freedom from slavery? And before anyone says, “No black people living in America today were ever slaves, so there’s no reason to celebrate it”, we can say, “No American living today were ever under British rule”. So, by that logic, we shouldn’t be celebrating that, either.

Black people, STOP letting whites and coons call you divisive for wanting to like and celebrate something that’s for your people, especially if you celebrate everything else about every other group of people! You’re not dividing this country for wanting to celebrate Juneteenth and wanting to accept the Black National Anthem, “Lift Every Voice And Sing”, as well. You can do both of those things and still be accepting of other holidays and songs.

This country was already divided long ago! And it’s going to continue to be divided for a very long time because of the history this country has. It’s not something that’s going to easily go away. It’s not something you can just stop talking about. NEVER let anyone blame our people for that!

White people divided this country when they brought slavery. White people divided this country with racist laws that went on for centuries. White people divided this country when they tore black families apart during slavery when they sold children, husbands, and wives away from each other. White people divided this country when they literally put up signs telling black people that they weren’t allowed in certain places. White people divided this country when they literally invented the concept of race and decided to discriminate against people based off that.

Racist police officers divided this country when they beat and kill unarmed people. Not black people for protesting against it. White people are divisive when they have done racist things to black people for centuries. Not black people for talking about it.

America wants black people to “forget about and get over” slavery and all the racist history it has, but tells everyone else to never forget when something bad happens to America.

Black people, you should NEVER forget this country’s racist history towards our people! And you should NEVER trust anyone who tells you to do that, especially if they never forget about anything horrible that happened to them. Don’t let white people blame you for mess THEY created!

Stuff like this is exactly why it’s very important for every black person to KNOW THEIR HISTORY. So we can catch stuff like this. If we don’t know our history, we’re going to think white people are right when they call us divisive for these things when really they are lying and gaslighting. Read history books regularly! If you don’t have books, read history articles online. It doesn’t matter as long as you read it and never forget it! Teach your children to read history, too! Don’t gloss over or sugarcoat a single thing!

I understand white people calling black people divisive for stupid reasons because that’s the type of people they are. But black people should know better. If you call black people divisive for wanting to celebrate Juneteenth, or for any reason for that matter, especially if you never call white people divisive for anything that they do, you have forgotten about your history and hate your people!

The Police Aren’t Making Mistakes. They Know What They’re Doing!

We all know of all the stories in the news about police abusing or killingĀ  unarmed people. One of the things I’ve heard a lot the whole time these stories were in the news is that the police “need better training”; the reason why these shootings of unarmed people keep happening is because police aren’t “properly trained”. I don’t believe that police need better training at all when it comes to abusing and killing unarmed people.

I saw the police take Kyle Rittenhouse into custody without abusing or killing him and he had just shot and killed two people in Kenosha, Wisconsin. Dylann Roof killed nine people in a church in Charleston, South Carolina. Not only did the police take him into custody without abusing or killing him, they bought him Burger King! And the police officers weren’t even there when all those people stormed the Capitol! We all know how that would’ve went down if that was a whole bunch of black people doing that!

And for the people who like to use someone’s past or them being on drugs as an excuse to justify the police killing unarmed people, someone’s past isn’t an excuse for the police to kill people. They aren’t supposed to kill anyone because of what they did in their past. They aren’t supposed to kill people because they’re “on drugs”. If they can take armed people who just came from a murdering spree in without a problem, someone “being on drugs” shouldn’t even be an issue. People would rather make excuses and justify the police killing people instead of admitting that there’s a problem in the police force.

This whole “police need better training” crap is a lie created to make it look like these cops are making mistakes when they kill someone. It’s to make it look like they weren’t properly trained to safely diffuse a situation and bring someone in. They don’t need any training. They know exactly what they’re doing. They’re doing this stuff on purpose!

And don’t think for a second that the police would never do anything like that. There’s so many stories of cops doing foul things to people, especially black people, all throughout history. There’s stories of police planting false evidence, like drugs and guns, on people. There’s stories of police forcing innocent people to confess to crimes they didn’t commit. There’s stories of police brutality on people for minor offenses or sometimes nothing at all. There’s stories of police spraying people with fire hoses and sending dogs out to attack people. There’s stories of police throwing tear gas on and attacking protesters.

With all the stories we’ve heard about police all throughout history and still to this present day, why is it so hard for people to admit that the police force is corrupt? Why do people continue to make excuses for everything the police does wrong? Why do people get so mad at the people who are protesting against the police when they should really be mad at the police? They’re the ones causing all this unrest! If they stopped abusing and killing unarmed people, the protests will stop!

It’s Not Because You’re Dark Skinned; You’re Just Ugly

This is another excuse people use to dismiss colorism. When a dark skinned person talks about how people have treated them poorly because of their dark skin, people will respond with saying, “It’s not because you’re dark skinned. You’re just ugly”.

The issue I have with this saying is that people say it like that makes what they’re doing any better. Disrespecting, mistreating, overlooking, discriminating against, and looking down on a person because of how they look is just as bad. Hating someone over something they can’t change is bad.

Mistreating someone because of how they look is like any other type of discrimination, like racism and sexism. But because discriminating against someone for how they look doesn’t have a name or movements of activism behind it like racism and sexism does, for example, people don’t think there’s anything wrong with it.

Also, there’s more to colorism than passing a dark skinned person up in the dating department. A lot of people try to reduce colorism to just that. But colorism is really about discriminating against and disrespecting someone just because they’re dark skinned. I see that happening way too much for me to sit here and act like it doesn’t happen.

Secondly, I think this saying is not only an excuse, it’s also another lie amongst the many lies people have when denying colorism. If people didn’t have any issue with dark skin, why are there so many names and words out there that are used specifically to insult people with dark skin? If it’s never about someone being dark skinned, then those words and names wouldn’t exist. Yet, they do. And people use them ALL. THE. TIME.

The people who have been mistreated because of their dark skin can tell you all the names they’ve been called all their lives. If it was just about someone’s looks, they’ll just comment on their looks. But instead, not only do they comment on their looks, they have to insult their dark skin, too.

You ever wonder why there’s barely any dark skinned stars in Hollywood, especially dark skinned female stars? And if there are, they most likely are always playing derogatory roles or “fight the power” roles? It’s because a lot of people in this country, black and nonblack, are highly colorist and racist and hate seeing dark skinned people. Yet, they love denying it constantly. Proof of colorism has always been in our faces. People just don’t like accepting or admitting to it.

The Side Effects Of Interracial Dating

I’ve noticed that a lot of black men and women online who date or marry interracially love to talk down about their own people. They are always talking about what they hate about each other, how much they aren’t attracted to each other, or how much happier they are dating interracially.

I’ve always asked myself whenever I see those types of comments that: If these black men and women are so happy dating interracially, why are they still talking about each other so much? Why don’t they just take their nonblack partner and be happy and just leave each other alone? Because I feel like that would be the most simple solution. If you’re so happy dating interracially, why would there still be an urgent need to talk about each other so much?

The more I thought about this question, the more I began to believe that this just might be a side effect that black people experience while interracial dating or promoting it. And there are a few reasons why I believe these side effects occur.

One of the reasons is, I believe, deep down, black people feel like they aren’t supposed to be dating interracially at all. So, all the negative talk is them looking for excuses to keep doing it anyway. They would even use negative stories about each other in the news and negative statistics as an excuse for why they date interracially.

Another reason is that, deep down, they feel like the only way to appeal to other races of people is to hate their own people. I believe that these people are, knowingly or unknowingly, trying to appeal to the racist side of these people of other races. Deep down, they think that they have a higher chance of attracting other races of people by showing that they hate their own people.

The other reason I have is that these black men and women are only dating/marrying interracially to spite each other. Based on some of the stories I’ve heard online and in real life, a lot of black men and women feel hurt by each other. A lot of them feel rejected, abused, used, unattractive to, and/or cheated by each other, and they’re just tired of it. They don’t really want to date interracially. They want to date their own people, but they don’t feel like their own people treat them right. So, they date interracially to be happier or get revenge on each other.

And I’m pretty sure there are some of those who only talk negatively about each other and promote interracial dating/marriage just for attention on social media. They’re only doing it to get people talking about them and get likes or whatever they’re looking for.

But also, another main thing I noticed is that a lot of black women who date or promote dating interracially hate when black men date interracially and vice versa. It’s the huge hypocrisy for me that has me questioning even more. If these people think dating and marrying their own people is so bad, why are they so mad when they see each other dating interracially? I thought that was their main point. I think this is yet another side effect of interracial dating. Dating interracially has them confused. They don’t know what they really want.

I’m just tired of seeing black people throw each other under the bus just because they want to date/marry interracially. They can really just go do it and be happy, but they won’t. There’s probably many more reasons than what I named here for why black people do this, but those are the only ones I can think of for now. I’m starting to believe black people have these side effects because they feel like they aren’t supposed to be dating interracially in the first place.

Are People Actually Upset That Child Abuse Is Outlawed?

“They need to bring back whoopin yo kids ass!”

I hear people say this so much. People say this like everybody stopped whipping their kids. People DIDN’T stop. INCLUDING the ones who say this! Why would people ask to “bring back” something they never stopped doing? What do they really want to bring back? Child abuse? PUNCHING their kids? Hitting their kids with hard objects? This is exactly what a lot of people were doing to their kids and more before it was outlawed.

A lot of people say things and don’t realize what they’re saying. This is exactly what it sounds like to me— that people really want to bring back child abuse—when they say that.

I also think people know of and heard of all the studies that came out speaking against whipping and yelling at children and exposed the negative effects of it, but they don’t want to stop doing it. They want to go back to when scientists and psychologists weren’t studying that so much and exposing it so they can go back to doing it in peace.

I am anti hitting kids as discipline. I never understood why it was necessary. Whipping children with belts is one thing, but why do some people think they need to hit their children with something worst than that? Why is it so hard for people to discipline their kids without yelling or hitting them? People have to hit and yell at their kids to “discipline” them like they’re wild animals.

If anything, the constant whipping and yelling is more than likely why the kids are acting up. The studies said that—whipping children causes behavior problems, amongst many other things, but people who like doing that didn’t listen.

I’ve noticed that whenever people see a video of a child acting horribly online, they say, “This is why we whoop our kids!” But why do these people automatically assume that the child isn’t getting whipped by their parents? They don’t know that child or their parents personally.

Also, I’ve seen tons of horrible acting children who are always getting whipped, smacked, and yelled at by their parents. These people know that, too, which is why they feel like they have to do it so much. So, a child acting badly doesn’t always mean they aren’t getting whipped. That’s just people using other bad children as an excuse to justify why they hit theirs.

Another thing I thought of is some people probably don’t think whipping their children is working as well as they thought (Studies said that, too, but again, they didn’t listen). They’re realizing that their kids are still really bad no matter how much they hit and yell at them. So, they feel like they need to up the ante and hit their kids with something more. They wish laws would let them hit their kids with more than just a belt or switch.

When people say they wish the government would bring back beating children, it makes me think that there are some people out there who are actually upset that child abuse has been outlawed and the negative effects of hitting them in any way or yelling at them has been widespread news for decades.

Black People Being Desperate For Oscars

List of black actors who have won Academy Awards mostly for derogatory or stereotypical roles

Many of us have noticed over the course of many years that black actors win Oscars or Academy Awards mostly for bad roles, like playing slaves or maids. Lots of black people used to speak out and against that. But some would say, “You’re just being negative! Just be happy for them!”

When I started hearing people say that, I realized that some black people don’t even care that black actors have to mostly play derogatory roles in order to win these awards. That’s how desperate some black people are to see black actors win these awards.

It’s already bad enough that very few black actors have won Oscars in movies no matter how good their performance is compared to how many white people win. So I understand why some people don’t care anymore. I guess some of us just want to see our actors win that badly. But I think we should never be that desperate to see our people win these awards!

Viola Davis would’ve never gotten an Oscar or the amount of fame she has now had she not played a maid. It had to take Lupita Nyong’o to not only play a slave, but get whipped stark naked in a movie to win hers and get the amount of fame she has today.

She would have never gotten called Most Beautiful Woman by People magazine in 2014 had she not done that role. Not to say that she doesn’t deserve to be named that because she is very beautiful. But I have to be honest, her playing that slave role is the only reason she got that accolade. Viola and Lupita are only two of many more examples out there of this.

If black actors barely win these awards and when they do, they most likely have to play a derogatory role, it’s pretty obvious that these award shows are racist. And if they’re racist, we shouldn’t want them anyway. Why do our people want these racist awards so badly?

Every year the Oscars comes around, I hear the same complaints from black people about how little or no black people are even nominated, let alone win. As long as this has been going on with these award shows, why aren’t we tired enough of complaining about the same things about these shows to want to leave them alone and abandon them? Our lack of support of these award shows is more powerful than our constant complaining, yet continuing to support them and watch them every year.

There’s lots of black award shows out there that award black people. Why don’t we feel as strongly about those as we do about the Oscars?

I think black people should’ve forgotten about and boycotted these awards a long time ago. They clearly don’t want to give them to black people. And, to be honest, they shouldn’t have to because they created the awards. They can give them to whoever they want. Are we afraid of boycotting and forgetting about these award shows?

Is Interracial Dating Abuse Being Swept Under The Rug?

A reader of mine brought to my attention that interracial dating isn’t always sunshine and rainbows like some black people make it seem like. I didn’t really know what to say about this. But this video I found on YouTube, which I will share at the end of this post, is perfect for what I needed to say here.

This video highlighted a story of a black woman finally coming forward about the abuse she suffered from her nonblack husband. The focus of the video is that nowadays, interracial dating is more promoted and glorified like they’re better than black relationships, but in a lot of those relationships, the black partner is dealing with abuse. And I’ve heard many stories about black people dealing with racism from their nonblack partner’s family or the nonblack partners themselves.

Now, I’m not using this video to discourage people from dating interracially. Because I’ve heard many stories about black women talking about the abuse they suffered from black men and vice versa. So in a lot of cases, black relationships aren’t always better either.

I honestly don’t really care about interracial dating to be honest. I just don’t like how black people are always so loud about the abuse they endure from each other. They can’t wait to share a story about a black man abusing a black woman or a black woman killing a black man and use these stories as an excuse to promote interracial dating, but when stories of racism, abuse, and murder happen with interracial couples, no one is saying anything because it goes against their agenda.

I want black people to start treating each other better. And I don’t want black people glorifying interracial relationships like they’re any better because in a lot of cases, they’re not. Check out the video below if you like and let me know what you think of it.