Racist People Are Slick

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When it comes to doing or saying racist things, racist people are really slick when trying to find ways to work their way around the rules that say they shouldn’t be doing it.

I saw a tweet saying we should talk more about Robert Downey, Jr. wearing blackface in the movie, Tropic Thunder. People were replying to the tweet, defending him wearing blackface saying he did it to “spread awareness of how white people get movie roles that are really for black people”. The sad part is, it was mostly black people defending him. That’s kind of the same thing Drake said when he was exposed for wearing blackface. He said, “The photos represented how black people were once wrongfully portrayed in entertainment”.

And we also heard of the many stories of nonblack people wearing blackface as a “Halloween costume”.

If people really understood the true history behind blackface and really cared about black people, NO ONE would wear it. FOR ANY REASON. Nonblack people think that because it’s for “racial awareness”, it gives them a pass to wear it. They think that because it’s “just a Halloween costume” that it gives them a pass to wear it.

When we say we don’t want to see anyone wearing blackface anymore, WE MEAN IT! WE DON’T WANT TO SEE BLACKFACE ANYMORE! There are literally TONS of other ways to bring awareness to black issues than wearing blackface! There are literally TONS of other costumes you can wear for Halloween! If you choose to wear blackface for any reason, you are racist and you hate black people. Plain and simple. There’s literally ZERO reason for anyone to wear blackface. ZERO!

Another example is them saying nigga/nigger. I remember Gina Rodriguez rapping along to “Ready or Not” by The Fugees and she said nigga since it was part of the lyrics. I also remember a comment I saw on YouTube years ago where a nonblack person commented some lyrics to Dej Loaf’s song, “Try Me”, and mentioned nigga. They think they’re slick to say nigga because the word is in lyrics to a song. They also try to use the excuse that they “have black friends” to give themselves a pass to say it. When we say we don’t want nonblack people saying nigga, WE MEAN IT! WE DON’T WANT TO HEAR NONBLACK PEOPLE SAYING NIGGA! And just like with Robert Downey, Jr., black people defended these people because “it’s just a song”.

Slave movies is another. For years, I’ve heard many black people, including myself, talk about how they’re tired of seeing slave movies get released every year. We’re also tired of seeing Civil Rights movies. We’re tired of seeing our people beaten, killed, and oppressed as entertainment. Instead of NOT putting out a slave movie, they’ll put one out about us “fighting back”, like Birth of a Nation or Django Unchained. They think they get a pass to put out slave movies because it depicts us fighting back instead of being victims, but a slave movie is a slave movie, regardless of if they show us “fighting back” or not.

Hollywood had plenty of chances to put out a movie about slaves fighting back and they rarely if ever have done it. When we say we don’t want to see anymore slave movies, WE MEAN IT! WE DON’T WANT TO SEE ANYMORE SLAVE MOVIES! If you want to learn about slavery, there’s tons of books and online articles about it. There’s no need to keep making these movies every year!

Again, black people defend these movies and try to shame their own people to go see them because it’s finally a movie about “fighting back”.

I’ve also noticed how some TV shows, movies, comedy specials, and cartoons would say racist things, but try to pass it off as if it’s a “joke”. Shows like Family Guy and South Park. People defend their racist jokes by saying they “make fun of everyone”. This is just another attempt of them being slick. They think because it’s “just a joke” and they “talk about everyone” that it gives them a pass. NO! When we say we don’t want to hear racist remarks or portrayals, WE MEAN IT! WE DON’T WANT TO HEAR RACIST REMARKS OR PORTRAYALS! Call us “sensitive”. We don’t care! We mean what we say!

Black people, STOP defending these people for doing and saying racist things! Racist people are fully aware of the rules we have set and demanded against their racism. This is them trying to find loopholes around what we say. That’s what they always do. Stop giving them passes. They know they’re not supposed to be saying/doing it, but they want to do it anyway, so they look for excuses. Don’t be fooled. Don’t fall for their game. They just think they’re slick.

Why Do Black People Defend Other Races of People So Much?

On social media, I’ve seen many black people defend other races of people when they are experiencing racism and discrimination. Black people defended Hispanics who were dealing with deportation and their families being torn apart by ICE. Black people defended Mexicans when Donald Trump was talking about building walls to block them out of the country and saying they’re responsible for bringing drugs and crime to the country. Black people defended Chinese people when Donald Trump referred to the Coronavirus as the “Chinese virus”. Black people even defend white people who are being disrespected by other black people online. There are so many examples out there of where our people defended other races of people. Our people will defend anyone, regardless of race. If no other race defends another race who is experiencing racism and disrespect, best believe our people will!

On the flip side, I’ve seen other black people shame and criticize the ones who defend all of these races of people, saying that these other races of people rarely, if ever, care about or defend us when we’re experiencing racism, so why should we care about their problems and defend them?

Although I completely agree with that, I don’t hate the ones who defend other races of people at all because I believe I know why our people do this. Our people have been experiencing racism and discrimination for centuries in America. We know what it feels like to be discriminated against and looked down upon because of our race. Our people have been through being told we couldn’t go to certain places because we are black. Our people witness being sentenced harsher sentences in the judicial system than white people for the same crimes too many times. Our people get told that our own hair that grows out of our scalps is “unprofessional” and “ugly”. Our people know what it feels like to be disrespected and looked down upon just because of the color of our skin. Our people know what being negatively stereotyped all throughout media day in and day out feels like. Our people don’t want to see anyone else going through that, so we defend them. I can’t hate my people for having sympathy.

It’s actually a bittersweet thing. Our people have such a soft spot for fighting against racism, no matter who is experiencing it, but it seems like nobody cares about us to do the same for us. I know our people know that, too. I just feel like it doesn’t stop us from fighting.

I believe our defensiveness of everyone is definitely a side effect of being discriminated against for so long. I think before we are so quick to criticize and shame one another, we need to think of why our people do these things first. A lot of the time, it’s because of serious deep rooted issues like this one. We have to remember what our people have gone through in this country throughout history because what our people have gone through plays a HUGE part of how we act and react to things today, regardless of how “long ago” it was.

Could Paying Reparations To Black People Bankrupt America?

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I heard several times on the internet of some people saying the reason America hadn’t paid black people reparations for what they did to black people for centuries is because it would make America bankrupt. Many people hear that and think they’re lying. I had to think about it for a moment before I asked myself, ‘What if they’re not lying?’

The American government KNOWS they owe black people reparations. They know EXACTLY HOW MUCH they owe. They probably owe us every cent this country is worth. And that’s just in money. They owe us way more than just money. They owe us acres upon acres of land. They owe us credit for things we invented that they take credit and get paid for, and so much more. They know that if they gave black people everything they owe, the whole American government would be destroyed and abolished.

I, amongst many other black people, could care less what happens to the American government after they pay what they owe in reparations. Boohoo to them! They should’ve thought of that before they did what they did to our people and continue to do it to this day! However, they don’t feel the same way.

The American government is not willing to give up all of their money, land, and power to make up for what they did to us. They don’t love or feel guilty enough to do that. They’ll give us jobs. They’ll give us little roles on TV shows and movies. They’ll parade our musicians on airwaves for a little bit. They’ll give us money, but only an amount they’re comfortable with. They’ll try to be our friends. They’ll give us anything, as long as they don’t have to pay us reparations.

When they say giving black people reparations would bankrupt America, THEY’RE NOT LYING. (Or at least, I don’t think so.) They’re telling the truth right to our faces!

Is Black Women Wearing Weave Cultural Appropriation?

Whenever black women call out these white women or any other nonblack women who purposely and willingly copy things from black women and act like it’s some new thing, someone always says, “Well, what about black women wearing weave, blue/green eye contacts, and bleaching their skin? Aren’t they cultural appropriating?”

I think this question is stupid and deflecting. Instead of acknowledging that these nonblack women are copying black women and getting put on a pedestal while black women get overlooked or dogged out, they try to flip it on black women. Black women wearing weave, bleaching their skin, or wearing blue or green eye contacts is not cultural appropriation.

I feel like a lot of black women who do those things do it to feel more beautiful in a society that puts down black hair, skin, and features. White and other nonblack women who wear black women’s hairstyles, get surgeries to get black women’s body features, etc. aren’t getting those things to feel more beautiful because their looks are already the standard in this society.

Their looks are celebrated over black women’s in the media all the time. They copy our looks to be trendy and/or replace us in media and not to be more accepted because they will get accepted with or without the surgeries and hairstyles. Black women actually HAVE TO have lighter skin, straight hair, and a certain body shape to be accepted and celebrated in both media and regular society.

At the same time, although I believe black women altering their features is not cultural appropriating, I do believe it is wrong and hypocritical of us to cry and complain about other races of women “trying to look and be like us” when we’re sitting around with a straight blonde wig on or whenever we’re taking a picture online, we have to turn the brightness up to make our skin look lighter. We have a lot of nerve crying because some white woman wore braids when we don’t have our own hair in our heads.

One thing I’ve learned about white people is that they like to use people’s words against them. They know when they are cultural appropriating, but they like acting like they don’t know what it is. So, when they’re called out on it, they like flipping the script to, “Well, what about you?”

If we want to call them out for what they’re doing, we can at least not do the same thing they’re doing. We have to get rid of weaves and hair straightening, skin bleaching/photo lightening, different color eye contacts, or anything that remotely erases our blackness. It may not stop them cultural appropriating altogether, but at least they can’t use us as an excuse to keep doing it. We can call them out and actually hold them accountable for what they’re doing.

If we’re not going to stop with the straight hair and skin bleaching, we can’t say anything about them. They have a point when they say that. And we can’t bring up, “There are black women all over the world that have naturally straight hair and natural blue/green eyes,” when that’s not you. You don’t have naturally straight hair or natural blue or green eyes. That’s why you have to go buy it, so that’s an invalid argument.

We have to start accepting all of our features 100% with no altering. Then, and only then, will we be right in calling out all these nonblack women who are cultural appropriating. Until then, we can’t say anything.

Why Do We Run To White People & Other Races When We’re Mistreated By Each Other, But They Don’t Run To Us?

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Years ago, before my enlightenment, I used to think very negatively about my own people. I used to believe every negative stereotype there was about black people. During my school years, I felt very mistreated by all the other black kids around me. I went to college and noticed that the white people treated me way differently than the black kids I went to school with. I felt like they were nicer and going to class was much easier. I used to go to suburbs and saw how much different everything was there compared to so many black neighborhoods. I used to think white people were soooo much better than my own people.

Now that I’m older and I’ve learned so much since then, I realized how ridiculous and stupid I was being. I hear so many stories from black people saying these very similar things. I’ve heard a lot of black people say they date interracially because other black people don’t treat them well or want to date them. I’ve heard a lot of black people say they don’t like hanging around other black people because of how they act and treat each other and say that they feel more comfortable and safer around nonblacks.

On the flip side, I’ve heard many stories of white people saying they were bullied and mistreated by other white people. But I’ve never heard a lot of white people saying they would rather hang out with us than their own people. I don’t hear a lot of white people saying we are better people than their own people. I don’t see a lot of Asians, Hispanics, or whathaveyou, say we are better people than their own people. They don’t put us on a pedestal like a lot of us put them on a pedestal.

After realizing this, I wonder, why do we do this? Why do we think other races of people are so much better than our own people? Why do we put so many other races of people above our own? Do we hate ourselves? Do we have a severe inferiority complex?

If so, I believe this has a lot to do with our history of being put down so much by white people and other races of people. And the fact that some of us think other races of people are so much better than our own people after all that they have done to us throughout history as well as the present is proof that there may be something seriously wrong with us.

Also, after realizing what I know now, I think our bad experiences with our own people is due to being in bad environments. I now look back on my school days and realize that it’s not that the black kids were bad. The environment they were in was bad, and in turn, it made them bad. The schools I was going to weren’t the best schools by far and they definitely weren’t in the best neighborhoods. What had happened when I went to college and “thought” the white people there treated me better was not that I stopped hanging around black people. I changed my ENVIRONMENT and went around better acting people, even though they weren’t my own people.

When we have bad experiences with our own people, I think we just need to change the type of people we choose to be around. Hang around BETTER black people. Good black people are not hard to find. Our negativity is what will make it hard. And we have to be careful of the schools we send our children to. Environment is VERY important. And we need to stop looking at a bunch of negative videos and stories about our own people, especially if we don’t look at a bunch of negative videos and stories about other races of people. It will distort our view of each other and make us hate each other when we can’t afford to hate one another.

I know our people aren’t perfect, but we’re not that bad either. We can’t allow ourselves to hate and look down on each other. We need to LOVE each other. We need UNITY.

For All White People Have Done

I think about the stories I’ve heard black people telling for years of how white people negatively stereotype them.

I think about the stories of how white people lock their doors when they see a black person walking by or how they clutch at their purses.

We see on the news how they stay killing unarmed black men because they “feared for their lives”.

We see on television how they usually portray us as violent and ignorant.

I take all of this into consideration and think, HOW DARE THEY GET TO TREAT US THAT WAY????

After all they’ve done to us for centuries, if anything, WE should be treating THEM like that!

They came over here and stole and stripped away every single solitary thing we had. They take credit for and profit off our inventions and culture. Yet, have the nerve and audacity to portray us as thieves on their teLIEvision.

They have invaded and killed millions of people in countries across this whole world throughout history to get everything they have. Yet, have the nerve and audacity to portray us as the “most violent race” on their teLIEvision.

They came over here telling us we were inferior to them and everything about us–our skin tones, features and hair–was ugly. Yet, when we call them out for the things they do, they have the nerve and audacity to call us “divisive”. They have infiltrated numerous races of people that wasn’t them and made them hate themselves and feel inferior to them. No one on this planet is more divisive than white people.

And when we call them out for what they do or complain about how they treat us, they have the nerve and audacity to tell us to “Go back to Africa” like they didn’t come over here invading from Europe.

The truth is white people are ashamed to be white. They are ashamed of their history and what they are caught doing to many people across the world, especially to black people. They try to push who they are on the people they oppress to keep their image clean and keep the rest of the world from seeing who they are and treating them accordingly.

For all white people have done to us, we should be treating THEM how they treat US. We should be negatively judging THEM and killing THEM because we feel threatened…

BUT WE DON’T!

We do nothing but continue to beg them to stop killing us, include us in things, and treat us like human beings, and they STILL continue to disrespect us.

That should tell us everything about US and everything we need to know about THEM.

And you know what else? I think they know that this is true. That’s why they are always doing things to us. They fear we can snap at any moment and it will be justified. That’s why they’re always “fearing for their lives”.

Discrimination Against Black Hair Types & Lengths

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This was brought to my attention by a fellow reader. I’ve noticed this myself in the natural hair community. When the natural hair community first began to gain popularity on YouTube, I was happy because I thought real black hair was finally getting accepted…until I noticed this.

A lot of black women who first start going natural wear weaves at first because they refer to their short natural hair as the “ugly phase”. They will wear weaves until their hair grows to a certain length (Some women say that they do this to get their hair to grow longer easier, but I explained in this post why I believe that is an outright lie and excuse). A lot of people only like natural black hair when it’s a certain length. I feel like some people took the black women with long natural hair the wrong way (probably purposely) in the natural hair community online.

There aren’t as many popular natural hair YouTube channels where the women have short hair. I don’t think people compliment women with short natural hair as much as they compliment women with long natural hair. When I first cut my hair and went natural and it was really short, I didn’t get many compliments for it. I didn’t start getting a lot of compliments until after I grew some length to it.

The women with long natural hair on YouTube was supposed to show that black women’s hair can grow long and how to get it to grow long. For a long time, there was a myth going around the black community that only mixed or nonblack women’s hair could grow long. It wasn’t to send the message that only long natural hair is beautiful.

I noticed the natural hair length discrimination, but what I didn’t notice, which was brought to my attention by this fellow reader I mentioned at the beginning of this post, was texturism. Only a certain type of texture of natural hair is more acceptable in the black community than other textures. To make things more clear, looser textured natural hair or the texture mixed women have when they wear afros are sometimes more acceptable than women who have kinkier textured hair.

I searched natural hair on YouTube and women with looser textured hair popped up first, their videos took up most of the page and, for the most part, had more views than women with kinkier textured hair. The same thing happened when I searched it on Google.

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We have to learn to accept our hair AT ALL lengths and textures! Cut out the discrimination and “picky-choosiness” between hair textures and lengths! We have to learn how to accept our all of real hair textures and lengths just like we accept straight or loosely curly hair in every length and texture.

Like I believe I’ve said in a different post about natural hair and what you might see me saying a lot more in the future, we won’t accept our hair as our own unless we accept it at all textures and lengths. We will always come up with some excuse to cover it up and be insecure about it if we don’t. We shouldn’t be ashamed and insecure about our own real hair that grows out of our scalps!

The Problem With Talking About Self Hate To Black People

Check out my new video from my YouTube channel where I discuss the problem with talking about self hate to black people. Be sure to like, comment, subscribe, and share if you like it. Thank you.

Nobody Cares About How Colorism Affects Black Men

The topic of colorism is becoming more and more widespread now than it ever has been. I’m extremely proud of that because I really think that needs to be talked about more and the people guilty of perpetrating it needs to be called out and held accountable. Especially since this topic is ignored, deflected against, and swept under the rug A LOT.

Although I’m happy about colorism being talked about more, I did notice one problem with it. When talking about it, most people only talk about how it affects black women. Rarely are there ever any conversations about helping dark skinned men be confident in their skin or protect them from being discriminated against or disrespected for their skin. When dark skinned men are attacked for their skin, there aren’t as many people defending them like they do with dark skinned women who are attacked.

Lots of people point out how dark skinned women are overlooked, undercasted, and poorly represented in Hollywood. Lots of people called out the black men who publicly took swipes at Lupita Nyong’o for her dark skin. Lots of people dragged Kodak Black into outer space for his derogatory comments against dark skinned women. Oprah did an episode about colorism on her Lifeclass show. GREAT episode, by the way. I loved how everyone got to share their experiences with colorism and how they tackled the issue. But there was one problem. WHERE WERE THE BLACK MEN?!? Tons of black women shared their stories with colorism on the episode, but where were the black men to share their stories with colorism? (To add, another thing I wasn’t quite okay with in the episode was how they laughed and joked when they started talking about the Paper Bag Test. There’s NOTHING funny about that! Still to this day, many black people are mistreated, disrespected, discriminated against, and undervalued because their skin color is darker than a paper bag. If we’re going to talk about this stuff, we have to take it seriously! Sugarcoating and making jokes is NOT the way to solve a problem).

I will use some black male celebrities here as an example to prove that nobody really cares about how colorism affects black men.

I believe this happened back in 2009. There was an altercation where Fabolous went at T-Pain because he thought that T-Pain made a tweet saying, ‘Fuck Fabolous’. In response to this, Fabolous sent out a series of tweets:

But thats jus a taste of what u’ll get if u fuck wit me via twitter, Back to my Twitter chillin

Ok so i jus got word that it wasnt Tpain’s twitter page who said Fuck Fabolous..a fake page, w/ 900 followers.. oooops, damn i went in LOL

F.Y.I. This is not a beef.. jus Twitter fun. someone retweeted that Tpain said Fuck Me on twitter & truthfully i dont know if he said or not

#tpainbetter chill cuz i will air this ***** via twitter

#tpainbetter thank me.. he’s #1 TT.. the only place his name gonna b #1 for a lonnnggggggg time!

#tpainbetter apologize & blame it on the al-a-a-al-a-al-cohol

#tpainbetter stop singin in the fan… that aint talent we can all do that

#tpainbetter audition to be a California Raisin.. He’s done!

#uknowhowiknowuregay cuz u do a song wit Lil Wayne & change ur name to T-Wayne…eeeel

#tpainbetter stop playin for JayZ buys every autotune machine in the world & end his career

#tpainbetter stay his ass outta the sun for the rest of his life!!

#tpainbetter give Mr. Monopoly back his top hats!!

#tpainbetter not meet me in Brooklyn

After D.O.A., #tpainbetter not be mad, UPS is hiring!!

Jus heard Tpain says Fuck JayZ & Fuck Fabolous too over Twitter… Ok, now me & my twiggas/Street Twitter Ditta Dam must go in on him!

It was later confirmed that T-Pain didn’t really tweet that and it came from a fake page. As you can see, Fabolous admitted it in one of those tweets in the series. Even after knowing the tweet was fake, he still didn’t stop or even apologize for anything he said.

And even if T-Pain did actually tweet that about him, why does ONE statement generate this type of response? Obviously something else is going on with him here and I believe I know what it is, but I’m not going to get into it here because I feel like it will shift the focus of this post.

In one of the tweets, after realizing it wasn’t really T-Pain who made the tweet, Fabolous said he said all this not to diss, but for “fun”. This is what happens when black men get attacked for their dark skin. It gets classified as “fun” and people dismiss the blatant colorism because of it, thinking, “It’s just a joke”, “We’re just having fun”, etc. And I think this is one of the main reasons why no one speaks out against colorism against black men. But people, colorism is NOT funny!

And speaking of funny, I don’t even think anyone defended T-Pain against Fabolous for saying any of this. They just thought it was funny. Were T-Pain a dark skinned female celebrity Fabolous was saying all of this to, black Twitter would’ve definitely DISMEMBERED him and nobody would’ve cared that he said all that just for “Twitter fun”. As a matter of fact, I think him saying it was just “Twitter fun” would’ve made black Twitter angrier if T-Pain were a woman! Especially in this day and age when black women are being defended more against colorism than ever before.

Even though he doesn’t talk about it much, like most black men when it comes to colorism, T-Pain talked about how record labels rejected him because he wanted to be an R&B singer. They believed he would be better off going into rap. I believe they did this because he was a dark skinned man with dreadlocks. They thought he would be better being a thugged out rapper. Most dark skinned rappers had thuggish or threatening images. Think the likes of 50 Cent. I just don’t know why Hollywood is so bent on portraying our dark skinned men this way. He was obviously being discriminated against because of his looks, colorism, and racism. People don’t want to look at it this way, but it’s so obvious.

Akon is another black male celebrity that gets attacked for his dark skin quite a bit. I’ve heard lots of rappers say, “My car black like Akon” in their songs. If I hear another rapper make that stupid line in their raps, I’m going to lose it! On his Behind The Music episode, Akon mentioned how he would get into a lot of fights in school because he was picked on a lot. And I’m sure he was picked on because he was dark skinned and African. We know how a lot of black people believe all of America’s negative, racist portrayals of Africa in its media and respond accordingly. Even his mother who featured on the episode said that kids used to call him names, like “African Booty Scratcher”. We ALL know that’s a word black people use to attack someone who’s dark skinned. (Don’t try to deny it! Nobody has ever called a light skinned or mixed person that!)

And Akon has a brother named Bu who gets attacked for his dark skin as well. Look up his interviews on YouTube and read the comments. I’m happy that there were some people defending him, but the amount of colorist remarks in the comment sections on his videos are still just downright disgusting! With some of the comments I’ve seen, you would think that there were a bunch of racist white people trolling his page, but I know for a fact that most of those comments were from other black people.

A while back, there was one comment I saw on one of the videos that complimented his skin and said it was beautiful and lots of people responded to it negatively. What was the negativity about? Because someone thought a man’s dark skin was beautiful when they considered it ugly and it made them feel some type of way? No one would’ve responded to that comment negatively if he were a woman. They would agree and call her a melanin goddess and say things like, “Black don’t crack”.

If you can remember and think back, Bernie Mac was the brunt of quite a few jokes about his skin color in movies and TV shows.

I’ve heard people make remarks about Wesley Snipes’ dark skin as well.

And we all know Biggie’s line where he said in one of his songs that he’s “BLACK and ugly as ever”.

Tommy Sotomayor talked in many videos about how he was teased for his dark skin growing up, even by his own mother (That’s a HUGE thing to talk about as well when talking about colorism. A lot of this nonsense starts AT HOME, where dark skinned people’s OWN PARENTS and FAMILY MEMBERS make negative comments about their dark skin). He mentioned in one video that the first woman to compliment him for his skin in his life was a white woman (That’s a shame. As much as us black people complain about white people being racist, I shouldn’t be hearing any stories like this, but here we are).

Now, think about this. Have you noticed the amount of dark skinned male celebrities who have stage names where they’re calling themselves black? For example: Kodak BLACK, BLAC Youngsta (his is spelled without a ‘k’), CRISPY BLACK (This is an actual rapper’s name! Look it up! It surprised me too!), Michael BLACKson. And let’s not forget that almost every black person knows that one dark skinned man in their neighborhoods nicknamed “Black” or “Smoke”.

Is there a coincidence that all these black men are dark skinned and calling themselves “black”? How many light skinned or mixed men refer to themselves as “black” as a nickname or stage name?

And since I mentioned Michael Blackson, his whole gimmick in comedy is surrounded by making jokes about his dark skin and being from Africa. On his social media, he “jokes” with people who go back and forth making jokes about his dark skin and being African. I believe comedy is his way of dealing with his pain of experiencing colorism and being attacked for his dark skin and being African all his life.

I see this pattern with many dark skinned men. I believe they were attacked and discriminated against for their dark skin for so long, they began to make fun of and attack themselves. I believe this is their way of dealing with their pain. This is why we see so many dark skinned men nicknaming themselves “Black”. This is why we see dark skinned men make so many dark skinned jokes about themselves and other dark skinned people. This is internalized racism.

When the topic of colorism comes up, especially when it’s time to talk about black men, I hear a lot of people say, “It’s not about colorism”, “It’s not that deep”, “It’s just jokes”, etc. All of these sayings are FALSE. They are all excuses. All deflecting. All gaslighting. All lies. All lame.

Another thing I’m tired of is when someone does point out how America is more discriminating and unfair, particularly within the justice system and with police, moreso with dark skinned men than anyone else, someone always has to respond with, “They treat light skinned men like that, too, because we’re all black”. This is another blatant lie to minimize colorism against dark skinned men, especially in the justice system. Dark skinned men are more likely to get harsher prison sentences for a given crime than anyone else. Dark skinned men are more likely to be killed by police than a light skinned or mixed man. Look at the news! All or most of the unarmed black men that Black Lives Matter is fighting for justice for that police have killed are dark skinned. We all know this. Why are we so dismissive and acting so blind?!?? I just don’t get it!

I believe people try to minimize colorism against dark skinned men because they want to uphold the belief that dark skinned women have it worst. And that’s just NOT true. All dark skinned black people, whether they’re a man or woman, experience colorism. People just don’t see it because men handle it differently and society handles it differently.

We really need to start including black men in discussions about colorism and allow them to share their stories and experiences with it. And black men also need to not be afraid to express these feelings and stories because I do think a lot of black men are afraid to talk about how colorism affects them. Maybe they feel it will make them look weak. Maybe they feel the topic hits too close to home.

I dont even know how or why colorism came about to only focus on black women. Maybe it’s a tactic used to turn black men and women against each other? Maybe it’s because black women want all the attention to be on themselves? I just don’t know.

We will only be able to heal if we talk about these things instead of denying it or sweeping it under the rug. Think about any other problem in life. You can never fix it unless you acknowledge and identify it first. Ignoring, making excuses, denying, and lying to yourself about the problem doesn’t make it go away or make it not exist. It makes it worst.

This colorism that dark skinned men experience is probably a huge reason why many of them overlook or find dark skinned women unattractive and prefer light skinned or nonblack women. As much as black women complain about black men overlooking them, especially if they’re dark skinned, many dark skinned black men have been overlooked, rejected, and put down by black women as well because of their dark skin; they just don’t speak out about it much.

I believe that dark skinned men who overlook and talk down about dark skinned women actually hate that the woman reminds them of how much they hate their own skin tone. Also, I think they may seek out light skinned or nonblack women because they don’t want their children to experience what they experienced in their lives due to dark skin. If they date or marry a light skinned or nonblack woman, chances are their children will come out light skinned.

I really hope we can start including black men in our conversations about colorism very, very soon because these stories I highlighted in this post as well as many others I’ve heard and witnessed throughout my life really break my heart. I’m saddened. I’m hurt. I’m disgusted. We really need to resolve all the colorism issues between all black people. It’s not normal at all for our people to have these types of stories and nothing gets done about it. Or we pretend that it’s not that serious and it’s all in their heads.

Solange-Tina Taught Me

I love this interlude, “Tina Taught Me”, from Solange’s album, A Seat At The Table. The instrumental to “Don’t Touch My Hair” playing in the background makes it even better. Solange’s mother, Tina Knowles, spoke a message I couldn’t agree with more if I wanted to. A message full of being proud of being black. She also talks about how here in America, black people are not allowed to express pride in being black and if we do, it is taken as us being anti-white. The truth is white people are anti-black. They hate our culture. They don’t want us to love our culture and try to push their culture on us. They’ve done this for centuries. This is why our original culture(s), language(s), etc., were stripped away from us and replaced with theirs. I believe this is why when we express pride in loving ourselves and our culture, they take it as us not liking their culture. They take us expressing love and pride in ourselves as rejecting their culture that they’re forcing on us.