A reader of mine brought to my attention that interracial dating isn’t always sunshine and rainbows like some black people make it seem like. I didn’t really know what to say about this. But this video I found on YouTube, which I will share at the end of this post, is perfect for what I needed to say here.
This video highlighted a story of a black woman finally coming forward about the abuse she suffered from her nonblack husband. The focus of the video is that nowadays, interracial dating is more promoted and glorified like they’re better than black relationships, but in a lot of those relationships, the black partner is dealing with abuse. And I’ve heard many stories about black people dealing with racism from their nonblack partner’s family or the nonblack partners themselves.
Now, I’m not using this video to discourage people from dating interracially. Because I’ve heard many stories about black women talking about the abuse they suffered from black men and vice versa. So in a lot of cases, black relationships aren’t always better either.
I honestly don’t really care about interracial dating to be honest. I just don’t like how black people are always so loud about the abuse they endure from each other. They can’t wait to share a story about a black man abusing a black woman or a black woman killing a black man and use these stories as an excuse to promote interracial dating, but when stories of racism, abuse, and murder happen with interracial couples, no one is saying anything because it goes against their agenda.
I want black people to start treating each other better. And I don’t want black people glorifying interracial relationships like they’re any better because in a lot of cases, they’re not. Check out the video below if you like and let me know what you think of it.
This is very disturbing to me, but I have been wondering about this for a while. I feel like most black people only love conscious Pro-Black people after they have died or gone to prison. And I feel like that because of how I see most black people treating conscious black people.
I hear lots of black people talking about how much they love Huey from The Boondocks and wished there were more people like him in the world or praise the likes of people like Marcus Garvey and Malcolm X. But when it’s our people living today that talk about conscious Pro-Black stuff, so many of our people dismiss them, calling them “hotep” or some other name they come up with. And if Huey from The Boondocks actually existed, NO ONE would listen to him! Just like it’s depicted in the cartoon!
I often find myself wondering how us black people are still acting so lost when we had so many people fighting for us and teaching us how to empower ourselves throughout history. I now believe this is why. Our people don’t listen to these people for real. If our people actually did listen, we wouldn’t be complaining about as much things as we do now.
So many people throughout history have told us the real deal about this country and how we need to unify, love ourselves, stop begging white people for everything and start doing things for ourselves if we want to really free ourselves from white supremacy. But from the looks of our people today, we haven’t applied what they taught us very well.
I’ve seen lots of our people talk about conscious people who are still alive that say these things and people dismiss them as being “agents” because they’re not dead or in prison. I’ve literally heard people say that. It seems like our people are so traumatized by our leaders getting murdered and imprisoned that we don’t even consider anyone a leader unless they have been murdered or imprisoned.
Just because someone hasn’t been murdered or imprisoned when they’re speaking on the real doesn’t always mean that they aren’t telling the truth. We still need to listen. Maybe the reason why they haven’t been murdered or imprisoned is because most people aren’t listening to them. The Powers That Be don’t see them as a threat because they see how so many people are dismissing them or simply don’t know about them at all.
Our people only love and praise these people after they have died, gone to prison, or are fictional. And then after that, we STILL don’t listen to them. It’s so sad. That’s exactly what The Powers That Be want. They want us to love the conscious people who are dead, in prison or fictional because they aren’t/no longer a threat. If we listen to the ones who are real, free, and alive, that would be threatening and might actually make real change.
I can’t even begin to tell you how many times I’ve heard a black person say that other black people treat them so badly that they would rather hang out with white people because white people treat them so much better. Or how many black people have said other black people weren’t interested in dating them until they started dating white people.
A lot of black people like to laugh at people who say this and call them coons, but before you do that, think for a second. There’s a reason why these people feel this way. And they tell us all the time. These are genuine feelings these people feel. Black people shouldn’t treat each other so bad that our people don’t even feel comfortable and accepted by us.
We as black people are always complaining about how white people treat us. We’re always complaining about how white people negatively profile us and kill unarmed black people, which are legit reasons for us to be upset. However, in our own communities, the crimes and murders committed against each other is way higher. Black people are more likely to be hurt and/or killed by another black person way more than by a white person.
And don’t get me started on how so many black people project colorism on each other. So many of our people say, do, and think the worst about dark skinned people. We get mad about Hollywood not putting enough dark skinned people in the media in a positive and tasteful way, but a lot of times, our people are the ones who give more attention to people with lighter skin. Our people are also the main ones referring to dark skinned people as derogatory terms—“black”, “crusty”, “burnt”, etc. This way of referring to black people sounds like racist terms from white people, but white people usually aren’t the ones saying this to black people. It’s other black people! As colorist as so many black people are, if black people owned a Hollywood, they would probably erase dark skinned people out just like white Hollywood does.
A lot of black people on a regular basis look down on natural hair and refuse to wear it, but want to cry when white people say something negative about it. Or cry when they see a white woman wear an afro. Anything negative a white person says about black hair, trust me. MORE black people have said the exact same thing, if not worst. Before these current years where natural hair is now seen as more acceptable, lots of black people used to call them nappy headed and try to persuade them to straighten their hair. So many black people are upset when black people with dreads are refused jobs or prevented to graduate school, but I’ve heard black people say the worst things I’ve ever heard about dreads, sounding just like a racist white person.
Black people are online everyday trying to explain to nonblacks that they can’t say nigga, but call each other niggas all day long. When a nonblack person actually does say it, black people crumble. The Boondocks did an episode about that, titled “The S Word”, where Riley’s teacher said the word nigga and Riley acted like he was so hurt when he says nigga probably more than anybody in the whole show! And what I hate the most is a lot of us try to lie and say the word actually means “king” and comes from the Ethiopian word “negus”, but a lot of times when black people call each other niggas, nothing positive follows that in their sentence. So if the word means “king”, how come when black people say it, it isn’t always in a positive way? And if the word means king, why do we crumble so much when white people say it? It’s because we know what that word means and where it comes from and it DOESN’T mean king!
I notice that some black people online, when they see interracial couples, they use the black person’s partner turning out to be racist or their partner ending up abusing or killing them as an excuse to turn other black people away from interracial dating, but both black men and black women are more likely to be abused, hurt, and killed by each other than in interracial relationships.
Black people get angry when white businesses turn them away because of their names, yet in the next breath, make fun of another black person’s name, calling their names “ghetto”.
What’s sad is all this antiblackness that black people push on each other gets passed down to their children. And we have the nerve to act shocked when a black child says they feel ugly because they’re dark skinned or a 4 year old black girl throws a fit because her hair isn’t straight.
Don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying that we shouldn’t say or do anything about white people who disrespect, abuse, and kill us. I’m saying that we should treat each other better! We can’t cry about how racist people treat us, then turn around and treat each other the exact same way. It doesn’t work that way!