What Is A Mistake?

According to the Merriam-Webster dictionary website, a mistake is 1) a wrong judgement or misunderstanding; 2) a wrong action or statement proceeding faulty judgement, inadequate knowledge, or inattention. In my own words, a mistake is a wrong thing someone does or says, but wasn’t intending to. For example, you writing too quickly and you accidentally misspell something because of it and you have to erase. Or grabbing something out the fridge and it slips out of your hands and breaks. You didn’t throw it on the floor on purpose. It just slipped out of your hand.

Many people call things “mistakes” that aren’t mistakes. They’re CHOICES. But because they regret it later, they want to soften what they did, so instead of admitting they made a poor choice, they’ll say they “made a mistake”.

“I made a mistake and cheated on my spouse.”

“I made a mistake and said something I shouldn’t have said out of anger.”

“I made a mistake and wore blackface and called someone a racial slur.”

“I made a mistake and raped someone.”

“I made a mistake and abused someone.”

“I made a mistake and bullied someone.”

So many people say things like this and claim they are mistakes. These aren’t mistakes because all people know right from wrong. We were taught since we were babies right from wrong. It’s up to us to CHOOSE right or wrong. A lot of people CHOOSE to do WRONG things, then don’t want to own up to their choice.

You knew you were in a relationship/married when you slept with someone that wasn’t your partner. It’s not like you didn’t know you were already with someone. You knew doing that was wrong, which is why you did it behind your partner’s back and lied about it. You knew sleeping with someone that wasn’t your partner would hurt them…but you did it anyway. Now that you got caught and you see the hurt on your partner’s face, you want to say it was “a mistake”. No. You made A CHOICE!

Everyone knows wearing blackface is racist. Everyone knows what racial slurs are. You went online and did it anyway. And now that you’re getting dragged for it (like you should), you want to claim you “made a mistake”. No. You made A CHOICE!

When you picked on that kid in school for whatever reason, you knew exactly what you were doing. You knew the kid would be and was hurt by it. But you did it anyway. And kept doing it. You didn’t “make a mistake” and become a bully. You made A CHOICE!

When you had sex without a condom or birth control, you knew beforehand that unprotected sex leads to pregnancy. You don’t sleep around unprotected, then say “I made a mistake and now I’m pregnant” or “I made a mistake and got somebody pregnant”. You made A CHOICE!

Instead of saying, “We’re all human and we all make mistakes”, I want us to start saying, “We’re all human and we all make CHOICES”. We have to start being more honest with ourselves and admitting that we CHOOSE to do bad things sometimes.

A lot of people like using “free will” as excuse to absolve themselves from accountability for bad choices as well. Yes we have free will to choose what we want to do, but that doesn’t mean there aren’t consequences to what we do or that what we do won’t hurt someone else.

I believe that if more of us admitted to making bad choices instead of calling our bad choices “mistakes”, we will think twice about doing certain things. If we keep calling our bad choices “mistakes”, a lot of us won’t try to do better because in our heads, we’re not doing anything wrong. We’re just “making mistakes”.

Should Schools Be All Year Round?

I’ve heard people raising the question of if schools should be all year round for as long as I can remember. They want to take away all breaks that schools get throughout the year, especially summer break. One time when I was asked that, I said yes because children need to learn as much as they can. But now, I don’t think so. At least not yet. The school system is very bad right now. Before they try to make schools all year round, a lot of things need to change first.
With the school system we have now, kids need a break. Teachers need breaks, too. School can be a very stressful place for a lot of kids and teachers. We can’t think that just because they’re kids they don’t get stressed and can go without breaks. Teachers for sure get stressed. I know handling so many kids all day is NOT easy in the slightest.

If schools are going to be all year round, schools need to crack down on bullying a lot more. There are a lot of schools that don’t do that enough. It’s already bad enough that many kids have to deal with bullying all throughout the school year that we have. If schools don’t crack down on bullying, taking away those breaks will make it worst.

I think they should cut down the school day a little, too. Aren’t school days a little too long? I don’t think 7 to 8 hour school days are necessary, especially if there will be no more breaks.

I’ve heard about schools that don’t have heat in them and things like that. Yet, they still have those schools open for students to sit in all day. That’s not right! These schools need to be functioning properly and have everything up to par. Whether all year round or not, there should be no schools like that open if they can’t even provide the basic necessities, like heat, to keep students and teachers warm during the winter.

There needs to be better and more qualified teachers. I know there are many schools that put certain teachers in classes that they aren’t qualified to teach, and as a result, they don’t teach the class well. When I was going to school, I’ve had lots of teachers that didn’t know how to teach. I remember I had one teacher in middle school who only gave us crossword puzzles to do everyday. And another teacher in high school who was barely there to teach the class at all. She would be absent a whole lot. We almost always had a substitute for her class. And when she was there, all she did was show movies (not educational ones, by the way. ACTUAL movies! Like the ones we see in theaters or on TV) or give us assignments out of a current events magazine. Some of the other students liked it, but I always hated it. I go to school to learn and do work. I can watch movies at home! If I’m going to go to school and all we do is watch movies all day, I might as well not come to school at all! The sad thing was, I really liked her as a person. She was nice and she thought I was a brilliant student. She just didn’t do what I thought teachers should do.

And don’t get me started on all the teachers I had throughout my school years where they would just pass out worksheets and then sit behind their desks all day. No kind of instruction or anything. And when a student needed help with their work, they would get angry and didn’t want to help and most likely because they didn’t know how to help! I remember one teacher I had in high school who would always get upset when a student asked him for help. A lot of times, if students had wrong answers, he would embarrass them and laugh at them in front of the whole class. He did that so much, eventually students stopped asking him for help. But then, he would get upset if students are continuing to fail his work and has the nerve to wonder why no one wanted to come to him for help. A lot of students liked him because he cursed and was very funny. I liked him, too. I just didn’t like how he treated students.

I remember going to elementary school and there were teachers and staff that withheld lunch and kept the kids in the hallway just because they were talking. My little sister is in elementary school now and she said that her school did that to her class as well. I KNOW they’re not supposed to do that! Wasn’t free lunch put in schools to ensure that no kids were going hungry? And now, they’re taking it away because of talking?! TALKING?!??? We have teachers and staff that are that stuck up in schools? We need to make sure these types of teachers and staff aren’t in the schools if we decide to make school all year round.

I’ve also seen teachers who are mean to students and think they can talk to them any kind of way. My sister told me all the time about some of the teachers she has who are very snarky to the students. A lot of times for no reason. Schools don’t need teachers like that! They shouldn’t be there at all if they’re going to treat students like that! Schools need teachers who are nice, calm, and patient.

I think classes should be smaller. So many schools try to cram way too many students in one class. I’ve heard of lots of classes that had 20 to 30 students in them. Sometimes, there would be more than that! I think if classes were smaller, it can help cut down on the bullying because it would be easier for teachers to spot it and stop it. It would cut down on distractions because too many people in one place can be very distracting. I think that makes it harder for students to work and pay attention to the lessons being taught. I believe smaller classes can make it easier for teachers to help the students who need a little more help and are falling behind. Helping the students who are falling behind can be tough when there’s too many students. Also, too many students in one class can be very overwhelming for teachers. I think classes should have about 12 students. 15 at the most.

Things need to change to make it better for teachers, too. Many teachers already don’t get paid enough for what they do. If schools are going to be all year round and teachers are still going to be underpaid, that is not going to work out so well. There will be more teacher strikes than ever before.

Also, the students who are coming to school have to be willing to learn and listen to what the teachers say. When I was going to school, I’ve witnessed way too many kids who wanted to come to school to play and talk and not listen to the teachers’ instructions, then have the nerve to get upset when the teachers give them failing grades. Or they get upset because the teachers give them work. What do they think school is for??? I’ve also witnessed those kids who wanted to be rude and talk back to the teachers. Most of the time, for no real reason. Probably just to show off in front of their friends. Those kinds of kids DO NOT need to be anywhere near a school!

I think the best solution for an all year round school is for all schools to practice absolute ZERO TOLERANCE. If a student comes to school everyday, but always wants to be disruptive, disrespectful, and not take in the lessons, they should be expelled. Not suspended. EXPELLED! If students come to school wanting to fight, they should be expelled. If a teacher comes to school everyday and doesn’t teach or give out actual work, they should be fired. If a teacher is being mean and rude to students, they should be fired. Anyone caught bullying should be expelled. To make it a little lenient, everyone can get ONE warning. Just ONE. They shouldn’t have to be told more than once because they should already know the right things to do. If they continue to do those things after that one warning, expelled or fired it should be! I prefer no warning a lot more, though.

School is supposed to be a place for teachers to teach and students to learn. There shouldn’t be anything more than that in schools. Anything other than that, I consider trash to the school and it should be taken out to the dump!

I think all year round school is an excellent idea. I remember hearing someone say somewhere that schools should either shorten or take away summer breaks because students forget too much during that time off. I totally agree with that. I just don’t think it’s the proper time for it right now. If schools make those changes, then they can make them all year round. If not, they can leave the school year the way it is. Many of today’s schools are full of way too much trash!