Are People Actually Upset That Child Abuse Is Outlawed?

“They need to bring back whoopin yo kids ass!”

I hear people say this so much. People say this like everybody stopped whipping their kids. People DIDN’T stop. INCLUDING the ones who say this! Why would people ask to “bring back” something they never stopped doing? What do they really want to bring back? Child abuse? PUNCHING their kids? Hitting their kids with hard objects? This is exactly what a lot of people were doing to their kids and more before it was outlawed.

A lot of people say things and don’t realize what they’re saying. This is exactly what it sounds like to me— that people really want to bring back child abuse—when they say that.

I also think people know of and heard of all the studies that came out speaking against whipping and yelling at children and exposed the negative effects of it, but they don’t want to stop doing it. They want to go back to when scientists and psychologists weren’t studying that so much and exposing it so they can go back to doing it in peace.

I am anti hitting kids as discipline. I never understood why it was necessary. Whipping children with belts is one thing, but why do some people think they need to hit their children with something worst than that? Why is it so hard for people to discipline their kids without yelling or hitting them? People have to hit and yell at their kids to “discipline” them like they’re wild animals.

If anything, the constant whipping and yelling is more than likely why the kids are acting up. The studies said that—whipping children causes behavior problems, amongst many other things, but people who like doing that didn’t listen.

I’ve noticed that whenever people see a video of a child acting horribly online, they say, “This is why we whoop our kids!” But why do these people automatically assume that the child isn’t getting whipped by their parents? They don’t know that child or their parents personally.

Also, I’ve seen tons of horrible acting children who are always getting whipped, smacked, and yelled at by their parents. These people know that, too, which is why they feel like they have to do it so much. So, a child acting badly doesn’t always mean they aren’t getting whipped. That’s just people using other bad children as an excuse to justify why they hit theirs.

Another thing I thought of is some people probably don’t think whipping their children is working as well as they thought (Studies said that, too, but again, they didn’t listen). They’re realizing that their kids are still really bad no matter how much they hit and yell at them. So, they feel like they need to up the ante and hit their kids with something more. They wish laws would let them hit their kids with more than just a belt or switch.

When people say they wish the government would bring back beating children, it makes me think that there are some people out there who are actually upset that child abuse has been outlawed and the negative effects of hitting them in any way or yelling at them has been widespread news for decades.

Should Paddling Be Allowed In Schools?

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I remember when I was very little that some of the teachers used to paddle kids who misbehaved in school. Nowadays, paddling has been outlawed in schools in most states. Currently, it’s legal in only 19 states in the U.S. As a child, I didn’t think much of paddling. I thought it was normal and that’s just what adults did to discipline misbehaved children. But now that I’m an adult, I’m angry that paddling was ever allowed in schools at all.

One major reason is because I don’t think adults should be putting their hands on children, especially children that’s not their own! The idea of adults hitting children never sat well with me. It makes me think of child abuse, even if it is just a couple of little taps.

And thinking back on how a lot of my teachers were when I was little, I think many of them got a rise out of hitting children and looked for any reason to do it. I remember some kids getting paddled for talking in class or coming back from the bathroom a few minutes late. Although I do think those types of actions need some type of disciplinary action to prevent it from continuously happening, I don’t think paddling a child for that is necessary. I think some school staff were just power hungry and needed to feel a sense of power.

The other reason is, I believe disciplining children should be the parents’ job and the parents’ job only. No one else should have to discipline your children for you. No one else should have to tell your children to be quiet, sit down, pay attention, come to class on time, listen to the teacher, and do their work. Your child should already know how to behave at school. Your child should already know to listen and do their work.

A friend of mine has very disobedient children and they always bring them around me. I always have to tell them to stop doing this and stop doing that. And since the children aren’t mine, I feel very uncomfortable doing that. I can only imagine how a teacher would feel dealing with these types of kids. If your child needs to be disciplined outside your home, either your disciplinary actions don’t work and you need to change it (or you have none and need to get some immediately) or your child may have a disorder and you need to check it out.

I also read an article that said black and disabled children are paddled in school more than any other children. So, I believe paddling may have some subtle racist undertones and/or adults having lack of patience with children. You need a TON of patience to deal with disabled (mentally & physically) children.

I believe that is a huge problem with many adults today. They have no patience with children. Children are still learning and growing. They require patience to help them grow to the best they can be. If you’re not patient when it comes to children, you shouldn’t work in a school or be a parent.

On the flip side, even though I don’t agree with paddling children, I understand why it was allowed. A lot of children are REALLY bad and disobedient. And a lot of parents send them to school for poor teachers and other kids to deal with, KNOWING those kids are bad! I’ve heard stories about teachers telling parents about their bad kids and the parents would either do nothing or get mad at the teachers like they’re lying. That is sad!

RAISE AND DISCIPLINE YOUR OWN CHILDREN! Stop putting your bad ass kids on other people! Deal with them yourself!