I think about all the woman teachers who made news headlines a few years ago because people were wondering if their clothes were too revealing to be in a school environment. Patrice Brown, a.k.a. “Teacher Bae”, is one of many great examples of this. She went viral a few years ago because people made her attire controversial. To a person that hadn’t seen a photo of her, by the way people were reacting, they would think the teacher was wearing a ridiculously short skirt or a shirt that showed too much cleavage. Not at all! She was fully dressed. Her dress reached to her knees. Nothing was showing except her legs.
I remember seeing a picture of Fantasia on Facebook years ago where she was wearing a leotard and many people in the comments were screaming at her to “put some pants on”. By the way the leotard was made, the whole thing couldn’t be seen, so it looked like she was just wearing a top with no pants. I think about how women like Rihanna, Beyoncé, and Ariana Grande dress. They wear short things that show their legs all the time and I’ve never heard anyone tell them to “put pants on” under their pictures (unless they barely have anything on at all). Did people react to Fantasia that way because she has bigger legs?
(This isn’t the exact photo of her I’m talking about, but she was wearing something like this.)
I remember one time I wore some shorts and my dad told me I should “wear pants instead” because they were “too revealing”. I’m in my twenties, so he didn’t say it because of my age or because because I’m “too young”, I should say. And my shorts were no different than any other shorts that people wear. They weren’t too short or too tight. I kept wearing the shorts anyway because I knew there was no problem with them. I think he only said that because I have big legs. I noticed no one ever tells thin women that they can’t wear shorts or skirts that show their legs because it’ll be “too revealing”. I’ve only heard it said to women with bigger legs.
I’ve seen many other posts and photos on social media of people taking women of any profession who were curvy and FULLY CLOTHED asking if what they’re wearing is “appropriate”. What I gathered from all of this is that many people just might be creeped out or intimidated by women with curves or women who have big legs and they project it on to these women to make it look like the women are the problem, but in reality, THESE PEOPLE COMPLAINING are the problem.
My theory on why people are intimidated is that men are because they are actually attracted to these curvy women or women who have big legs, but they probably feel like they can’t or shouldn’t act on it, so they project and try to tell these women to change what they’re wearing.
The women are probably intimidated, most likely, due to jealousy. The women saying these women are “dressed inappropriately” are jealous because they wished they looked like that, but because they don’t, they project and make it seem like the woman is the problem.
This also sounds like sexism. It sounds like people are looking for an excuse to police what women wear. How come there are no viral stories on the internet asking if what a man wore to work was appropriate?
It’s a shame that our society is like this. Leave curvy women alone! The problem is not them or what they’re wearing. It’s THESE PEOPLE wanting something to say!