Black People Being Overly Happy About Dark Skinned Couples In Hollywood

Many times on social media, I notice a lot of black people being upset about black people in Hollywood dating or marrying white people. I saw people upset and arguing about Serena Williams marrying a white man. I remember a few years ago, I saw a post on Facebook of black women berating O’Shea Jackson Jr. (Ice Cube’s son) because he was with a white woman. I see black people being mad when they see dark skinned black celebrities date or marry light skinned people as well. A few years ago, I saw a video of a black woman on YouTube berating Kendrick Lamar for having a light skinned girlfriend.

On the other hand, I see black people being overly happy when they finally see a celebrity dark skinned couple. Denzel Washington and his wife, Pauletta, Viola Davis and her husband, Julius Tennon, or any rapper with a woman who isn’t light skinned, for example.

I understand why they would be happy when they see these dark skinned couples, given the fact that we actually don’t see them as much in the media. But this shows that there are huge problems in the black community. And even though I noticed people being overly happy about dark skinned couples, I also noticed that people don’t talk about those couples as much as they complain about interracial couples or a dark skinned person being with a light skinned person.

The problems I believe this behavior shows about the black community is that there’s a lot of colorism, especially in Hollywood. I also believe that people shouldn’t give interracial couples more attention than the dark skinned couples, especially when there are dark skinned couples out there. I believe interracial couples getting more attention than dark skinned couples also stems from colorism.

Another problem I believe the black community has is insecurity. I believe that when black people see these interracial couples, it makes them feel like they’re not wanted by their own people, especially if they are rich or a celebrity. Seeing interracial couples causes insecurities in some people, whether they admit it or not. I don’t believe there were be so many negative reactions if it didn’t cause insecurities. Therefore, when they see dark skinned people, they feel happier.

We have to stop letting this bother us so much. If these people don’t want to date other black people, then let them stay with the other people. As the saying goes, “Let the trash take itself out”. It’s better for them to date out instead of them continuing to date their own people, knowing they have deep rooted issues with their own people. All they’re going to do is mistreat them.

It’s pretty sad that after everything our race has been through throughout history and everything our people have fought for, we still have these strong, negative issues about skin color. What’s worst is a lot of black people don’t want to talk about these things. They’ll talk about white people and racism all day long. But when it comes time to talk about how black people perpetuate hate amongst each other over skin color and many other things, they want to shy away from it.

A reader of mine told me about this and I’m glad this was brought to my attention. I really wish that there will come a day where all black people can say we defeated colorism and we no longer have these problems.

The Problem With People Calling Out Tiffany Haddish & Kevin Hart

I’ve been seeing a lot of people lately talking about how stereotypical the roles Tiffany Haddish and Kevin Hart play. They say that Tiffany Haddish is the stereotype of the loud mouth, ghetto black woman and Kevin Hart is the stereotype of the emasculated black man.

Although I agree with people who say this, I also think it comes off as a little hypocritical. I think so because the vast majority of the popular black comedians, male or female, have made their careers based off of some stereotype. They’re nothing more than a modern day minstrel show!

Eddie Murphy, Martin Lawrence, and many, many others have emasculated themselves and played stereotypical roles of black women in tons of movies and TV shows.

Bernie Mac played the stereotypical role of the big, scary black man.

Even Katt Williams has played stereotypical roles. Friday After Next is a huge example. He played the role of an emasculated black man. He also played the role of a pimp. And we all know there’s nothing to glorify about pimps! And he disrespected a black woman all throughout the whole movie. Where are the people to call that out?

There are so many black comedians who have played stereotypical roles in Hollywood, yet no one is dissecting their comedy skits and movies and talking about how bad it is for the black image. When this is called out, people’s excuses for it is because they are “legends”.

If you’re going to call someone out for something, keep the same energy when it comes to others! Don’t pick and choose who to call out when they’re all doing the same thing. At that point, not only do you look like a hypocrite, you expose yourself for not really caring about black stereotypical roles being played. You just want an excuse to talk down about someone because you don’t like them. Just say you don’t like Kevin Hart and Tiffany Haddish and move on! Don’t make the excuse that it’s “because they play stereotypical roles that make black people look bad” as the reason you don’t like them. We have to stop being blinded by big names and turning a blind eye to what they do, then turn into a lynch mob for someone just because their status isn’t as big.

Also, I believe that calling out Kevin Hart, Tiffany Haddish, or any black comedian, for that matter, for playing these roles is a little misguided. I think we need to start calling out Hollywood for this. Why do they keep pushing these roles on our people? I feel like some people are too afraid to call out Hollywood for the shady things they do.

If Hollywood isn’t going to stop pushing these roles on our people, I think it’s about time (it’s BEEN time!) we create an alternative for our people to go to so they won’t have to do that because, let’s be real. No one is going to turn down all that money Hollywood offers because a role is “stereotypical”, especially if they need it. I’ve heard many people say Tiffany Haddish was homeless before her big break. I hear this about many stars in Hollywood. A lot of them were broke or homeless before their big break. Maybe some people will turn down a role because it’s stereotypical. But Hollywood will always find someone who will take it.

We need our own media where our people can still get paid nicely without selling out like this. Also, these people have to be willing to support it if someone does start to create a media for us that doesn’t depict us in a bad light. People can’t be so eager to sell out and leave behind an opportunity for us to have something of our own, then complain about us not having any good roles to play. We as the audience need to support it as well. Let’s stop supporting comedians who play these types of roles and give our support to more deserving comics.

Male Rape

Have you seen the movie, Friday After Next? Do you know of the scene where Damon (Terry Crews) tried to rape Money Mike (Katt Williams) in the bathroom while there was a huge party going on? How about Tyler Perry’s movie, I Can Do Bad All By Myself? Do you know of the scene where the (married) man April (Taraji P. Henson) was with in the movie tried to rape her niece in the kitchen in the middle of the night?

What was the difference between these two movie scenes? I’ll tell you. One was funny and the other was serious. To be more specific, the one with the man about to be raped was made to be funny. The one with a young female was made to be serious. If you really think about it, lots of movies are like this. If a man is attempted to be raped or sexually harrassed, it’s usually always funny. Rarely, if ever, is it portrayed as funny if a woman is attempted to be raped or sexually harrassed in a movie or TV show.

It’s pretty disturbing thinking about exactly how many movies and TV shows I have seen over the years, not realizing what they were making a joke out of.

I don’t mean to ruin these movies and TV shows for you guys because I know that’s what a lot of people will tell me in response to this. I know a lot of people enjoy these movies, but I’m just calling it how I see it.

Then, of course, there’s the “don’t drop the soap” joke about male rape in prisons. The fact that this is a joke is proof that lots of people are full aware of men getting raped in jails/prisons, but very little is being done about it and no one takes it seriously.

Why does Hollywood do this? Why does Hollywood make it funny when a man is being raped or sexually harrassed? Please, everyone. Be very mindful of what you watch on television! A lot of it is extremely toxic! It’s brainwashing! This is just one example. I will be pointing out so many more examples of toxic things being promoted in media on my blog in a lot of posts later to come.

This is one huge reason why so many people don’t take male rape seriously. If the media portrays it as a funny thing, then that’s what people are going to see and think of it as. I remember a conversation in high school where one of the boys said, “If a woman rapes you and you’re a man, you’re gay”. There was another one I remember where we were doing an assignment on making an autobiography about ourselves. One of the boys told a story about how he was only a teenager and he had already been shot, stabbed, and raped, and one of the other male classmates said he was gay.

If we don’t start taking male rape seriously, young boys and men will continue to be raped and very little will be done about it. Let’s not forget that rape is a very traumatizing experience. And you don’t have to be a rape victim to know this. What is a young boy or man supposed to do if he gets raped or sexually harrassed and people shame him if he tells someone? How can he deal with his pain and trauma?

A lot of times, as a society, we really don’t know what we’re doing, what we’re laughing at, or how things affect us. We just engage in it because we think it’s cool. We really need to be mindful of this stuff. This type of stuff is killing and destroying so many people. We have to stop and change this immediately.

My heart deeply goes out to all the boys and men who get raped and sexually harrassed by other men or women, but are shamed into not saying anything. The only way we can change this is that we as a society need to wake up and realize that it’s wrong and start doing something about it.

This news article completely proves my point.
http://www.bbc.com/news/world-africa-40801782