Some People Deserve To Be Judged; I’m Sorry

People are always throwing around the Bible verse, “Judge not, lest ye be judged”, saying, “Only God can judge me”, “Don’t judge other people”, “We don’t know their story”, etc.

Dr. King said he wanted people to not be judged by the color of their skin, but by the content of their character. I wholeheartedly believe that.

But all I’ve seen throughout my life is people doing the exact opposite of that. Not only do people judge others by the color of their skin, they judge others based on how much money they have, what kind of car they drive, how they wear their hair or their hair’s texture, what clothes they wear, where they live, rumors, how they look, their weight, their height, their body shape, their names—everything that isn’t someone’s character.

The crazy part is, the very same people who cry so much about how we “shouldn’t judge” are the main ones judging other people by these things. They will judge others harshly based on anything, even things that aren’t true, but judging someone based on something bad they did or making a bad decision they KNEW was wrong before they made it is where they want to draw the line at. I don’t get it.

The only reason a lot of people don’t like judging is because they don’t like when someone calls them out on their nonsense. If I see someone doing something that’s outright wrong, I’m going to judge them harshly. I don’t care what anybody says. I don’t feel sympathy for people who do bad things or have a bad character and the consequences of their bad character or the bad things they’ve done start biting them in the behind.

People’s hypocrisy is astounding and sad. From what I see, people don’t hate judging. In fact, they LOVE it. They just don’t want anyone to say anything about them.

I judge anyone who judges people by any of the things I named towards the beginning of this post, but turn a blind eye to people who do wrong by saying “Who am I to judge?”

If someone is mistreating their kids and always hitting them, I’m going to judge them.

If someone ends up having a child, knowing they didn’t want or weren’t ready to have a child, I’m going to judge them.

If someone chooses to be with someone who they knew was bad news before they got with them and later on down the line that person starts treating them badly, I’m not going to feel sorry for them.

If someone gets locked up for doing a crime they’re definitely guilty of, I’m not going to walk around saying “free” that person. I’m going to judge them.

If I see a person being mean and rude to everyone around them all the time, I’m going to judge them.

I’m going to judge anyone who is colorist, racist, abusive, sexist, homophobic, a rapist, and all of the above.

I don’t really care if people get plastic surgeries or not. But if the surgery gets botched or it goes wrong to where it’s causing them health problems, I’m not going to feel sorry for them because everyone has been told and warned about how they go wrong a lot of times and they got it regardless of the risk.

I don’t really care if women wear weaves and wigs or straighten their hair, but when they tell their stories about how they lost all their edges and hair because they wore them or straightened their hair too much and neglected their real hair for too long, I’m not going to feel sorry for them because everyone has been told and warned about what happens if we wear weaves and wigs and straighten our hair too much, especially if we neglect our real hair while doing it, but they did it anyway despite that.

I don’t really care about people who choose to sell drugs or prostitute for a living. But if they get killed, locked up, or caught up in some crazy mess because of it, I’m not going to feel sorry for them because everyone has been told about the consequences that comes with going that route, but they chose to do it anyway.

I’m not going to fall for people’s old sayings, using God, and guilt tripping that they use to keep people from calling them out. People want to do bad things and have horrible attitudes, but don’t want to check themselves. And they don’t want other people to check them either. Check yourself and maybe you won’t have to worry about anyone judging you.

NO! Women DON’T Get Passes For Cheating!

“Women should get a pass for cheating.”

I hear this very often whenever a woman is caught cheating. Lots of people, mostly women, would defend the cheating and say women should get passes for it. They usually say this because they claim that men “cheat more than women” or they “do worst things to women”, so it shouldn’t matter if women cheat on them.

Not only is this B.S., it’s also just a way for women to save face when they get caught cheating. Justifying it by throwing men under the bus. Making men look like the bad guys when they’re the ones doing wrong.

Everyone knows cheating is wrong. And everyone knows men get dragged into oblivion when it’s found out that he cheated on a woman. They are identified as dogs, punks, bitches, whatever negative name you can think of.

But women don’t want to deal with that type of backlash when they get caught cheating. They hate when men call them bitches and whores when they get caught cheating, despite how many names they call men for cheating. They want to always look like the good, loyal ones in relationships. If they’re caught cheating, they won’t be able to look like that. So, they come up with stuff like this in order to keep it.

Also, this would make it easier for women to cheat. If everyone thinks men are the worst cheaters, so much to the point where they think women should get a pass when they’re caught, no one would suspect them for cheating.

What bothers me most about this is that sometimes, when the conversation about women cheating is brought up, some people, usually women, like to say that women are “smarter” cheaters than men because they are better at “covering it up”. I remember a conversation way back when I was in middle school where the class was talking about how Shaq’s wife was “smart” for cheating on him with a personal trainer because of the money she would get out of it.

No one ever calls a man smart for cheating on a woman! If a man cheated on a woman to get money out of her or cheated on her for a long time without her finding out, the last thing he will be called is smart!

I feel like that’s just another way for women to soften up their cheating.

I believe this is why I hear so many women defending and encouraging revenge cheating as well. Because even though it’s a waste of time and makes absolutely no sense, it gives women the excuse to cheat while still looking like the innocent ones. They wait for their partner/spouse to cheat first, then they go do it. If she’s cheating because her partner/spouse is cheating on her, she gets a pass! Everyone will sympathize with her.

Cheating is cheating, whether it’s done by a man or woman. NO ONE should get a pass for it. It doesn’t matter if other people are cheating on their partners or if one of their partners cheat on them. There’s NEVER an excuse for cheating! When women cheat, they are the same lying, cheating, unappreciative, backstabbing person they claim men are when men cheat.

This hypocrisy has to stop!