People are always throwing around the Bible verse, “Judge not, lest ye be judged”, saying, “Only God can judge me”, “Don’t judge other people”, “We don’t know their story”, etc.
Dr. King said he wanted people to not be judged by the color of their skin, but by the content of their character. I wholeheartedly believe that.
But all I’ve seen throughout my life is people doing the exact opposite of that. Not only do people judge others by the color of their skin, they judge others based on how much money they have, what kind of car they drive, how they wear their hair or their hair’s texture, what clothes they wear, where they live, rumors, how they look, their weight, their height, their body shape, their names—everything that isn’t someone’s character.
The crazy part is, the very same people who cry so much about how we “shouldn’t judge” are the main ones judging other people by these things. They will judge others harshly based on anything, even things that aren’t true, but judging someone based on something bad they did or making a bad decision they KNEW was wrong before they made it is where they want to draw the line at. I don’t get it.
The only reason a lot of people don’t like judging is because they don’t like when someone calls them out on their nonsense. If I see someone doing something that’s outright wrong, I’m going to judge them harshly. I don’t care what anybody says. I don’t feel sympathy for people who do bad things or have a bad character and the consequences of their bad character or the bad things they’ve done start biting them in the behind.
People’s hypocrisy is astounding and sad. From what I see, people don’t hate judging. In fact, they LOVE it. They just don’t want anyone to say anything about them.
I judge anyone who judges people by any of the things I named towards the beginning of this post, but turn a blind eye to people who do wrong by saying “Who am I to judge?”
If someone is mistreating their kids and always hitting them, I’m going to judge them.
If someone ends up having a child, knowing they didn’t want or weren’t ready to have a child, I’m going to judge them.
If someone chooses to be with someone who they knew was bad news before they got with them and later on down the line that person starts treating them badly, I’m not going to feel sorry for them.
If someone gets locked up for doing a crime they’re definitely guilty of, I’m not going to walk around saying “free” that person. I’m going to judge them.
If I see a person being mean and rude to everyone around them all the time, I’m going to judge them.
I’m going to judge anyone who is colorist, racist, abusive, sexist, homophobic, a rapist, and all of the above.
I don’t really care if people get plastic surgeries or not. But if the surgery gets botched or it goes wrong to where it’s causing them health problems, I’m not going to feel sorry for them because everyone has been told and warned about how they go wrong a lot of times and they got it regardless of the risk.
I don’t really care if women wear weaves and wigs or straighten their hair, but when they tell their stories about how they lost all their edges and hair because they wore them or straightened their hair too much and neglected their real hair for too long, I’m not going to feel sorry for them because everyone has been told and warned about what happens if we wear weaves and wigs and straighten our hair too much, especially if we neglect our real hair while doing it, but they did it anyway despite that.
I don’t really care about people who choose to sell drugs or prostitute for a living. But if they get killed, locked up, or caught up in some crazy mess because of it, I’m not going to feel sorry for them because everyone has been told about the consequences that comes with going that route, but they chose to do it anyway.
I’m not going to fall for people’s old sayings, using God, and guilt tripping that they use to keep people from calling them out. People want to do bad things and have horrible attitudes, but don’t want to check themselves. And they don’t want other people to check them either. Check yourself and maybe you won’t have to worry about anyone judging you.