Black People Being Overly Happy About Dark Skinned Couples In Hollywood

Many times on social media, I notice a lot of black people being upset about black people in Hollywood dating or marrying white people. I saw people upset and arguing about Serena Williams marrying a white man. I remember a few years ago, I saw a post on Facebook of black women berating O’Shea Jackson Jr. (Ice Cube’s son) because he was with a white woman. I see black people being mad when they see dark skinned black celebrities date or marry light skinned people as well. A few years ago, I saw a video of a black woman on YouTube berating Kendrick Lamar for having a light skinned girlfriend.

On the other hand, I see black people being overly happy when they finally see a celebrity dark skinned couple. Denzel Washington and his wife, Pauletta, Viola Davis and her husband, Julius Tennon, or any rapper with a woman who isn’t light skinned, for example.

I understand why they would be happy when they see these dark skinned couples, given the fact that we actually don’t see them as much in the media. But this shows that there are huge problems in the black community. And even though I noticed people being overly happy about dark skinned couples, I also noticed that people don’t talk about those couples as much as they complain about interracial couples or a dark skinned person being with a light skinned person.

The problems I believe this behavior shows about the black community is that there’s a lot of colorism, especially in Hollywood. I also believe that people shouldn’t give interracial couples more attention than the dark skinned couples, especially when there are dark skinned couples out there. I believe interracial couples getting more attention than dark skinned couples also stems from colorism.

Another problem I believe the black community has is insecurity. I believe that when black people see these interracial couples, it makes them feel like they’re not wanted by their own people, especially if they are rich or a celebrity. Seeing interracial couples causes insecurities in some people, whether they admit it or not. I don’t believe there were be so many negative reactions if it didn’t cause insecurities. Therefore, when they see dark skinned people, they feel happier.

We have to stop letting this bother us so much. If these people don’t want to date other black people, then let them stay with the other people. As the saying goes, “Let the trash take itself out”. It’s better for them to date out instead of them continuing to date their own people, knowing they have deep rooted issues with their own people. All they’re going to do is mistreat them.

It’s pretty sad that after everything our race has been through throughout history and everything our people have fought for, we still have these strong, negative issues about skin color. What’s worst is a lot of black people don’t want to talk about these things. They’ll talk about white people and racism all day long. But when it comes time to talk about how black people perpetuate hate amongst each other over skin color and many other things, they want to shy away from it.

A reader of mine told me about this and I’m glad this was brought to my attention. I really wish that there will come a day where all black people can say we defeated colorism and we no longer have these problems.

Black Women Blaming Black Men For Why They Don’t Wear Their Natural Hair

Many times on social media, I’ve seen black women say that they don’t go natural because black men don’t like natural hair. If one black man said something negative about natural hair on social media, that man would not only get dragged, but many black women would say, “That’s why we don’t wear natural hair” or “We wear weave and straight hair because black men like it”.

Another thing I’ve seen many times on social media is black women who actually do go natural, then say “black men don’t pay attention to me or compliment me when I wear natural hair”, so they go back to wearing weave or straightening their hair.

But on the flip side, when black men say they don’t like weave and they prefer women with natural hair, so many black women respond with “We don’t care what black men like or don’t like!”. Why is it that black women need all this attention and reassurance from black men, all of a sudden, when they wear their natural hair, but as soon as they wear weave or straightened hair, they don’t care what black men think?

I remember seeing a tweet some time ago where a black man said he didn’t like box braids and not only did black women respond with saying they “didn’t care what he liked”, they also posted pictures under his tweet with them in box braids out of spite to his tweet.

Why can’t black women do that when black men say something negative about their natural hair? Why do they all of a sudden care what black men think when they wear their natural hair? Why do they use black men saying something negative about natural hair as more of an excuse to wear weave and straightened hair, but when black men say something negative about weave and straightened hair, it doesn’t make them stop wearing weave or straightened hair?

Black women who use this excuse are full of crap! I’m sorry! Black men are not the reason you don’t wear your natural hair. Black men are not the reason you’re obsessed with weave and straightened hair. You’re not refusing to wear your natural hair because black men don’t like it. You’re refusing to wear your natural hair because YOU don’t like it! And you wear weave and straight hair, not because black men like it, but because YOU like it.

If you like wearing weave and straight hair, by all means, wear it. But STOP blaming black men for why you do it. Nobody is telling you to wear weave and straightened hair, but yourself!

This makes me think of how women of all races, not just black women, say that they wear makeup, dress in revealing clothing, and get plastic surgeries because men don’t pay attention to them when they don’t have makeup on, aren’t dressing in revealing clothing, or have their natural bodies. But as soon as a man says they prefer women without makeup and with natural bodies, want women to stop dressing in such revealing clothing, or women look better without makeup and surgeries, women say they don’t care what men think. Again, why do women care so much about what men think when they don’t have on makeup, aren’t dressing in revealing clothing, or don’t have surgeries, but when men say they don’t like those things when they wear them, all of a sudden, they don’t care what men think again?

Women get mad at men for saying they prefer how women look naturally because men busted their excuse. They love using men as an excuse for why they put so much unnatural things on and in their bodies for aesthetics and wear revealing clothing, but as soon as men say they don’t like all that stuff, women can’t use that as an excuse anymore.

The real reason women look for attention and reassurance from men suddenly when they wear their natural hair and go without makeup, dressing in revealing clothing, and surgeries is because they’re insecure with how they look naturally. They want men to give them more attention and reassurance so they can feel better. But when they wear weave, makeup, dress in revealing clothing, and get surgeries, their confidence is on 100%, so then all of a sudden, they no longer care what men think.

I’m sick of women blaming men for their choices. Wear weave, makeup, revealing clothing, and get surgeries all you want. But at least be honest and say you get them because YOU want to get them. Not because “men like it” or “men don’t like you when you don’t have it”. You prefer YOURSELF in weave and straightened hair. You prefer YOURSELF in makeup. You prefer YOURSELF in revealing clothing. You prefer YOURSELF in surgeries. You don’t get these things because men don’t like you without these things. YOU don’t like you without it.

Quit blaming that on men! Stop acting like you need so much reassurance from men when you’re in your natural state, then acting like you couldn’t care less about their reassurance when you’re wearing weave, straightened hair, makeup, revealing clothing, and plastic surgeries! Or quit lying and saying you don’t care about men’s opinions or their attention when you KNOW you do!