Black People Being Overly Happy About Dark Skinned Couples In Hollywood

Many times on social media, I notice a lot of black people being upset about black people in Hollywood dating or marrying white people. I saw people upset and arguing about Serena Williams marrying a white man. I remember a few years ago, I saw a post on Facebook of black women berating O’Shea Jackson Jr. (Ice Cube’s son) because he was with a white woman. I see black people being mad when they see dark skinned black celebrities date or marry light skinned people as well. A few years ago, I saw a video of a black woman on YouTube berating Kendrick Lamar for having a light skinned girlfriend.

On the other hand, I see black people being overly happy when they finally see a celebrity dark skinned couple. Denzel Washington and his wife, Pauletta, Viola Davis and her husband, Julius Tennon, or any rapper with a woman who isn’t light skinned, for example.

I understand why they would be happy when they see these dark skinned couples, given the fact that we actually don’t see them as much in the media. But this shows that there are huge problems in the black community. And even though I noticed people being overly happy about dark skinned couples, I also noticed that people don’t talk about those couples as much as they complain about interracial couples or a dark skinned person being with a light skinned person.

The problems I believe this behavior shows about the black community is that there’s a lot of colorism, especially in Hollywood. I also believe that people shouldn’t give interracial couples more attention than the dark skinned couples, especially when there are dark skinned couples out there. I believe interracial couples getting more attention than dark skinned couples also stems from colorism.

Another problem I believe the black community has is insecurity. I believe that when black people see these interracial couples, it makes them feel like they’re not wanted by their own people, especially if they are rich or a celebrity. Seeing interracial couples causes insecurities in some people, whether they admit it or not. I don’t believe there were be so many negative reactions if it didn’t cause insecurities. Therefore, when they see dark skinned people, they feel happier.

We have to stop letting this bother us so much. If these people don’t want to date other black people, then let them stay with the other people. As the saying goes, “Let the trash take itself out”. It’s better for them to date out instead of them continuing to date their own people, knowing they have deep rooted issues with their own people. All they’re going to do is mistreat them.

It’s pretty sad that after everything our race has been through throughout history and everything our people have fought for, we still have these strong, negative issues about skin color. What’s worst is a lot of black people don’t want to talk about these things. They’ll talk about white people and racism all day long. But when it comes time to talk about how black people perpetuate hate amongst each other over skin color and many other things, they want to shy away from it.

A reader of mine told me about this and I’m glad this was brought to my attention. I really wish that there will come a day where all black people can say we defeated colorism and we no longer have these problems.

Is Interracial Dating Abuse Being Swept Under The Rug?

A reader of mine brought to my attention that interracial dating isn’t always sunshine and rainbows like some black people make it seem like. I didn’t really know what to say about this. But this video I found on YouTube, which I will share at the end of this post, is perfect for what I needed to say here.

This video highlighted a story of a black woman finally coming forward about the abuse she suffered from her nonblack husband. The focus of the video is that nowadays, interracial dating is more promoted and glorified like they’re better than black relationships, but in a lot of those relationships, the black partner is dealing with abuse. And I’ve heard many stories about black people dealing with racism from their nonblack partner’s family or the nonblack partners themselves.

Now, I’m not using this video to discourage people from dating interracially. Because I’ve heard many stories about black women talking about the abuse they suffered from black men and vice versa. So in a lot of cases, black relationships aren’t always better either.

I honestly don’t really care about interracial dating to be honest. I just don’t like how black people are always so loud about the abuse they endure from each other. They can’t wait to share a story about a black man abusing a black woman or a black woman killing a black man and use these stories as an excuse to promote interracial dating, but when stories of racism, abuse, and murder happen with interracial couples, no one is saying anything because it goes against their agenda.

I want black people to start treating each other better. And I don’t want black people glorifying interracial relationships like they’re any better because in a lot of cases, they’re not. Check out the video below if you like and let me know what you think of it.

Why I’m Not Excited About The First Black BacheloretteĀ 

Rachel Lindsay is the first black bachelorette for season 14 of ABC’s show, The Bachelorette. Lots of people are very happy that The Bachelorette is finally a black woman. But, unfortunately for me, I’m not as excited as other people are about it. 

And I’m not excited about it for two reasons. The first being the fact that it took this long to cast one in the first place. The Bachelorette has been aired on ABC for FOURTEEN YEARS! It shouldn’t have taken that long to cast a black one if they really wanted to cast one. 

Also, I now realize that there is no reason to be upset that certain groups of people (in this case, black people) aren’t included in a show, movie, or whathaveyou because it is their show. They are supposed to cast their own people or whoever they want. Every other racial group that has TV shows, movies, etc., casts their own people and do it without a problem. It’s time for us black people to start doing the same and stop worrying about if and when white people will cast us in something they created. 

The second reason is because she will most likely end up choosing a white man. Most (if not all; my brother used to tune in and watch it. I never did, but he would tell me what was going on. And he only watched it because he’s a wrestling fan and one of the black contestants was a professional wrestler. After he was eliminated and there was only one black man left in the show, my brother stopped watching it and telling me about it. So, I don’t know if the last black man has been eliminated or not) of the black men have been eliminated. And my brother told me about how one of the black men on the show said that she hasn’t had any one-on-one’s with any of the black men, but she had them with plenty of the white men on the show.

I knew when I first saw her that she would be more likely to choose a white man. First, because she’s on ABC, a white owned network. Second, she’s on The Bachelorette, a white created show, with a bunch of white men. More white men than black. Plus, something just looked off about her. She gave me a weird vibe. Something about her made me think she would more likely choose a man that wasn’t black.

Now, I’m not against interracial dating. What I’m not happy about is that very few, if any, of the white Bachelors and Bachelorettes on the shows have chosen to be with a nonwhite contestant, especially a black one. But the one and first black Bachelorette we have has to be more likely to choose a nonblack contestant? That just doesn’t sit well with me. 

I had this same reaction with Disney’s movie, The Princess and The Frog. After all these years Disney has been around making movies and all these princesses they have created and they are finally creating a black one? And she, too, was with a nonblack man in the movie. How many of the white Disney princesses were with black men? Don’t worry. I’ll wait.

I find it odd that after years upon years of not casting someone black on a show, they finally do and they put them with someone who isn’t black, most likely a white person. That just doesn’t feel right to me at all. Something is very wrong with that. 

I feel that instead of us being happy that a white show finally casted a black person on their show after years upon years of being on air, we should stop waiting for them to cast us in their shows and create and be happy with our own shows. Let’s stop waiting on white people! No other group of people wait on other people to create something for them and neither should we!