Have you seen the movie, Friday After Next? Do you know of the scene where Damon (Terry Crews) tried to rape Money Mike (Katt Williams) in the bathroom while there was a huge party going on? How about Tyler Perry’s movie, I Can Do Bad All By Myself? Do you know of the scene where the (married) man April (Taraji P. Henson) was with in the movie tried to rape her niece in the kitchen in the middle of the night?
What was the difference between these two movie scenes? I’ll tell you. One was funny and the other was serious. To be more specific, the one with the man about to be raped was made to be funny. The one with a young female was made to be serious. If you really think about it, lots of movies are like this. If a man is attempted to be raped or sexually harrassed, it’s usually always funny. Rarely, if ever, is it portrayed as funny if a woman is attempted to be raped or sexually harrassed in a movie or TV show.
It’s pretty disturbing thinking about exactly how many movies and TV shows I have seen over the years, not realizing what they were making a joke out of.
I don’t mean to ruin these movies and TV shows for you guys because I know that’s what a lot of people will tell me in response to this. I know a lot of people enjoy these movies, but I’m just calling it how I see it.
Then, of course, there’s the “don’t drop the soap” joke about male rape in prisons. The fact that this is a joke is proof that lots of people are full aware of men getting raped in jails/prisons, but very little is being done about it and no one takes it seriously.
Why does Hollywood do this? Why does Hollywood make it funny when a man is being raped or sexually harrassed? Please, everyone. Be very mindful of what you watch on television! A lot of it is extremely toxic! It’s brainwashing! This is just one example. I will be pointing out so many more examples of toxic things being promoted in media on my blog in a lot of posts later to come.
This is one huge reason why so many people don’t take male rape seriously. If the media portrays it as a funny thing, then that’s what people are going to see and think of it as. I remember a conversation in high school where one of the boys said, “If a woman rapes you and you’re a man, you’re gay”. There was another one I remember where we were doing an assignment on making an autobiography about ourselves. One of the boys told a story about how he was only a teenager and he had already been shot, stabbed, and raped, and one of the other male classmates said he was gay.
If we don’t start taking male rape seriously, young boys and men will continue to be raped and very little will be done about it. Let’s not forget that rape is a very traumatizing experience. And you don’t have to be a rape victim to know this. What is a young boy or man supposed to do if he gets raped or sexually harrassed and people shame him if he tells someone? How can he deal with his pain and trauma?
A lot of times, as a society, we really don’t know what we’re doing, what we’re laughing at, or how things affect us. We just engage in it because we think it’s cool. We really need to be mindful of this stuff. This type of stuff is killing and destroying so many people. We have to stop and change this immediately.
My heart deeply goes out to all the boys and men who get raped and sexually harrassed by other men or women, but are shamed into not saying anything. The only way we can change this is that we as a society need to wake up and realize that it’s wrong and start doing something about it.
This news article completely proves my point.