Many times on social media, I’ve seen black women say that they don’t go natural because black men don’t like natural hair. If one black man said something negative about natural hair on social media, that man would not only get dragged, but many black women would say, “That’s why we don’t wear natural hair” or “We wear weave and straight hair because black men like it”.
Another thing I’ve seen many times on social media is black women who actually do go natural, then say “black men don’t pay attention to me or compliment me when I wear natural hair”, so they go back to wearing weave or straightening their hair.
But on the flip side, when black men say they don’t like weave and they prefer women with natural hair, so many black women respond with “We don’t care what black men like or don’t like!”. Why is it that black women need all this attention and reassurance from black men, all of a sudden, when they wear their natural hair, but as soon as they wear weave or straightened hair, they don’t care what black men think?
I remember seeing a tweet some time ago where a black man said he didn’t like box braids and not only did black women respond with saying they “didn’t care what he liked”, they also posted pictures under his tweet with them in box braids out of spite to his tweet.
Why can’t black women do that when black men say something negative about their natural hair? Why do they all of a sudden care what black men think when they wear their natural hair? Why do they use black men saying something negative about natural hair as more of an excuse to wear weave and straightened hair, but when black men say something negative about weave and straightened hair, it doesn’t make them stop wearing weave or straightened hair?
Black women who use this excuse are full of crap! I’m sorry! Black men are not the reason you don’t wear your natural hair. Black men are not the reason you’re obsessed with weave and straightened hair. You’re not refusing to wear your natural hair because black men don’t like it. You’re refusing to wear your natural hair because YOU don’t like it! And you wear weave and straight hair, not because black men like it, but because YOU like it.
If you like wearing weave and straight hair, by all means, wear it. But STOP blaming black men for why you do it. Nobody is telling you to wear weave and straightened hair, but yourself!
This makes me think of how women of all races, not just black women, say that they wear makeup, dress in revealing clothing, and get plastic surgeries because men don’t pay attention to them when they don’t have makeup on, aren’t dressing in revealing clothing, or have their natural bodies. But as soon as a man says they prefer women without makeup and with natural bodies, want women to stop dressing in such revealing clothing, or women look better without makeup and surgeries, women say they don’t care what men think. Again, why do women care so much about what men think when they don’t have on makeup, aren’t dressing in revealing clothing, or don’t have surgeries, but when men say they don’t like those things when they wear them, all of a sudden, they don’t care what men think again?
Women get mad at men for saying they prefer how women look naturally because men busted their excuse. They love using men as an excuse for why they put so much unnatural things on and in their bodies for aesthetics and wear revealing clothing, but as soon as men say they don’t like all that stuff, women can’t use that as an excuse anymore.
The real reason women look for attention and reassurance from men suddenly when they wear their natural hair and go without makeup, dressing in revealing clothing, and surgeries is because they’re insecure with how they look naturally. They want men to give them more attention and reassurance so they can feel better. But when they wear weave, makeup, dress in revealing clothing, and get surgeries, their confidence is on 100%, so then all of a sudden, they no longer care what men think.
I’m sick of women blaming men for their choices. Wear weave, makeup, revealing clothing, and get surgeries all you want. But at least be honest and say you get them because YOU want to get them. Not because “men like it” or “men don’t like you when you don’t have it”. You prefer YOURSELF in weave and straightened hair. You prefer YOURSELF in makeup. You prefer YOURSELF in revealing clothing. You prefer YOURSELF in surgeries. You don’t get these things because men don’t like you without these things. YOU don’t like you without it.
Quit blaming that on men! Stop acting like you need so much reassurance from men when you’re in your natural state, then acting like you couldn’t care less about their reassurance when you’re wearing weave, straightened hair, makeup, revealing clothing, and plastic surgeries! Or quit lying and saying you don’t care about men’s opinions or their attention when you KNOW you do!