Nicki Minaj Opens Up About Past Toxic Relationships

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Dear all of you beautiful souls.

A man who loves you does not:

1. Humiliate you on social media
2. Beat you
3. Cheat on you
4. Call you out of your name/put you down to lower your self esteem due to his own insecurities.
5. Hide his phone, passwords, where abouts, etc.

I rlly used to think love had to hurt. So I could never look down on anyone else. We are merely human. It’s not easy to leave. Especially in the world of IG where all ppl want to do is post relationship goal pics for clout & attention. A man should make you feel safe, not afraid

I remember being so afraid to speak cuz I never knew when that person would be in a particular mood and I could maybe say one wrong thing that would get me hit. So the diff you see in me now is that feeling when a woman feels lifted up, safe, appreciated & unconditionally loved.

But I first had to learn how to love MYSELF. 🙏🏾 if you wouldn’t let a man treat your mother, your sister or best friend like that b/c you LOVE them, then you wouldn’t let a man treat YOU like that b/c you love YOU. This isn’t about judging. We judge too much. Lift them up. 🙏🏾

When u see a woman in a toxic relationship, rather than laugh & say mean things, try to offer sound advice from your heart & root for her to learn her worth. We’ve all been there. I saw my parents fight & argue non stop & never divorce, so I thought this was normal behavior…

I saw these series of tweets Nicki Minaj posted yesterday. Although I loved them all and I loved the message she sent, I also thought in the back of my mind what would make her talk about this after all these years. I wasn’t the only one who thought something was up when she tweeted about this because I saw a few replies under the tweets of people asking if she was okay. In the tweets, she mentioned being in toxic relationships in the past and learning how to love herself.

For some strange reason, I honestly believe she only talked about this to justify her relationship with her current significant other, Kenneth Petty. He was convicted of murder and is also a registered sex offender. After learning this, many people dragged her for being involved with this man.

Not only is this man a past convicted felon and registered sex offender due to attempted rape, more of their story of getting together just sounds outright messy. Nicki said, once, that she cheated on a past boyfriend for him and how Petty beat him up. And I saw on a video Chrissie uploaded on YouTube (featured below) that he himself admitted to cheating on his partner for Nicki AND told his partner that he’s only with Nicki to get up on a bag. The story just sounds like a HOT MESS!

Although I personally don’t care who she’s involved with romantically, I think people have a right to feel some type of way for any woman to be involved with a man who has such a past and probably deserves the dragging. I feel like even more so, she has fans that love her and want what’s best for her. I don’t think some of her fans like seeing her being involved with this man.

I believe Nicki Minaj is fully aware of what people have been saying online about her being involved with this man. At first, she was going off on people criticizing her relationship on her podcast, Queen Radio. Now, I feel like she released these series of tweets looking for sympathy or trying to shift the narrative so people can think, “Oh, she’s happy. She’s with a man who loves her” instead of thinking, “She’s with a murderer and a rapist!”

Don’t think for one second that these celebrities aren’t reading people’s comments and social media posts. Just because they don’t respond to every single one or say nothing at all doesn’t mean they don’t read them. This is proof that celebrities DO read people’s comments AND care about what people say about them.

I believe Cardi B did this exact same thing this past week when XXL released an article talking about how fans believe Travis Scott’s album, Astroworld, should have won the Grammy for best album over Cardi B’s album, Invasion of Privacy.

She, too, put out a series of tweets talking about how hard she worked on the album even while sick and pregnant to defend herself and say she deserved the win.

On my album I showed different sides of me.From my intro talking about my pass. To living my best life inspiring people.Relationship songs while I was going thru my own relationship drama to shaking ass like Bodak & that ASS .Every song went platinum!

I did it all while I was pregnant.Throwing up, drowsy,terrible colds and in a rush to finish it so I can start doing music videos before I started showing .I spend 24 hours for months sleeping on a couch with my pregnant depressed ass in a studio .

I wasn’t even thinking of winning or even the Grammies. All I can think about was …everybody is disappointed in me,am I still going to have a career after this baby ? Is this album going to make me or break me ? I need to finish before I start showing .

All while I just separated from my long time manager.I had to get my husband to talk to my label cause I never had a relationship with them so we all came together to relocate me to Atlanta and Miami to finish my album before my stomach start showing.

When i kept seeing the certifications of the songs going gold or platinum I was so excited cause my husband was out here asking everybody for a feature on my behalf so the ones that said yes thank you from the bottom of my heart cause TRUST ME ALOT OF ARTIST SAID NO!

So when I won a Grammy for it I didn’t have no words to say but when I went home I started reminiscing on what I went thru during that period I was like YEA BITCH YOU DESERVE THIS SHIT !abd until this day my shit still charting .

Just like with Nicki’s tweets, I wondered why Cardi was tweeting this stuff as well. I believe she did this to shift the narrative from people saying, “She doesn’t deserve it!” or “Other albums were better!” to “She’s worked so hard. Maybe she actually does deserve her Grammy”.

I honestly feel like other albums were more deserving of the Grammy myself, but we need to learn that Grammys don’t always go to the people that deserve it most or worked the hardest. The Grammy committee gives the Grammy to who THEY feel like they want to give the Grammy to. It’s not about who WE or an other artist feels deserve it.

There are lots of amazing albums that weren’t even nominated that I’m SURE was way better than Cardi B’s. And I listened to her album. I liked some songs on there, but I wouldn’t say it deserved a Grammy.

These awards shows always have and always will be SHAMS! Many people have called this out in the past, but some of y’all called them bitter and jealous “because they didn’t win one”. Now y’all are starting to see it. It’s funny how it takes for someone y’all don’t like to win a Grammy before y’all admit to yourselves how fake and phony they are. But I digress.

Again, all of this tweeting that Cardi and Nicki are doing is just them looking for sympathy and/or shifting the narrative of the comments directed towards them. And I feel that people should NOT fall it. It’s all a game!

The Problem With Talking About Self Hate To Black People

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Azealia Banks Blames Black Men For Why Bodak Yellow Went #1

I’m sorry. Black industry men are too hype for this Latina girl. I’ve never seen them jump like this for Remy or Nicki. Spinning this ‘for the culture’ story when they are simply letting white men at Atlantic buy them into hating their own women… I wanted spicy Latina and she gave me poor mans Nicki. Charlamagne and black men in Hip-Hop should have gotten me, Remy AND Nicki a number one before they gave Cardi or Iggy one. But literally white guys buy black men away from black women and it’s soo cringe.

The moment Bodak Yellow by Cardi B topped the Billboard chart at #1, Azealia Banks responded with this post on her social media. I first saw it on a video by a YouTuber named Chrissie and she was addressing what she said.

At first glance, I thought it sounded like she was telling the truth. But now that I think about it, she really is trying to throw black men under the bus because Cardi B got a #1 Billboard song and not a black female rapper. She’s basically saying it’s black men’s fault Bodak Yellow went #1 on Billboard before a black female rapper did. It’s ridiculous, laughable, and disgusting.

At first, I thought Azealia Banks was a woman who’s just misunderstood and people just hated her because it’s cool and popular. After that B.S. I see now that the people are right. I don’t think anybody should take anything she says seriously at this point. And I feel bad for writing this because I really tried to give her a chance. I listened to a few of her songs and even though they weren’t my cup of tea, I still thought she had a great singing voice and was very good at rapping. But now, I think the things she says and does completely overshadows her talent. It’s sad that she’s known more for her antics and the crazy things she says when she really has talent. It’s a shame!

And I’m starting to believe that this is going to be a pattern for her. Whenever there’s a light skinned or nonblack female rapper who makes it to #1, she will always try to express this psuedo problack, anti-black man drivel that makes it look as if she’s speaking up for black women or black issues when she’s really just spilling her insecurities and hate for black men everywhere. She pulled this stunt with Iggy Azalea first. Now, she’s doing it with Cardi B. At this rate, I can almost guarantee that she will do this to the next person like them.

Getting deeper into why I think her comments are wrong, first of all, is blaming black men for Bodak Yellow being #1 is definitely misguided because 1) the music industry is white owned. White men own all or most of the major record labels. They control these artists and they choose what is hot and what songs should be pushed and promoted to be hits. 2) Cardi B’s biggest supporters are black women, not black men. She has way more black female fans than black male fans. When I skim through the comments under her videos and social media, most of the supportive comments are from black women. Black women are the main ones who like Bodak Yellow and are showing themselves on videos dancing to it or whatever. So, she needs to guide her comments to the white owned record industry and black women. (Don’t get me wrong. I don’t see anything wrong with supporting Cardi B. If you like Cardi B and Bodak Yellow, by all means continue to like it. I’m not antagonizing anyone who does, just to make things clear. I’m only showing that black men aren’t the reason for why it’s #1 and she shouldn’t try to jab them in the eye for it.) And Iggy Azalea went to #1 NOT because of black men, but because of the white owned industry and her white fan base. Black men do not care for Iggy Azalea like she thinks they do and they never did.

Her saying black men were more hype for Cardi B and showing her more love than they ever did for Nicki Minaj or Remy Ma is also wrong. I remember when Nicki Minaj first started to become popular in the Hip-Hop scene. Tons of black men were fascinated with her. Maybe not because of her music, but definitely because of her looks. Black men were always raging over how she looked and a lot of them still do today and have done for her way more than Cardi B. And Remy Ma may not be as popular as Nicki or Cardi B mainstream wise, but many black men have complimented her rap skills and listen to her and do so more than they do with Cardi B. So, that’s just extremely false. I feel like she just said this because Cardi B isn’t black.

But I do agree with her basically saying black female rappers are typically overlooked. There are tons of beautiful black female rappers who are amazing rappers, but they don’t get to be #1 on Billboard or popular at all and are always pushed aside for light skinned or nonblack women. But again, I don’t blame black men for this. I blame the music industry. The industry doesn’t look at talent and we can tell just by listening to most popular songs on the radio today.

There’s enough anti-black man stuff on the Internet and a lot of it isn’t even necessary. This just adds on to it. Her post looked as if she viewed black men as the enemy for Cardi B having a #1 hit song and probably wants other black women to view them the same. Her post came off as bitter and ridiculous to me. It also showed me she’s just a bedwench.

What makes this worst is that many black women will believe her and hate black men for this because it’s in to throw black men under the bus now and blame them for everything bad. It’a pretty toxic way to think if you ask me.

The Oversexualization of Women’s Bodies 

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I often wonder why so many people freak out whenever they see certain female body parts. I notice that many people have a lot to say when a woman is naked or dressed in revealing or tight clothing. I thought about the tribal women of some other countries who are naked or nearly naked most of the time. I feel like a lot of people don’t react to them the same way they react to women who are naked or dressed in revealing clothing here in America. Why is that? What is the difference between those women’s bodies and American women’s bodies? 

I believe so many people freak out about women’s naked bodies today because women’s bodies are extremely sexualized in this society. Many of those tribal women from other countries aren’t portrayed in that same manner. We are constantly bombarded with overly sexualized images of women’s bodies on the daily basis, whether it’s through strip clubs, pornography, magazines, TV shows, movies, or advertisements. They are all around us. Women’s bodies are depicted as something that is only used for sex or sexual satisfaction. So, when someone sees a woman’s body, that’s exactly what they think. They think sex and start freaking out. 

Women’s bodies are even sexualized long before they’re even adults. It starts when they’re little girls. I remember a picture I saw on Twitter where someone was calling out people who were commenting on a picture of Skai Jackson, saying things like, “Where’s her ass?” I’m thinking, she’s thirteen! Why are you worried about her body?! And I’m pretty sure a lot of those derogatory comments about her body were from grown men and that makes it even more disgusting! (Even if they weren’t grown men, that still doesn’t make it any better that her body is still being judged at such a young age.) I also remember looking at comments on Willow Smith’s “Fireball” video featuring Nicki Minaj, where people were wondering “where her curves were” because she was dressed in a body suit, and comparing her body to Nicki Minaj’s and wondering why her body “didn’t look like Nicki’s”. Willow Smith was eleven years old, I believe, at the time. So, not only were people comparing a little girl’s body to a grown woman’s, they compared her to a woman’s body that isn’t even realistic, being that we all know Nicki Minaj’s body has been surgically enhanced. And Nicki Minaj is even oversexualized herself, as we see how she is portayed on a regular basis! I also remember the comments geared towards Maddie Ziegler, the little girl dancing in Sia’s “Chandelier” video. The pedophilic comments coming from grown people just because she was in a body suit utterly disgusted me. Whether they were jokes or not doesn’t matter because even if they were, the fact that people think making pedophilic jokes about children is funny should tell everyone that there is something really wrong with this society! Everything isn’t a joke! Even shows like Toddlers & Tiaras look like they oversexualize little girls. The little girls are wearing makeup and dressed in over the top dresses and put on display for their looks when most of the girls on these shows are barely any older than ten years old. I also remember being in one of my seventh grade classes and the boys were comparing the sizes of the girls’ breasts in the class to the sizes of different fruits. I don’t think any girl in the class were older than thirteen or fourteen years old at the time. There are many other stories like this of people, young and old alike, talking about young girls’ bodies this way. It is disgusting and something should be done about it!

The oversexualization of women’s bodies is so bad that women are even shunned for using their breasts for what they are actually supposed to be used for. How many stories have we heard over the years of women being shamed or kicked out of places for breastfeeding?

All I want to know is, why is this happening? Why is this society so bent on sexualizing women’s bodies to the point where they begin targeting little girls? Why is it still being allowed or accepted, as a matter of fact?

I believe women’s bodies are being sexualized in this manner because this society is built on sexism. Women have been the victims of sexism for many, many centuries. We’re still looking at the residue and after effects of when sexist tensions were at its highest; when women couldn’t work certain jobs, when women couldn’t vote, when women couldn’t make the same wages as men on the same job, etc. We’re still looking at that and it hasn’t gone away.

Because I think the oversexualization of women’s bodies comes from a centuries-long battle with sexism in this society, I believe they’re trying to send a message saying, “Women are good for nothing more than sex and their bodies. And that’s all they should be used for”. And they start sending this message before they’re even teenagers.

A woman’s body is a natural thing and it should be viewed and accepted as such. No one should freak out just because they see a woman naked or dressed in clothes that reveal some skin. We have been conditioned to react to women’s bodies this way. It’s time to break away from that conditioning!