Nobody Cares About What Their Kids Watch On TV Or Listen To On The Radio

Ever since I was a kid, I’ve seen adults watch movies where people get brutally murdered in the most gory way you can think of in front of their kids. They would watch movies and TV shows where the actors say every curse word there is in front of their kids. I even know people who watch sex scenes in front of their children.

It’s the same with music. People will listen to songs about drugs and alcohol around their kids. They will listen to songs about sex. They will listen to songs calling women bitches and hoes, and each other niggas. They will listen to songs loaded with cursing. They never think anything of it.

It’s also the same thing with video games. They will let their kids play games like Call of Duty and Grand Theft Auto, where characters are cursing and killing each other, stealing, and making drug/alcohol and/or sexual references. But people think nothing of it. They think showing their kids that stuff is just fine.

Even if someone tells them that they shouldn’t let their kids listen to and watch everything, some of them will say, “You can’t protect your kids from everything forever! Eventually they will see it!” Or they’ll say, “They’re kids. They don’t know what they’re talking about in this song or movie!”

1) People who say this don’t realize how smart kids are. Kids know and notice more than people like to admit. 2) Even if the kids didn’t know the negative and inappropriate things going on in a movie or song, you as an adult know! And you know what they’re portraying and talking about is inappropriate! The fact that you know that and still put it in front your kids anyway is just proof that you don’t care what your kids see and hear.

But as soon as a woman makes a song about sex or shows some skin, all of a sudden, people care about what their kids see. For example, people have been complaining about how Cardi B’s music is “negatively influencing” kids since people first started knowing about her. They’ve been doing even more complaining since she released her song, “WAP”, featuring Meg Thee Stallion.

When people heard about how Cardi B doesn’t let her own daughter listen to her music, people complained and said, “See how she doesn’t let her daughter listen to her music, but she will make your kids listen to hers?!”

People really say that like it sounds good, but that’s really what every parent or guardian is supposed to do. If Cardi B can keep her child from listening to her own music, what’s stopping people from keeping their kids from listening to her music if they thought it was that bad? Just listening to one song of hers will tell you that her music isn’t for kids and isn’t even marketed to kids. So, why not just keep your kids from listening to music like hers? People really expose their own bad parenting with a full chest and don’t even realize it.

People only think music like hers is marketed to kids because that’s how much they allow their kids to look up to, listen to, and watch these music artists without setting any boundaries whatsoever. Just because you allow your kids to watch these inappropriate music artists doesn’t mean their music is for your kids.

Whenever Kim Kardashian takes a picture of her naked body and posts it to her social media account, so many people cry about their kids. “What if my kids saw that?!” “That’s not a good influence on kids!” It’s always kids, kids, kids!

Kids aren’t even supposed to be on social media, for one. Most, if not all, social media sites require everyone on it to be at least 13 years old. And even at that age, parents still have to watch what their kids are doing and looking at on these sites.

People rarely, if ever, say anything about all the male artists that make songs about sex and how they influence children with it. But everybody has something to say as soon as a female artist does it. They don’t care when men are doing it. They just don’t like it when women do it.

Or, let people see one gay couple on TV or a transgender person and, all of a sudden, people say, “Kids shouldn’t be seeing that! Stop pushing sexuality on children!” But a lot of parents out there are so afraid of their children being gay that they will push them to think about the opposite sex at really young ages, especially if they’re boys. These people have been pushing sexuality on their own children more than any gay couple in real life or on TV ever have.

The way I see it, a lot of people don’t care about what their kids see online or on TV or what they hear on the radio. Only when something offends these people do they all of a sudden care about what their kids are seeing and hearing. Seeing LGBTQ people or women talking about sex offends them. But instead of just saying that, they act like they’re worried about their kids.

Judging from what a lot of people let their kids watch and listen to and what they say themselves in front of their kids, I can easily say a woman’s naked body or an LGBTQ couple on a TV show or movie isn’t the worst thing their kids have seen. But they definitely act like it.

People’s carelessness and hypocrisy is a shame. Everyone has to care about what their kids are looking at and listening to. We wonder why kids are acting worst at younger and younger ages. There’s tons of reasons why that is, but letting them watch and listen to any and everything is only one, huge part of it.

Letting kids watch and listen to everything sounds like lazy and careless parenting. People are letting TV and radio raise their kids, then get mad when something happens on it that they don’t like. People only care about what they don’t like and what offends them. Them bringing up kids is a lie.

The TV and movie industry puts ratings on TV shows and movies (i.e., Rated R, PG, PG-13, G, Y, etc.) and radio bleeps out words on songs for a reason. They know certain things aren’t suitable for children. If that didn’t matter, they wouldn’t put those on anything. But a lot of people don’t even pay attention to those ratings or even know what they mean. If these industries know that certain things aren’t suitable for younger audiences, how come so many people out here with kids don’t?

Are People Actually Upset That Child Abuse Is Outlawed?

“They need to bring back whoopin yo kids ass!”

I hear people say this so much. People say this like everybody stopped whipping their kids. People DIDN’T stop. INCLUDING the ones who say this! Why would people ask to “bring back” something they never stopped doing? What do they really want to bring back? Child abuse? PUNCHING their kids? Hitting their kids with hard objects? This is exactly what a lot of people were doing to their kids and more before it was outlawed.

A lot of people say things and don’t realize what they’re saying. This is exactly what it sounds like to me— that people really want to bring back child abuse—when they say that.

I also think people know of and heard of all the studies that came out speaking against whipping and yelling at children and exposed the negative effects of it, but they don’t want to stop doing it. They want to go back to when scientists and psychologists weren’t studying that so much and exposing it so they can go back to doing it in peace.

I am anti hitting kids as discipline. I never understood why it was necessary. Whipping children with belts is one thing, but why do some people think they need to hit their children with something worst than that? Why is it so hard for people to discipline their kids without yelling or hitting them? People have to hit and yell at their kids to “discipline” them like they’re wild animals.

If anything, the constant whipping and yelling is more than likely why the kids are acting up. The studies said that—whipping children causes behavior problems, amongst many other things, but people who like doing that didn’t listen.

I’ve noticed that whenever people see a video of a child acting horribly online, they say, “This is why we whoop our kids!” But why do these people automatically assume that the child isn’t getting whipped by their parents? They don’t know that child or their parents personally.

Also, I’ve seen tons of horrible acting children who are always getting whipped, smacked, and yelled at by their parents. These people know that, too, which is why they feel like they have to do it so much. So, a child acting badly doesn’t always mean they aren’t getting whipped. That’s just people using other bad children as an excuse to justify why they hit theirs.

Another thing I thought of is some people probably don’t think whipping their children is working as well as they thought (Studies said that, too, but again, they didn’t listen). They’re realizing that their kids are still really bad no matter how much they hit and yell at them. So, they feel like they need to up the ante and hit their kids with something more. They wish laws would let them hit their kids with more than just a belt or switch.

When people say they wish the government would bring back beating children, it makes me think that there are some people out there who are actually upset that child abuse has been outlawed and the negative effects of hitting them in any way or yelling at them has been widespread news for decades.

Does Whipping Your Children Actually Work? 

I remember sitting with my family and catching a glimpse of an episode of Dr. Phil years ago and they were talking about how to discipline children. They brought up, instead of spanking your children and yelling at them, try just talking to them and not yelling. We laughed and dismissed that as “that only works for white kids”. We believed whipping and yelling to discipline children was the best way to keep them in line.

Years after that, I checked out a parenting book from the library to help my parents with my little sister. I saw it as a good learning opportunity for me, especially if I wanted to have kids of my own someday. The book mentioned not to spank or yell at your children as well. It reminded me of the Dr. Phil episode. And at that time, I was much more mature than before and much more open-minded. So, I didn’t dismiss it as “just being for white people” anymore. Instead, I asked myself, “Well, have you tried it?”

I noticed that after all that time of dismissing not to whip and yell at kids, I never tried it. My family and I were all raised to believe that whipping and yelling is the best and only way to go as far as discipline. Our parents used it on us. Their parents used it on them. And so on. And I’m sure none of them have tried not whipping and yelling at their children, either. So, I decided to try it.

One day, my little sister was outside playing with her friends. When it was starting to get late, I went to call her in. She started crying loudly and in front of everyone. She did this every time me, my parents, or my brothers tried to call her in. It didn’t matter if she was already outside with them for 4-5 hours straight and the sun was starting to set. She didn’t want to come inside until her friends went inside. I saw this as my opportunity to try this different disciplinary tactic. Instead of yelling at her to come inside, I calmly told her to come inside. Then, I told her she couldn’t play outside for a few days as punishment for not obeying the order to come inside. And it worked! She never cried after any of us called her in ever again.

I never yelled to give orders again, either. And I saw that she listened to me more when I didn’t yell than when I or any of my other brothers yelled at her. That’s when I started to observe other kids and how they act when their parents whip and yell at them. I noticed that the kids who get yelled at and whipped the most are usually the WORST acting kids!

I realized that all the sources that said spanking and yelling is ineffective, the Dr. Phil episode, and the parenting book I read that said it were all true. Whipping and yelling doesn’t work as well as we think it does. We just use it because it was used on us as children and it’s the only way we know how to discipline.

I’ve seen lots of people whip and yell at their children all day long. Whenever they whip and yell at their kids, they sit down and cry and be quiet for a little while, but eventually, they get up and start doing the same thing that got them in trouble the first time. I thought to myself, If whipping and yelling works, why do you have to do it so much?

People can argue that since the kids who get the most whippings are the worst acting kids, that’s why they’re always getting whippings. But after realizing that all the sources that says it’s ineffective are actually onto something, I’m surprised that it never comes across their minds that the kids are acting worst because of the whippings and yelling and never try something different. I read the studies that said that whipping and yelling at children makes many of them more aggressive. I believe the studies are true. I’ve confirmed them with my own observations.

I’ve heard some parents say that they try to talk calmly, but they won’t stop until they yell or whip the kid, but I found that that’s only because the child has gotten used to the yelling and whipping because they’ve done it so much.

As a response to the studies that say whipping and yelling at your children is ineffective, people say, “My parents whipped me and I turned out fine”. But I believe that just because you “turned out fine” doesn’t mean that the whippings worked. It just means you grew up and learned right from wrong from your own maturity and experiences. I think people say that to justify whipping and yelling because they don’t want to stop doing it and are thinking that they are an exception to the rule.

I’m reminded of a picture I saw on my Facebook timeline that had a picture of a belt with a caption that said something about how it helped them to “respect others”. Whipping doesn’t help anyone “respect others” at all. Your own maturity and learning experiences does. Tons of people have gotten lots of whippings as children and still don’t respect others as adults. It has nothing to do with getting whippings as a child. I think this is yet another excuse to justify whipping children.

People think that if you’re telling them not to whip or yell at your kids that it means to not do anything at all and let them do whatever they want. But saying not to whip and yell at your children doesn’t mean don’t do anything at all. It means try something different. Try something that’s more calming and less aggressive. There’s a difference between disciplining differently and not doing anything at all. You can still be firm and set rules without whipping and yelling.

For example, if your child has their toys lying all over the floor and won’t pick them up, instead of yelling and threatening, “PICK THOSE TOYS UP OFF THAT FLOOR BEFORE I BEAT YOUR (YOU KNOW WHAT)!”, calmly say, “Pick your toys off the floor, please.” If that doesn’t work, say (still calmly, without yelling, threatening, and whipping), “If you don’t pick up your toys, you won’t be playing with them for the rest of the night.” Then, if that doesn’t work, follow through, take the toys yourself, and don’t let them play with them for a while. Following through when you give an ultimatum to a child is very important because if you say you’re going to do something and don’t actually do it and you continue to do that, eventually, they will no longer take you seriously.

And try not to give punishments that are too harsh or too long. Those are ineffective, too. And the earlier you start with calm disciplining, the more effective it is.

I believe whipping and yelling at children doesn’t work because they only remember the pain and the fear and usually not the lesson, which is why they go right back to doing what their parents just whipped and yelled at them for later after the pain has gone away and after they’ve calmed down.

I think calmly talking to your children and putting them on punishment by taking a privilege or something they like away for a while does work much better and they behave much better because it gives them time to think about what they’ve done and learn from it.

And referring back to the beginning of this post where I said my family & I used to laugh at the idea of just speaking to kids and dealing with the situation in a calm way as “being for white people”. I hear a lot of black people dismissing not whipping their kids as “being for white people”. Why do black people think being nice to your children and handling situations calmly without violence as a bad thing? Why do we see it as something that’s just “for white people”?