Nobody Cares About What Their Kids Watch On TV Or Listen To On The Radio

Ever since I was a kid, I’ve seen adults watch movies where people get brutally murdered in the most gory way you can think of in front of their kids. They would watch movies and TV shows where the actors say every curse word there is in front of their kids. I even know people who watch sex scenes in front of their children.

It’s the same with music. People will listen to songs about drugs and alcohol around their kids. They will listen to songs about sex. They will listen to songs calling women bitches and hoes, and each other niggas. They will listen to songs loaded with cursing. They never think anything of it.

It’s also the same thing with video games. They will let their kids play games like Call of Duty and Grand Theft Auto, where characters are cursing and killing each other, stealing, and making drug/alcohol and/or sexual references. But people think nothing of it. They think showing their kids that stuff is just fine.

Even if someone tells them that they shouldn’t let their kids listen to and watch everything, some of them will say, “You can’t protect your kids from everything forever! Eventually they will see it!” Or they’ll say, “They’re kids. They don’t know what they’re talking about in this song or movie!”

1) People who say this don’t realize how smart kids are. Kids know and notice more than people like to admit. 2) Even if the kids didn’t know the negative and inappropriate things going on in a movie or song, you as an adult know! And you know what they’re portraying and talking about is inappropriate! The fact that you know that and still put it in front your kids anyway is just proof that you don’t care what your kids see and hear.

But as soon as a woman makes a song about sex or shows some skin, all of a sudden, people care about what their kids see. For example, people have been complaining about how Cardi B’s music is “negatively influencing” kids since people first started knowing about her. They’ve been doing even more complaining since she released her song, “WAP”, featuring Meg Thee Stallion.

When people heard about how Cardi B doesn’t let her own daughter listen to her music, people complained and said, “See how she doesn’t let her daughter listen to her music, but she will make your kids listen to hers?!”

People really say that like it sounds good, but that’s really what every parent or guardian is supposed to do. If Cardi B can keep her child from listening to her own music, what’s stopping people from keeping their kids from listening to her music if they thought it was that bad? Just listening to one song of hers will tell you that her music isn’t for kids and isn’t even marketed to kids. So, why not just keep your kids from listening to music like hers? People really expose their own bad parenting with a full chest and don’t even realize it.

People only think music like hers is marketed to kids because that’s how much they allow their kids to look up to, listen to, and watch these music artists without setting any boundaries whatsoever. Just because you allow your kids to watch these inappropriate music artists doesn’t mean their music is for your kids.

Whenever Kim Kardashian takes a picture of her naked body and posts it to her social media account, so many people cry about their kids. “What if my kids saw that?!” “That’s not a good influence on kids!” It’s always kids, kids, kids!

Kids aren’t even supposed to be on social media, for one. Most, if not all, social media sites require everyone on it to be at least 13 years old. And even at that age, parents still have to watch what their kids are doing and looking at on these sites.

People rarely, if ever, say anything about all the male artists that make songs about sex and how they influence children with it. But everybody has something to say as soon as a female artist does it. They don’t care when men are doing it. They just don’t like it when women do it.

Or, let people see one gay couple on TV or a transgender person and, all of a sudden, people say, “Kids shouldn’t be seeing that! Stop pushing sexuality on children!” But a lot of parents out there are so afraid of their children being gay that they will push them to think about the opposite sex at really young ages, especially if they’re boys. These people have been pushing sexuality on their own children more than any gay couple in real life or on TV ever have.

The way I see it, a lot of people don’t care about what their kids see online or on TV or what they hear on the radio. Only when something offends these people do they all of a sudden care about what their kids are seeing and hearing. Seeing LGBTQ people or women talking about sex offends them. But instead of just saying that, they act like they’re worried about their kids.

Judging from what a lot of people let their kids watch and listen to and what they say themselves in front of their kids, I can easily say a woman’s naked body or an LGBTQ couple on a TV show or movie isn’t the worst thing their kids have seen. But they definitely act like it.

People’s carelessness and hypocrisy is a shame. Everyone has to care about what their kids are looking at and listening to. We wonder why kids are acting worst at younger and younger ages. There’s tons of reasons why that is, but letting them watch and listen to any and everything is only one, huge part of it.

Letting kids watch and listen to everything sounds like lazy and careless parenting. People are letting TV and radio raise their kids, then get mad when something happens on it that they don’t like. People only care about what they don’t like and what offends them. Them bringing up kids is a lie.

The TV and movie industry puts ratings on TV shows and movies (i.e., Rated R, PG, PG-13, G, Y, etc.) and radio bleeps out words on songs for a reason. They know certain things aren’t suitable for children. If that didn’t matter, they wouldn’t put those on anything. But a lot of people don’t even pay attention to those ratings or even know what they mean. If these industries know that certain things aren’t suitable for younger audiences, how come so many people out here with kids don’t?

Are People Actually Upset That Child Abuse Is Outlawed?

“They need to bring back whoopin yo kids ass!”

I hear people say this so much. People say this like everybody stopped whipping their kids. People DIDN’T stop. INCLUDING the ones who say this! Why would people ask to “bring back” something they never stopped doing? What do they really want to bring back? Child abuse? PUNCHING their kids? Hitting their kids with hard objects? This is exactly what a lot of people were doing to their kids and more before it was outlawed.

A lot of people say things and don’t realize what they’re saying. This is exactly what it sounds like to me— that people really want to bring back child abuse—when they say that.

I also think people know of and heard of all the studies that came out speaking against whipping and yelling at children and exposed the negative effects of it, but they don’t want to stop doing it. They want to go back to when scientists and psychologists weren’t studying that so much and exposing it so they can go back to doing it in peace.

I am anti hitting kids as discipline. I never understood why it was necessary. Whipping children with belts is one thing, but why do some people think they need to hit their children with something worst than that? Why is it so hard for people to discipline their kids without yelling or hitting them? People have to hit and yell at their kids to “discipline” them like they’re wild animals.

If anything, the constant whipping and yelling is more than likely why the kids are acting up. The studies said that—whipping children causes behavior problems, amongst many other things, but people who like doing that didn’t listen.

I’ve noticed that whenever people see a video of a child acting horribly online, they say, “This is why we whoop our kids!” But why do these people automatically assume that the child isn’t getting whipped by their parents? They don’t know that child or their parents personally.

Also, I’ve seen tons of horrible acting children who are always getting whipped, smacked, and yelled at by their parents. These people know that, too, which is why they feel like they have to do it so much. So, a child acting badly doesn’t always mean they aren’t getting whipped. That’s just people using other bad children as an excuse to justify why they hit theirs.

Another thing I thought of is some people probably don’t think whipping their children is working as well as they thought (Studies said that, too, but again, they didn’t listen). They’re realizing that their kids are still really bad no matter how much they hit and yell at them. So, they feel like they need to up the ante and hit their kids with something more. They wish laws would let them hit their kids with more than just a belt or switch.

When people say they wish the government would bring back beating children, it makes me think that there are some people out there who are actually upset that child abuse has been outlawed and the negative effects of hitting them in any way or yelling at them has been widespread news for decades.

Should Paddling Be Allowed In Schools?

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I remember when I was very little that some of the teachers used to paddle kids who misbehaved in school. Nowadays, paddling has been outlawed in schools in most states. Currently, it’s legal in only 19 states in the U.S. As a child, I didn’t think much of paddling. I thought it was normal and that’s just what adults did to discipline misbehaved children. But now that I’m an adult, I’m angry that paddling was ever allowed in schools at all.

One major reason is because I don’t think adults should be putting their hands on children, especially children that’s not their own! The idea of adults hitting children never sat well with me. It makes me think of child abuse, even if it is just a couple of little taps.

And thinking back on how a lot of my teachers were when I was little, I think many of them got a rise out of hitting children and looked for any reason to do it. I remember some kids getting paddled for talking in class or coming back from the bathroom a few minutes late. Although I do think those types of actions need some type of disciplinary action to prevent it from continuously happening, I don’t think paddling a child for that is necessary. I think some school staff were just power hungry and needed to feel a sense of power.

The other reason is, I believe disciplining children should be the parents’ job and the parents’ job only. No one else should have to discipline your children for you. No one else should have to tell your children to be quiet, sit down, pay attention, come to class on time, listen to the teacher, and do their work. Your child should already know how to behave at school. Your child should already know to listen and do their work.

A friend of mine has very disobedient children and they always bring them around me. I always have to tell them to stop doing this and stop doing that. And since the children aren’t mine, I feel very uncomfortable doing that. I can only imagine how a teacher would feel dealing with these types of kids. If your child needs to be disciplined outside your home, either your disciplinary actions don’t work and you need to change it (or you have none and need to get some immediately) or your child may have a disorder and you need to check it out.

I also read an article that said black and disabled children are paddled in school more than any other children. So, I believe paddling may have some subtle racist undertones and/or adults having lack of patience with children. You need a TON of patience to deal with disabled (mentally & physically) children.

I believe that is a huge problem with many adults today. They have no patience with children. Children are still learning and growing. They require patience to help them grow to the best they can be. If you’re not patient when it comes to children, you shouldn’t work in a school or be a parent.

On the flip side, even though I don’t agree with paddling children, I understand why it was allowed. A lot of children are REALLY bad and disobedient. And a lot of parents send them to school for poor teachers and other kids to deal with, KNOWING those kids are bad! I’ve heard stories about teachers telling parents about their bad kids and the parents would either do nothing or get mad at the teachers like they’re lying. That is sad!

RAISE AND DISCIPLINE YOUR OWN CHILDREN! Stop putting your bad ass kids on other people! Deal with them yourself!

Scorned Mother vs. Abandoning Father

I caught D.L. Hughley’s radio show one day and the topic was, ‘Who hurts a child more, a scorned mother or an abandoning father?’ I don’t remember what any of the callers’ answers were on the show, but to me, it seems like this question is trying to shift blame from one parent to the other, so one parent will feel like they aren’t hurting the child more than the other.

A scorned mother and an abandoning father BOTH equally hurt a child. If it takes two people to make a child, it should take two people to raise a child.

A scorned mother can hurt a child by mistreating or abusing the child just because he or she reminds her of the father. They can also use the child as a tool to get back at the father for hurting them. They can do this by keeping the child away from the father when the father wants to see them or pushing the child onto the father when he wants nothing to do with the child. And they can speak badly about the child’s father and other men in general in front of them, which causes them to have anger, trust, and/or identity issues.

An abandoning father can make a child feel like it’s their fault that their father is no longer in their lives. They can make a child feel rejected and neglected, therefore lowering their self-esteem, and they can feel hostile and aggressive. They can develop a disdain for other men and male authority figures, which can cause them many problems as they grow up. The abandoning father can make their child feel the same emotional and behavioral problems as a scorned mother.

Both of these types of parents can cause behavioral and emotional problems that the child will carry with them well into adulthood. Both fathers and mothers have to step up to the plate and do a better job as parents because many times, lots of parents don’t realize the damage that their actions and choices are giving to their children. We have to stop trying to shift blame and trying to make one person feel more guilty for something when we’re ALL guilty.

A mother should never speak badly about their child’s father in front of them, never mistreat the child for what the father did, and never try to use the child as a tool to get back at the father. The same goes for fathers. And a father should always be involved in their children’s lives. If things don’t work out with the mother in a relationship, they should not make that child suffer by completely severing the relationship with them. There are ways a child can see both parents without the parents being involved with each other. A child should always have equal time around their parents, whether they’re still together or not.

People need to stop having children and doing this to them. It’s extremely damaging and unfair to them.