I remember about a year ago where Tank talked in an interview about how a man can have oral sex with another man and not be gay. I will share the video at the end of this post. But at the time, so many people were arguing and sharing how much they agreed or disagreed with his statement.
The people who agreed with his statement called the people who disagreed with his statement “homophobic” because they felt like people weren’t allowing them to explore their sexuality. Tank’s comments and these arguments made me realize that lots of people out there want to partake in homosexual acts, but don’t want to be called gay for it.
It’s not homophobic if a person calls someone else gay if they do or say a gay thing. It’s calling a spade a spade. If anyone is homophobic, it’s the people doing and saying gay things, but don’t want to admit that they’re gay. They are afraid of the label that comes with doing sexual things with the same gender. There’s a reason why they want to do gay things, but don’t want to be called gay.
And if you have to “explore your sexuality” to know whether or not you’re straight, then you’re not straight. You know if you’re straight or not! You know what you’re attracted to! You are part of LGBTQ if you feel like you have to question your sexuality. As a matter of fact, that’s what the Q in LGBTQ stands for—QUESTIONING (It also stands for QUEER). You might also be bisexual or pansexual.
If you want to explore your sexuality, fine. There’s nothing wrong with that. But at least be honest with yourself about it. Don’t say you’re a straight man when you just slept with or had oral sex with another man. Or say you’re a straight woman when you just slept with or had oral sex with another woman.
It’s a shame how people try to bend the definition of words to fit what they’re doing. If you’re strictly attracted to and sleeping with the same gender as yourself, then you are gay or homosexual. If you are attracted to and sleeping with people who are the opposite gender as yourself and the same gender as yourself, you are bisexual. If you are attracted to and sleep with people who are the same gender as yourself, opposite as yourself, and transgender, and the sexuality of a person doesn’t matter to you when it comes to who you’re attracted to, you are pansexual. If you strictly are attracted to and only sleep with people the opposite gender as yourself, then and only then, are you straight or heterosexual.
Everyone knows what these words mean. Stop acting like you don’t know and stop trying to twist and distort what it means. You lying to yourself about what these words mean doesn’t change what they mean.