Why Are People Afraid To Have Daughters?

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I’ve been hearing people say for years that they pray that they never have daughters because they’re afraid she will grow up to sleep with a lot of boys and dress in revealing clothing. As a matter of fact, I remember a particular conversation some girls were having when I was in middle school, where one of them said they didn’t want a daughter because they would be trying to sneak out of the house with boys and things of that nature, and other girls agreed with her.

This made me ponder, ‘Why are people so afraid of having daughters that they think about them being sexually active or what type of clothes they will be wearing before they’re even born, but no one’s ever afraid of having sons that grow up to beat, rape, and/or sexually harass women? I’ve never heard anybody say, “I never want a son because boys grow up to abuse women”.

So many people swear that their daughters will grow up to be a “whore” and live in constant fear of that with every passing year their daughters grow up, but nobody ever believes that their sons will grow up to be abusers, despite the fact that the number of women getting abused by men continues to remain high every year. I know a lot of people will say, “I raised my sons better than that.” Okay. You trust you raised your son better than to be an abuser, but you don’t trust your daughter’s sexuality?

Also, I believe it’s more likely that a boy will grow up to be an abuser or rapist than a girl will grow up to be the sexually active person so many people fear they will. I hate to say that, but hearing all these stories about women getting abused and raped by men makes me believe that.

Why are people more afraid of their daughters being sexually active and wearing revealing clothing than they are of their sons growing up to be abusers? Why does a girl’s sexuality have so many people in fear of having daughters, but men abusing women doesn’t make anyone afraid to have sons?

On the flip side, I’ve heard people say that they didn’t want to have daughters because of how many abusers there are in the world and they don’t want their daughters to go through that. Again, why does men abusing women make so many people afraid to have daughters, but it doesn’t make them afraid to have sons?

I believe this is deep rooted misogyny and sexism. And I believe when some people say they don’t want to have daughters because they’re “afraid they’re going to get abused”, they say that to make it seem like their fear of having a daughter is a good thing and isn’t deep rooted in misogyny.

The real reason you don’t want to have a daughter is because you hate girls and women. You’ve been brainwashed to believe girls are more difficult to raise than boys. The truth is people just care more about their girls because this society is built on controlling women, especially sexually. So much so, that they try to do it long before they’re even born. So many people out there don’t care about what their sons do. Their sons do whatever they want while they’re putting a microscope on their daughters.

And I’ve heard both men and women say they pray that they never have daughters because of both of these reasons, so I don’t want men and women coming under this post to point fingers at each other about who says it or doesn’t. I’ve heard a lot of women in my life repeat internalized sexist ideas.

So many people are so eager to control the sexualities of their young girls so much, but they never talk about how they’re going to control their sons from abusing girls and women as they grow up.

How are any of you more afraid of how your daughters’ sexualities might be than you are of your sons being abusers? How are your daughters’ sexualities more of a threat to you than your sons being abusers, harassers, and rapists? You’re more afraid of female sexuality than you are of violence. I will never understand that.

Who Hates Accountability More: Men or Women?

For years, I’ve seen men on social media talk about how women hate accountability. But judging by what a lot of men do, I see they hate accountability, too. You would think that by the way they pressure women about accountability, they would have no problem with accountability themselves. But that’s obviously and certainly not the case.

Whenever I see women talk about how men cheat on them or abuse them, there’s always men underneath there saying, “That’s just the men y’all deal with!” Instead of calling out these abusive, cheating men. Instead of NOT cheating and NOT abusing women, they tell women that it’s their fault for “choosing the wrong men”.

Men’s responses under posts where women are talking about sexual harassment and rape disgust me, too. Instead of listening to the message women are giving, they’ll act like they don’t know what counts as rape, sexual harassment or consent. Instead of NOT raping and sexually harassing women, they will tell women to “watch what they wear” or “watch how they act around men”.

I’ve even heard men say if women “armed themselves more” or learned some type of self defense, they wouldn’t get raped or sexually harassed. So, instead of NOT raping women and telling other men not to do it, they would rather tell women to be more dangerous, violent, and threatening. And what about little girls that get raped by grown men? Because that’s definitely happening all over the world! Men don’t just rape and sexually harass grown women. They get little girls, too. Are little girls supposed to have guns or know how to defend herself against a grown man?

I’ve been hearing men complain about women putting them on child support since I was a little girl. But if they took care of their children instead of impregnating multiple women and trying to run out on them, they wouldn’t have that problem. If they weren’t so quick to sleep with women without protection, they wouldn’t have that problem. Sometimes, I hear some men say that they do want to be in their child’s lives, but it’s the woman who keeps them away and put them on child support anyway for the money. That’s a fair argument. But when women say men do bad things to them, men tell them to “choose better men”. How come this doesn’t apply to them? How come they can’t choose better women? If they chose better women, they wouldn’t have that problem. …But they don’t want to hear that!

I see YouTubers like Derrick Jaxn and celebrities like Steve Harvey telling women what to look for in a man, how to attract a man, which men to avoid, and this, that, and the other. But none of these men are telling other men to change how they treat women. They’re always talking to women and telling women what to do. Why is that?

And if you ask me, I’m starting to think these types of men who are always telling women which men to avoid are the exact men women should avoid. I think a lot of these men are warning women about themselves when they do that, pretending that they’re talking about other men. And I think a lot of them don’t even realize that they are warning women about themselves when they do that because I think it’s something in their subconscious that’s doing that for them.

Men talk like they hate single moms soooo much on social media. They say that single moms ruin kids lives, but none of them talk about how they create single moms. If single moms are so bad, why do men keep creating them? A woman never gets pregnant by herself. Men who impregnate women and leave them are the ones creating single moms. They’re literally complaining about their own problem that THEY create, but try to blame women for it, like it’s just the woman’s fault. Stop impregnating women you don’t want kids with. ….But they don’t want to hear that!

It sounds to me that men hate accountability just as much as they claim women hate accountability, especially when it comes to disrespecting and abusing women. They always have an excuse for why they do things that they aren’t supposed to. Men hating accountability is also why they put the blame on women for so many things that they do. This is why they want women to “choose better men” instead of BEING BETTER MEN.

I believe this is why they pressure women with accountability so much anyway. Men hate accountability so much, that they want women to be more accountable for their actions than men are for theirs, so they won’t have to be accountable for theirs. If women are more accountable than them, they don’t have to worry about being accountable for what they do—that’s what I feel like men are saying when they talk so much about accountability to women.

I believe this society was built and is run by people who hate accountability, particularly men and that’s why so many people in this society hate it. So if you ask me, I think women hate accountability for their actions and so do men. Men are NOT more accountable for their own actions than women, no matter what they say!