It’s Not Because You’re Dark Skinned; You’re Just Ugly

This is another excuse people use to dismiss colorism. When a dark skinned person talks about how people have treated them poorly because of their dark skin, people will respond with saying, “It’s not because you’re dark skinned. You’re just ugly”.

The issue I have with this saying is that people say it like that makes what they’re doing any better. Disrespecting, mistreating, overlooking, discriminating against, and looking down on a person because of how they look is just as bad. Hating someone over something they can’t change is bad.

Mistreating someone because of how they look is like any other type of discrimination, like racism and sexism. But because discriminating against someone for how they look doesn’t have a name or movements of activism behind it like racism and sexism does, for example, people don’t think there’s anything wrong with it.

Also, there’s more to colorism than passing a dark skinned person up in the dating department. A lot of people try to reduce colorism to just that. But colorism is really about discriminating against and disrespecting someone just because they’re dark skinned. I see that happening way too much for me to sit here and act like it doesn’t happen.

Secondly, I think this saying is not only an excuse, it’s also another lie amongst the many lies people have when denying colorism. If people didn’t have any issue with dark skin, why are there so many names and words out there that are used specifically to insult people with dark skin? If it’s never about someone being dark skinned, then those words and names wouldn’t exist. Yet, they do. And people use them ALL. THE. TIME.

The people who have been mistreated because of their dark skin can tell you all the names they’ve been called all their lives. If it was just about someone’s looks, they’ll just comment on their looks. But instead, not only do they comment on their looks, they have to insult their dark skin, too.

You ever wonder why there’s barely any dark skinned stars in Hollywood, especially dark skinned female stars? And if there are, they most likely are always playing derogatory roles or “fight the power” roles? It’s because a lot of people in this country, black and nonblack, are highly colorist and racist and hate seeing dark skinned people. Yet, they love denying it constantly. Proof of colorism has always been in our faces. People just don’t like accepting or admitting to it.

Author: mysparkingthoughts

I am a young woman with a whole lot to say. I see myself as some type of messenger.

18 thoughts on “It’s Not Because You’re Dark Skinned; You’re Just Ugly”

  1. @mysparklingthought
    I wonder how many black men & women really do have loyalty to blackness. I’m talking about how many haven’t been manipulated into interracial dating & sexing as well as homosexuality.

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      1. @mysparklingthoughts
        I have heard too many black people stated if they date out it wouldn’t be a white man or woman but another non black people of color. What they fail to realize non black people of color can be just as racist. Not only that black people will make a justification of saying they have come across colorist black families. But end the end they still fail to realize other races have anti-blackness feeling about our people. Like you mention in other posts blacks people want non blacks people acceptance at all cost. Many of our people have been hurt by another black person so finding non black acceptance is their only option.

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      2. @mysparklingthought

        I would love for you to do a blog on this topic biracial children with non black parents give their experience growing up with a racist parent or never being taught about blackness in the household by the black parent. I have seen several videos of biracial children with non black mothers give their experience growing up. These children are a mixture of two different cultures many are having a identity crisis but at the end of the day the black community will be the dumping ground for this confusion. The more I see these videos the more these unions isn’t about love but for selfish reasons on top of that with self hate.

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  2. @mysparklingthoughts
    Have your ever paid attention too all these different food fetish flavors we give ourselves when describing skin complexion from chocolate , yellow bone, red bone, caramel and etc.

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      1. @mysparklingthougts
        That’s because black people have an obsession with skin complexions.

        “ I’ve also noticed that people love to say “you look like a man” which is the go to insult for darker skin black women as well.”

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      2. Yes. I hear people saying that to dark skinned women a lot. I don’t know why dark skin is seen as masculine. I guess people are more accepting of dark skin on men than they are with dark skin on women. Black people are definitely obsessed with skin tones and they keep acting like they don’t when they get called out on it. I’m tired of it.

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      3. @mysparklingthoughts
        We have black people claiming they are mixed with all these other races but can’t find none of these non black family members as of today in their family. Every time they mention about a non black family member it will always be a great great relative from slavery time.

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      4. Right! I hate that! I’m sick of hearing black people do that. And I hate how black people call mixed people “black”, but call themselves “mixed”. It’s like black people don’t want to be black and they don’t want mixed people to be mixed.

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  3. We live in a white supremacy hierarchy so everything white will be on top while everything black will be at the bottom. Colorism in our community is nothing more then self hate, being attractive to someone in your own race is a natural instinct. If you don’t find the opposite sex in your own community attractive then something is mentally wrong with that person. Also that person is basically saying other races can create better looking people then my own race. Furthermore a black person that suffer from colorism don’t value blackness so anything closer to white will be value more. The truth about our people culture & history non black people don’t want to get out. Keeping us in a ignorant state of mind will keep us from gaining power.
    P.S. black Africans around the diaspora are the only race people that look totally different from everyone else especially our hair.

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  4. We live in a white supremacy hierarchy so everything white will be on top while everything black will be at the bottom. Colorism in our community is nothing more then self hate, being attractive to someone in your own race is a natural instinct. If you don’t find the opposite sex in your own community attractive then something is mentally wrong with that person. Also that person is basically saying other races can create better looking people then my own race. Furthermore a black person that suffer from colorism don’t value blackness so anything closer to white will be value more. The truth about our people culture & history non black people don’t want to get out. Keeping us in a ignorant state of mind will keep us from gaining power.
    P.S. black Africans around the diaspora are the only race people that look totally different from everyone else especially our hair.

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  5. You said it. Apparently, being “dark-skinned” is supposed to be a crime. My own mother is a colorist just as her mother was a colorist and she treated us according to our skin complexion. For instance, my youngest sister, who was the lightest of us three, was always specially treated and it was not just because she was the youngest. She could do NO wrong even though she was stealing, drinking, smoking, skipping class and doing all types of mess that would have gotten me tore up. My mother ALWAYS blamed her behavior on someone else; her friends, her acquaintances, the mailman, the paper boy, but because my sister was deemed ‘light-skinned’, she got a pass.

    My mother doted on my baby sister to the point whereas she was not only spoiled rotten, but when she couldn’t kick her crack habit and was sent to rehab, she was still allowed back inside the home, where she promptly stole money and jewelry and used it to buy drugs, suffice it to say, she’s dead and I do believe that because of ‘colorism’, which meant, ‘favoritsm’, played a huge role in the development or lack thereof of my sister’s character. I have long since stopped speaking to my mother; both me and my other sister, who was the darkest of us. My mother treated her horribly and still would to this day if she came around her. She barely tolerated me, but since I was just a little bit lighter than her, she’d just get digs in at me until I finally got fed up and stopped coming around her altogether.

    This is another reason why I stopped blogging; because Black people will never get over this nonsense and since we most definitely will not, we will continue to fall and to fail and I got tired of basically preaching to the choir and repeating myself.

    But, still, this was a great blog and thank you for sharing this truth.

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    1. Thank you so much. It’s sad your mother was like that. That’s the saddest part about colorism in the black community. A lot of times, the first colorist comments and negative treatment dark skinned people get come from their own family members. I had two cousins. One was dark skinned and the other was light skinned and my light skinned cousin always made derogatory remarks towards my dark skinned cousin. And yes, like you said, black people are never going to get over this mess. Shame.

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